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Day 60 now. I think working through the feelings rather than suppressing it helped quite a bit. Fairly content to continue NC forever. Still some regret over the good times had, but that is life after all. Would be extremely surprised if I heard from her ever - she has a lot of pride, also tends...

Bravo to you for handling it the best way you can. Personally, I don't think it matters so much on who did the dumping. Rather, I think it's how you react in either case (non emotional, calm, decisive vs whining, crying, angry, etc.). I also think, at least in the long run, it was better that...

I wouldn't do anything rash here. I would take a mental note to control your feelings and emotions at play here. They'll lead you down a path of destruction that you might find wasn't necessary at all. There's no 'contract' between yourselves at this point, and there's only suspicions to go...

I don't know. I usually make the decision based on whether or not I can eventually return to a friendly state with them. Can there be stability again? Or was this just a misunderstanding? Maybe some actions I can forgive. Some I can't. I'll use my current oneitus as an example. It seems fated...

Thanks man. Yeah, it's true. I have to remind myself of that. It's a bit tricky because the bad times, and the motives that lead me to back away from her - I slowly forget them. And left with the good times rolling in my head as a memory. Then I get doubts, desire that again... builds up, have...

75-90 hours a week seems beyond reasonable. If you think you'd love it, and are passionate about it - then definitely go for it. Enjoying your job and not having it be soul-sucking is what many people miss out on. And in my opinion, prevents burnout, enables you to perform better... etc. So if...

Well, having a bit of a rough spot. I'm going to do a bit of a AFC vent here, rather than do something stupid like break NC. And I should be further along than I'm currently, in some ways I am, but yeah. I believe I already know the problem. This girl in my opinion lovebombed me over a few...

Focus on your goals, build up a life for yourself that makes you happy/satisfied without any girls. I fully recommend pushing yourself to at least get working out (lifting/muscle gains) - the improvements to your body also impact your psychological basis. So it's not just "Oh, my body is better...

What's doing it for me, is the sense that I'm literally wasting time. It feels like you have forever when you're younger, but as you age, I've found that you realize more that time is not on your side. You don't have forever to do things. Time gives no ****s, and it will kill you and me...

Yes, this is where you have to have faith in the majority of OTHER people's opinion of you, as well as your own opinion of yourself. It's difficult because of the connection built up, and 'somehow' they must know you better than yourself or everyone else. I've had a girl recently 'love bomb'...

Stick with your logic mind, and what you've decided before. I understand the sudden pressure you might get from contact. But the emotional mind plays tricks on you. And it's powerful at times. It's normal that it feels harder because of her contacting you.

Any opinion on love bombing? Learning about the idea of it fairly recently, seems to be exactly what I've had an experience with recently.

NC day 32 now. Working on the last bits of doubt and stress about her now. The question being "Was it the right action to remove her from my life?". Mostly regarding online stuff. I won't lie - I've been debating that point more and more strongly until yesterday I believe. And there was some...

I'd say be honest about your intentions. I have a friend who just lets the girls he's seeing know he's not looking for anything serious - doesn't seem to bother them, as they push for more. Not saying you have to blurt it that out before or even after having sex with her - but if it comes up...

Seems a bit difficult, but - you've already stuck your hand out to try and resolve things well earlier right? So now it's her turn to offer. I think she's in doubt, and she might be curious - but you should let her press things forward if she wants. She knows you asked to meet up twice. But she...

I recommend this little guide by bradd80, for the post break-up situation - http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/never-chase-your-ex.235024/page-3 Just scroll down a bit for his post. The first page is pretty good as well to read.

NC 22 I believe. I'd like to describe a feeling I had yesterday. I was filled with anger and disdain for this girl, probably one of the more intense days yet. Seemed sudden for no reason. Anger about her actions, how she put zero effort in for getting in touch. Feeling more of a reality that...

Day 20 NC. Trust me, it does get better. But you will go through ups and downs. And you must remember that what you are feeling is normal and human - do not berate yourself for feeling down or messed up about it. You're basically grieving the loss of the person you knew - and you must resist...

Thanks. Yeah, I had rationalized (later on) ignoring would probably be the best go, and I'm glad to hear getting advice towards the same reaction (or non-reaction in this case). Now that I'm settled down - It's true, I'm not quite over it still. It feels more finished, and the anguish is...

Well, I'm wondering if this feeling will last, but I don't think I need the NC challenge anymore. I sure hope this feeling sticks. It's been a slow realization - I've been treating her as an equal, with adult level thinking, emotions, all that jazz... since I thought she was (age wise she is)...