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[00Kevin]

i asked a girl that i nexted a year ago if she wanted to have a coffee and this is what she said.

> i'm in the midst of being promoted and im super crazy busy...still running
> one store and preparing for another...and as hard as it is to believe..i'm
> sick as usual. So coffee right now is probably not going to be possible for
> at least a few weeks. we can chat sometime though im doing a ton of
> paperwork at home these days at night and in the day before night shifts so
> im online relatively frequently.

sounds like womanease to me. i don't want to chat with her on line that is just pathetic.

any suggestions for a reply?

 

[Helter Skelter]

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[bamboozledguy]

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[MisterAl]

I wouldn't have coffee with you, forget about you sticking your **** in me, even if you were the last human on the planet. I am however open to allowing you to put messages on my computer screen no faster than I can close them without reading them, and as long I don't ever have to smell you again.

I think that's pretty close. Not worth a reply.

 

[SamePendo]

Ill quote my majestic response I just gave to Sexy_M:

Yada yada yada. Shut up. B!tch!

I say say:
¨Oh thats too bad, I looked forward to get upto date with your life. Too bad, take care! bye¨
Something by those lines, short and juicy, just like my penis.

 

[00Kevin]

ok everyone thanks for the help.. this is the reply i sent her. i used your suggestions. I will be nexting her, but as an experiement i want to see how she reacts to this message.

"wow, why would you write something as cowardly as this? I thought you could
be more mature than that. The truth is you could have coffee with me any
day you wanted. I think you are just chicken ****. then again maybe u hate
me. oh well.. all i wanted to do was just have a coffee and see if we
could be friends again. I looked forward to getting upto date with your
life.

btw, I'm not interested in have a meaningfull conversation with you over the
internet. Putting messages on your computer screen no faster than you can
close them without reading them was not my idea. I guess as long as you
don't have to smell me you are ok with it."

 

[00Kevin]

Doesn't a girl win if you don't reply sharply to statment in ********?

I think it is always best to call a girl flat out when she says something in ********. Women can't handle saying exactly what is on their mind. They always have to sugar coat everything they say.

when you call them out on it, they realize they hurt your feelings and it makes them feel guilty(as they should).

 

[MisterAl]

Oh God no.

Sometimes you just gotta walk away without saying a word.

Right now, somewhere out there is a lazy woman who gloats in knowing that she just crushed your soul. She didn't have to know that.

I feel unclean.

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by MisterAl
Oh God no.

Sometimes you just gotta walk away without saying a word.

Right now, somewhere out there is a lazy woman who gloats in knowing that she just crushed your soul. She didn't have to know that.

I feel unclean.

but the trick is to call them on it and for it not to hurt you in the least. How can it hurt you if you are a DJ anway
you can just call her on it and move on to the next girl without a whimper.

 

[TesuqueRed]

ah, never mind...

 

[Howie Farkes]

Originally posted by 00Kevin
ok everyone thanks for the help.. this is the reply i sent her. i used your suggestions. I will be nexting her, but as an experiement i want to see how she reacts to this message.

"wow, why would you write something as cowardly as this? I thought you could
be more mature than that. The truth is you could have coffee with me any
day you wanted. I think you are just chicken ****. then again maybe u hate
me. oh well.. all i wanted to do was just have a coffee and see if we
could be friends again. I looked forward to getting upto date with your
life.

btw, I'm not interested in have a meaningfull conversation with you over the
internet. Putting messages on your computer screen no faster than you can
close them without reading them was not my idea. I guess as long as you
don't have to smell me you are ok with it."

Bwaaahahaha... you really don't like women very much do you? That is some immature sh!t right there.

Yeah she was speaking in ********, but it was also polite and civil. People ('cause guys can be just as evasive with the truth here too - girls just get more chances to practice it) just find it hard to be direct when it comes to rejecting someone. She was being as direct as one can possibly be without actually saying "Hi 00Kevin, I'd really like it if you didn't contact me again. Bye."

Now instead of getting all p!ssy about it just realise that that is they way of things. Then you won't come across as a silly little boy who didn't have the brains to realise when he was being rejected gently instead of as a man who would've sucked it up and moved on.

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by Howie Farkes
Bwaaahahaha... you really don't like women very much do you? That is some immature sh!t right there.

Yeah she was speaking in ********, but it was also polite and civil. People ('cause guys can be just as evasive with the truth here too - girls just get more chances to practice it) just find it hard to be direct when it comes to rejecting someone. She was being as direct as one can possibly be without actually saying "Hi 00Kevin, I'd really like it if you didn't contact me again. Bye."

Now instead of getting all p!ssy about it just realise that that is they way of things. Then you won't come across as a silly little boy who didn't have the brains to realise when he was being rejected gently instead of as a man who would've sucked it up and moved on.

You are very funny. My reply was an experiment or didn't you realize that. As for her rejection i really couldn't give a ****. She isn't important to me in that way at all. I didn't talk to this chick for over a year. I nexted her. People change so i thought it would be a good idea to give a 'next' a call back.

