Search results

I'm back people. :D Had to make this post to affirm myself to the 60 day NC challenge. I'm not going to get into it - oneitis that is pointless. Yet still have to go through all the feelings and all that crud. Thank god NC does cure it, eventually. Not having any new info about your interest...

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Mauser96 again.

ImprovingJuan, I understand how you're feeling, because I've been there. For the following short story, I would consider myself decent in all attributes. I was doing a pub crawl with a group of people, towards the end/night part. I was leaning against the side railing in the club, literally...

Bleh, that's disgusting. My mind is going 'WTF' over how she could think that's anywhere near acceptable. The only decent answer I can think of is for him to take a female friend out for dinner, be innocent about it, and just watch the GF rage over that 'injustice'. Strong motive to dump her...

Then get the **** out and do just that then. This guy needs to be banned, agreed.

Yeah, I definitely agree with these guys. I forget exactly where I read on here, great advice about texting, and it struck a chord with me. Basically, as I remember - every time you send a text out to her, it reveals your position to her, much like a sniper. Each text subtly tells her more...

Worst idea ever. People are rarely motivated by money alone. To perform adequately, sure. To excel at it, it requires more from the inside. You should put in the time for improving yourself and your internal skills and internal motivation. Faking up all the popularity, even looks and money...

Depends on how you guys broke up, what happened leading up to it, if you handled it coolly/begged,yelled,pleaded, if she jumped onto someone else, etc.

It's good that you don't know this girl's bf personally. It makes it 'better', if not still wrong on some level. If it's her that's pushing for the cheating, then the onus is on her. So under those circumstances... sure. If you can deal with it inside yourself as well. The other thing is...

I think Harry has some good advice, definitely worth reflecting back on to see if there was those factors, with any subtle shifts on her part before the poem conversation. No problem about the reply, glad it was helpful. I think it's good that you're willing to reflect and learn for yourself on...

17 more threads about the same thing should do it. Troll is right.

It's not necessarily a bad thing. You avoid wasting more time on someone who is unsure about their feelings - ie, they're not ready to date you. Just like she said. If she did or does like you, once she gets the sense that you have moved on - then she may reach out and see why. It's important...

I'd go with option 2, and generally improve yourself. There are many more benefits to improving yourself than just looking more attractive. You gain self-esteem, self-respect, confidence in your strength of abilities. It's something that carries you throughout your daily life. And you're...

I can see a few things here in your post. "honestly admitted that I avoid Shakespeare & all his other literary friends like the plague – strike 1 - & I mentioned I’m not British – strike 2." - I don't think a normal guy would find either of those critical strikes. Sure, it's a shame you don't...

Sounds like she was just having fun being a ****. Yes, they were busting your balls, and probably just in fun to them. But they were pressing that same 'fun' button over and over and over. Probably more in awkwardness in themselves and not knowing what to talk about. For yourself, just like...

Trust your gut, it's your instincts kicking in. Your sub-conscious is probably picking up on signals that your conscious isn't. I'd say use logic to back it up, and investigate. Your gut is your best friend in nearly everything. Just not to confuse it with other feelings.

Sounds like you have a pretty accurate self reflection, for the most part. I will say though, this does not seem like it's your fault. I will repeat that for emphasis. Not your fault. I don't know what the conversation was like when she found the poem, but I'm sure a form of explanation was...

Well, I hate to say it, but I think this is a lost cause with this girl. The opportunity was had at the club, when she was getting physical and drunk around a guy she doesn't know very well (you). Part of it (and it takes practice) is listening to a girl and what she is saying. "Sex is very...

Yup, sounds like it went well. I think it's not a bad thing you didn't get her number - this is all about establishing the familiarity between you two. Not doing the muscle grab is fine too. You two have known each other for years - and have not talked for a long time either. It would have shown...

Yes, it's a very bad sign. May have nothing to do with you at all. It just seems like she has not let go of her ex. Further, she is being blatantly disrespect to you bringing him up (only exception I can think of is of abuse), but it's highly inappropriate. And she's still hanging out with him...