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I think DJ Dork is on the right track here--and the guy that says she wants a BF. But more than just play along, though, she wants you to step up, show some dominance and act like a man--she wants you to lead and take charge. She wants to be pursued. She's giving you green lights here...

Got the words backwards--the thought should be that they live to attract attention...

Practice is practice, go for it, Gonzalo. She made up an excuse because she had another date and didn't want to put you off with announcing it (not that it was necessarily your business.) She probably could've used something more correct like "I have other plans then, but let's get together...

Isn't it a part of counseling that the patient gets fixated on the counselor? So counselors are trained to spot this and deal with it, I had thought... If it's really a problem, get another counselor. Keep going though, it sounds like you have issues and need to keep working. Keep in...

AWs are attracted by attention---to answer your subject line. The real question you ask is what to do about the inordinate number of AWs you're attracting--yes? Practice--what else are you going to do? You already know they're AWs, right? So don't mess with getting the phone number or...

Man, you both sound like drama queens--she's just higher ranked than you and has more years of experience. Ignore her if you can--that's the best advice, but it sounds like you need to get some control over yourself. I mean--walking up to her and telling her you hate her, you just wanted her...

Maybe it's come to a natural end. Recognize that if that's the case. She pulled out the "let's take a break" card and you trumped her with the "let's end it" card. It may be best that you stick with that. My guess is that she's begun to figure it out that you don't want anything formal or...

Try desensitivity training.

ah, never mind...

Keep being friendly, as in "friends"... And then start giving other girls attention, but stay friendly with her. Don't answer "what's up with her?" type questions, or any "are you interested in her?" questions. See what she does in response. Should be interesting.

No excuses--common decency is common decency. Besides, she will likely use "PMS" for justifying all sorts of bad behavior. You'll probably find her PMS'ing 3 times a month.

Isn't "hi, know who this is?" one of those tests or traps they use to guage your IL (paying attention) in them, or to see how you handle yourself when confronted by something unexpected--kind of to see how gracefully you handle yourself in social situations when something awkward happens. They...

If I understand right, you haven't met this girl yet, but you really care for her because she's confided in you and you in her--yes??? To a certain extent, you're in fantasy land here (leaving aside emotional tampon issues...) None of it is real until you meet her--and meet her repeatedly...

32swf---if he's passive now, wouldn't you expect him to be passive in most things in the future as well? For example--in bed. Or in social situations. Want that? I suppose that's why male passivity is (and should be) a red flag for women. You've done your part by setting up a safe...

How do they think of it, then? If they don't pick up on it--and I agree, having heard many women express perplexity when told that most guys want to nail them--how do they see it? Is it an issue in their mind of "attention" and not necessarily "sex". Attention is a broader term and...

Kinjo--yes, the Chosen made a classic, exceptional post here (I remember reading it when it came out, even.) But I think most would agree that you don't quite have the control, detachment or skills just yet to pull this off. You're putting together much of it, though, but--I suspect--you're...

Anyone else picking up on "the cousin is a go-between ..."--??? Bad form--don't use go-betweens.