I am writing this in the hopes of possibly getting some hints as I can’t find much, TRULY, helpful ones elsewhere.
I came across this guy online & we’re set to meet for the first time at some point soon-ish.
Attractions of both parties were confessed at the first few instances. Especially after revealing face & bod pictures. However, his interest seemed to have waned a little bit, after a fairly lengthy epistle coming from me, which I find excruciatingly confusing. Yes, the ‘casuality’ of it all has been established fairly early on & the need was mutual (we’re both not looking for anything substantial or ‘heavy’). So, the main question I suppose is, how can I get the horse back on the right ‘casual’ track, seeing that he must’ve already seen me as a clingy, needy, unsophisticated child from said long email?
It came to a point where he sent me a text message saying that his email was hacked & that I shouldn’t send any more mails unless he gives the green light. To which, I replied with ‘roger’ & nothing more. I took the cue as, a confirmation that he was no longer interested. In which case, problem solved, story ends. & I’m ok with that.
But, wait! There’s more!
Several hours after, he came back & sent a text saying email’s back up & he even made a subtle match to my military jargon – which I took as, another clue that we could potentially connect fairly well.
Basically, long story short, I’m dying here & I’m desperate for help!
The guy in question, is ridiculously sophisticated to the point that I highly suspect that he has a degree from either Oxford or Cambridge. He’s the kind of guy who’s formal for fun. For some peculiar reason, I suspect he expected the same from me seeing that I like to use a formal undertone when I write. Anyway, said culprit (the long email from me), honestly admitted that I avoid Shakespeare & all his other literary friends like the plague – strike 1 - & I mentioned I’m not British – strike 2. Probably irrelevant information there, but to paint a picture, he is quintessentially someone who would be seen within the Queen’s court on a regular basis. I was born with stars & stripes on my shoulder too, don’t get me wrong, but I’m not Brit so doesn’t count for people like them, simply put.
ANYHOOO, the main issue reeeeally is, he still keeps coming back every now & again after I’ve completely accepted my place & became at peace with my non-existent chance. Is there a line I’ve crossed with regards to my honesty? How does one keep the mysterious, dark, brooding, sexy, image while being able to be true to form? He keeps me incessantly guessing (& waiting), should I do the exact same? I know guys like him are perpetually wary of clingy women so I can’t safely say I particularly am (I actually can’t stand clingy boys). I have a tendency to be cold & detached, naturally, so I took the opportunity to explain honestly in the past email that I did ACTUALLY like him despite my usual curt & cold text messages (he’s not always alone & I’m a ridiculously extremely private person). Is there some kind of a guideline on how to deal with these types of men on the first few weeks of dating/contact? The sexual chemistry & understanding of the entire situation is clear on both sides, as far as I’m aware. But what’s with the crazy mixed signals?
Also, if anyone bothers to answer my issues above, & if ever I actually meet this guy, is there anything I can give him on the first date/meet that says ‘thanks for agreeing to meet/share your time’ but hides the hidden message that I like him in a way that is not over the top? I would have gotten him a pen he can use for work with a historical background perhaps, because of our mutual liking for history, but not too sure if that would make me look far too stalkerish. I’m stuck on a small, expensive box of chocolates & a friend suggested a bottle of red wine named ‘desire’, so far. Any more suggestions? Please? Pretty please??
I came across this guy online & we’re set to meet for the first time at some point soon-ish.
Attractions of both parties were confessed at the first few instances. Especially after revealing face & bod pictures. However, his interest seemed to have waned a little bit, after a fairly lengthy epistle coming from me, which I find excruciatingly confusing. Yes, the ‘casuality’ of it all has been established fairly early on & the need was mutual (we’re both not looking for anything substantial or ‘heavy’). So, the main question I suppose is, how can I get the horse back on the right ‘casual’ track, seeing that he must’ve already seen me as a clingy, needy, unsophisticated child from said long email?
It came to a point where he sent me a text message saying that his email was hacked & that I shouldn’t send any more mails unless he gives the green light. To which, I replied with ‘roger’ & nothing more. I took the cue as, a confirmation that he was no longer interested. In which case, problem solved, story ends. & I’m ok with that.
But, wait! There’s more!
Several hours after, he came back & sent a text saying email’s back up & he even made a subtle match to my military jargon – which I took as, another clue that we could potentially connect fairly well.
Basically, long story short, I’m dying here & I’m desperate for help!
The guy in question, is ridiculously sophisticated to the point that I highly suspect that he has a degree from either Oxford or Cambridge. He’s the kind of guy who’s formal for fun. For some peculiar reason, I suspect he expected the same from me seeing that I like to use a formal undertone when I write. Anyway, said culprit (the long email from me), honestly admitted that I avoid Shakespeare & all his other literary friends like the plague – strike 1 - & I mentioned I’m not British – strike 2. Probably irrelevant information there, but to paint a picture, he is quintessentially someone who would be seen within the Queen’s court on a regular basis. I was born with stars & stripes on my shoulder too, don’t get me wrong, but I’m not Brit so doesn’t count for people like them, simply put.
ANYHOOO, the main issue reeeeally is, he still keeps coming back every now & again after I’ve completely accepted my place & became at peace with my non-existent chance. Is there a line I’ve crossed with regards to my honesty? How does one keep the mysterious, dark, brooding, sexy, image while being able to be true to form? He keeps me incessantly guessing (& waiting), should I do the exact same? I know guys like him are perpetually wary of clingy women so I can’t safely say I particularly am (I actually can’t stand clingy boys). I have a tendency to be cold & detached, naturally, so I took the opportunity to explain honestly in the past email that I did ACTUALLY like him despite my usual curt & cold text messages (he’s not always alone & I’m a ridiculously extremely private person). Is there some kind of a guideline on how to deal with these types of men on the first few weeks of dating/contact? The sexual chemistry & understanding of the entire situation is clear on both sides, as far as I’m aware. But what’s with the crazy mixed signals?
Also, if anyone bothers to answer my issues above, & if ever I actually meet this guy, is there anything I can give him on the first date/meet that says ‘thanks for agreeing to meet/share your time’ but hides the hidden message that I like him in a way that is not over the top? I would have gotten him a pen he can use for work with a historical background perhaps, because of our mutual liking for history, but not too sure if that would make me look far too stalkerish. I’m stuck on a small, expensive box of chocolates & a friend suggested a bottle of red wine named ‘desire’, so far. Any more suggestions? Please? Pretty please??