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by TesuqueRed
If she's stupid, your experiment might work. If not, she's ROFL. Then she'd be showing it to every friend near the computer and getting them ROFL.

Keep in mind, women speak in ********--whole conversations of it. If you responded to every ******** comment that came across, you'd be stopping the conversation every other minute and calling them on it. Sounds like fun.

ah... you know they ways of a woman very well. This is exactly what she did. Funny how you predicted this woman’s reaction exactly. Who ever said that DJ's don't have them figured out. My statement really pissed her off! she sent to her online friends.

The sad thing is she claimed that it was all the complete truth. hmm... perhaps it was. lol

 

[Howie Farkes]

What exactly was your experiement trying to prove? Were you hoping to get her to apologise for speaking in ********?

when you call them out on it, they realize they hurt your feelings and it makes them feel guilty(as they should)

She may have felt a little guilty until you called her on it. In fact all you've really done is make her extremely glad she rejected you and also maybe a little regretful she didn't just say "Get f*cked loser!!" in the first place.

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by Howie Farkes
What exactly was your experiement trying to prove? Were you hoping to get her to apologise for speaking in ********?

She may have felt a little guilty until you called her on it. In fact all you've really done is make her extremely glad she rejected you and also maybe a little regretful she didn't just say "Get f*cked loser!!" in the first place.

i wasn't trying to do anything.. i just wanted to see what would happen.

 

[Crotch Sniffer]

00Kevin, you may have made a mistake but I respect you for TRYING something. I think too many guys on this board treat every HB like it is their last before death. There is something to be said for someone who is willing to experiment with a sense of playful detachment.

Now you know that responding in ******** is not the best route. Personally, I would have done things alot differently. Positivity is much more attractive than whining..For example..

Her response:

> i'm in the midst of being promoted and im super crazy busy...still running
> one store and preparing for another...and as hard as it is to believe..i'm
> sick as usual. So coffee right now is probably not going to be possible for
> at least a few weeks. we can chat sometime though im doing a ton of
> paperwork at home these days at night and in the day before night shifts so
> im online relatively frequently.

My response:

"Wow, congrats on your promotion...sounds kinda hectic though. You really should take better care of yourself. All work and no play makes Jane a sick girl! After all you really must be ill to postpone coffee with a handsome fellow such as myself. It´s cool, I am pretty busy these days and I know how things get when the heat is on. Lemme get your email and I will shoot you a message when things clear up."

I would have waited a couple of weeks and then sent her a short email saying something funny and not asking her out at all. If you are more charming and less offended/insecure she will be more inclined to push her "priorities" aside sooner or later.

Food for thought

 

[Ice Cold]

ROFL

Good reply.

IMO It's better to just make your move and say: "let's go fack". After that she will either view you as a potential BF or think you're the last living scum on earth. Both are better than the polite BS that goes after "let's fack". If you'll have to stay polite, you won't get anything other than insults from her either. But she will respect you if you show that you're walking away when she does not give you what you want.

Ice Cold

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by Crotch Sniffer
00Kevin, you may have made a mistake but I respect you for TRYING something. I think too many guys on this board treat every HB like it is their last before death. There is something to be said for someone who is willing to experiment with a sense of playful detachment.

Now you know that responding in ******** is not the best route. Personally, I would have done things alot differently. Positivity is much more attractive than whining..For example..

Her response:



My response:

"Wow, congrats on your promotion...sounds kinda hectic though. You really should take better care of yourself. All work and no play makes Jane a sick girl! After all you really must be ill to postpone coffee with a handsome fellow such as myself. It´s cool, I am pretty busy these days and I know how things get when the heat is on. Lemme get your email and I will shoot you a message when things clear up."

I would have waited a couple of weeks and then sent her a short email saying something funny and not asking her out at all. If you are more charming and less offended/insecure she will be more inclined to push her "priorities" aside sooner or later.

Food for thought

Your response is great i will have to use it myself.. thanks.

But, there are cases where you know for a fact that you will have to butt heads with a girl to get her attention. Starting a fight with a girl can put you in her panties just a quick. there are women that just don't respond to the tactic you suggested. Some girls need a man that is aggresive and can take control of them. We all know that any kind of emotion is a good emotion from a woman. so the fight, makeup, and have fun method is good too.

 

[Crotch Sniffer]

Kevin,

You are right that women crave drama. But you have to build attraction before you can pull this off. Just picking fights and "calling her on her bullshyt" comes off as weak because you are showing that you are affected by her. She has the power!

If you are unfazed however, you show that you are a MAN who doesnt buy into her silly games. You are a happy person who is not affected by the stress/negativity of others. This is a much more attractive approach, in my experience.

Believe me, I once tried the same things with my whole "I am the prize" mentality. I would call bytches out all the time figuring I sure showed them...but nothing ever came of it. I just ended up alienating them because I brought the drama too soon.

I think it´s much better to come off charming at first and save the harshness for when she actually disrespects you. Otherwise you are just being an assh0le for no other reason than your own contemplations and hurt pride.

 

[00Kevin]

hmm there is truth in what you said crotch