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I don't know what she's thinking or the situation persay, but perhaps invite her along to join you on one of the times. Even if she declines, it'll reassure her in a number of ways 'He wants me to be with him. He can't be cheating if he's wanting me to come with him'.

'said everyone in her building hates her as she punches/bangs her head against the walls in her room at night and screams etc constantly ' *passes out popcorn to all the members reading*

I wouldn't blame yourself for responding. She called, she was coming to you. She was playing the sympathy card of 'I'm suicidal, care about me'. And guess what - if someone was suicidal, it's 100% normal to be concerned about them during and after. Especially when you care and have history with...

The play is recognizing how dependent your feelings of happiness and stability rests on her responding to your text or not. Try to get yourself to a place where you give no ****s about her - because this one action/inaction of hers is having this much influence on you. All you're doing is...

Stop applying the logic that works with 99% of people, and start realizing that she's programmed with a whole different set of logic just for her. She may breath and look like most humans - but the underlying circuitry is ****ed up. This is not bull**** the guys here are throwing at you. This...

Hang tough. I've found it gets a bit harder around the third week, as it clicks in that it's actually happening. I was out doing a day trip with friends around that time, and I was just focused on the anxiety or whatever during it. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself. All of that...

Just try to realize that how you're feeling is normal. Especially with these types of women (intense attention to you, making you feel great, then sudden withdrawal - like you don't even exist). It's psychological manipulation, and it's one they probably don't even realize they're doing. Like...

One thing I've done just now that seems to have helped, is going through a pretend goodbye scene in my head with her. Significantly helped it seems. Saying whatever I wanted to say to make amends, wish her well, etc. . I know it sounds kind of corny or wimpy (and obviously wouldn't do it in real...

It's kind of weird, but I think the best way to get back at her is to remain NC. She has no idea what you're thinking, what your reaction is. That up and down nagging of 'Does he hate me? Is he sad? Is he just moving on like I didn't even matter either?". That last one is probably the most...

Can't say that's true. Knew a girl who was living with her parents, they were fairly well-off... she ended up being part of two different schemes siphoning money from the stores she worked at (as assistant manager). First time, manager got caught... second time, she was literally bragging about...

Looking forward to your story in a few months time, titled "I fell for one borderline, and willingly fell for another, knowing she was a borderline".

You need to establish a life for yourself outside of this girl. In a normal relationship, it is unhealthy for either person to not have anything going on outside of their love interest or SO. This chick is extremely unhealthy for you, she's all over the place emotionally. She's texting love to...

Go to the gym. Get some social hobbies. Live for yourself first, women whatever place after. Women want to attach to a guy's life, not be their life.

I find this is usually the point where guys go "Oh, this forum actually knows what they're talking about! My situation is not a unique butterfly". Hopefully anyway.

Remember guys, that it's two words working together, not taken separately. In my opinion, abundance mentality - is having the outlook that you can survive without a given woman in your life, and that you will include or find an equal or better woman to take her place, should things go south with...

I wouldn't take it personally. They can be f**cked in the head and it's outside normal response levels. This girl (above) was pissed at me because I hung out with two other girls and a guy, gave me the silent treatment. Didn't mention much about the hang out except generally saying stuff about...

This is the quote you need to tell yourself to remember. This thought process does not happen in healthy relationships (and it's good you already seem to recognize that). Your body is going "This is ****ed up". Personally, I don't think the trade of getting laid is worth in exchange for total...

Easy way of looking at it. A girl (or guy) who has real interest will forgive and try to bring the relationship together. Likewise, with no interest (or looking for an out of the situation) - will sabotage or push the relationship away. She said 'It's over'. Let her be the one to take her words...

"Now she's on a plane to Ireland with a different guy hahaha." This is all you have to remember. Of course she's going to say it's rude to 'ignore her'. She's working on two guys at once - you and that chump. In my opinion, she's thinking that it's acceptable to draw on two guys at once. Most...

I think what you're feeling is normal. You're correct in some aspect that by posting here, it will keep it at the forefront in your mind. I think this is good at least in the beginning, as you do need to process and 'settle' for yourself what has happened. So you can eventually say to yourself...