I just don´t understand?

[h_amati]

I've been seeing ths girl for 6 months now, she never met my friends nor family and she did not like bieng in that situation, she wants something formal and marriage. Frankly I had no plans to do it and no plans for having a more formal relationship with her, but liked her company and had a good time when we were together.

Yesterday, while she was dumping me (saw that one coming a long time ago), she was kissing me and sitting on my lap.

She said she thought of ending the relationship but now she was not sure and now she needed time to think about it because she loves me.

I told her I do not believe en giving breaks and that we should end it, but that I could see that it was clearly not what she wanted.

She was saying one thing but what she was doing had a completely different meaning.

How can I keep seeing her without getting formal?

 

[b's nuts]

If you stay with a girl for that long, eventually she is going to want to meet your friends and family. The only way to keep something like that informal is if she is your fvck buddy, which at this point is long gone. If thats what she wants, and you don't want to give it to her, I doubt it will work for the best.

 

[chlywly]

You can't really, unless you express to her that you are the type of person that can provide for her all the security etc that she think she needs but from within your relationship... Just make something up, get her really into it, use NLP

 

[TesuqueRed]

Maybe it's come to a natural end. Recognize that if that's the case. She pulled out the "let's take a break" card and you trumped her with the "let's end it" card. It may be best that you stick with that.

My guess is that she's begun to figure it out that you don't want anything formal or willing to include her in the rest of your life. Fair enough--she's working up to ending it and going on to find something that is in her better interests. Something like this inevitably happens (only the low-esteem ones would stick around forever anyway..)

I wouldn't fight it, let it end. Get back out there and find something that works better for you and let her do the same.

 

[DJ_Dork]

When a woman starts moving towards "Let's be friends stage" or "I need a break talk" , Start looking for a new woman. Don't cut her off yet till it has reached that final end. (Both parties know when it is completely over)