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No loss at all, but the desire is no longer all-consuming such as when I was 21. I’d like to think that I am mature but I still find I think with the little head more than I’d like to admit. However, I’ve come to accept it as a natural part of me for which I will not apologize.

I get this all the time from other women older and younger regarding my relationship with someone younger: "What do you have in common?" "What could you possibly even talk about?" "Does she ask you for money?" That last one p!sses me off.

The only universal is you. If you are here then you have an advantage. I post so rarely because I feel I owe SS a debt. Learn your licks man, then get out. Live your life. You will see your query is inconsequential if you have learned what is here.

I did not see clarification, but if you’ve known her a very short time then, um, why do you already care so much about the orbiter friends? Dropping other plates and being invested in the outcome with her are signs you may have lost your objectivity already here. Good job not reacting when...

I’ll agree, texting is a woman’s tool. But adapt and learn or die is a universal since the beginning of time. Learn this or you are dead in this society. Go ahead and put a bolt gun to your head because you died long ago.

Yep, it’s not a buffer, it’s a tool, and it’s a measure of your learning curve to utilize it well. How’s this: “You, me, dinner, 6:30”. That was from HER not me. Women love it. It works.

I get the feeling this post is STILL about that girl. Until you get her/that process handled your judgment and future choices will be overly influenced by external forces. But, you already know this, that’s why you are here.

Another great thread STR8UP hitting all the topics the board loves to debate: 1) giving chances/nexting/burning bridges, 2) women as “friends”, and my fav 3) buffers such as MySpace/FaceBook/texting. Since this has all been thrashed about endlessly I will not regurgitate it again. I think...

Aging is a myth perpetuated by the obese and the lazy. Any medical problems that develop are due to illness. Aging itself is not an illness. You and you alone are responsible for taking care of your body and your life. You reap the benefits or pay the consequences. It’s all on...

Kontroller X is correct. BPD is Borderline Personality Disorder. I used to work in the psych field and have much experience with them. The overall point is not to argue whether or not this is a label for “bad behavior”. Like so many other things on the mature forum you can learn from our...

Exactly 3.287964 Because we should all conform to societies’ norms. You should do exactly what others say. You should live your life by what others think. You should try to “fit in” and be like everyone else.

It’s about balance, of not loosing your frame. Whatever it is you focus your attention on: it will become important. No matter WHAT it is, or who. This is a simple process. Of course you can hang out with her, unless she’s the only thing you are focusing on. Then you’ve handed your...

I seldom comment here, but, for this I must share my personal experience. You focus on her out of desperation and lack of options. But more so, out of a lack of wisdom. As others have pointed out, you have yet to develop the skills and abilities that are available to you here to get...

You must accept 100% responsibility for all of your relationships with women. If there is a problem then it is YOUR problem and no one else’s.

Time for some scarcity. String her out. You need to not be so easy. I just don't believe in going by rules such as nexting after such and such time, or "giving it one more shot". It does not work like that. Serial dating gives women too much power and too much focus. I know you are not a fan...

How to manage multiples depends on your goal. You have to figure out what you want and what is important. Whether you are you looking to just have fun, endlessly date, never taking any too seriously; or are in a serious quest to find a or some quality women, you must, by the law of averages...

I was a counselor years ago and I would see people like this who are high functioning enough to make a semi-plausible defense of their own personality disorder. These guys are, essentially, mentally ill. I would diagnose them with an Axis II Personality Disorder. Their “movement” is...

Just document for yourself and learn from this. You met her in a club and kindled something. You made missteps after but it WAS a good start. This is a learning process. Repeat what you did in the bar many many times and you will learn step by step how to proceed and succeed.

Did you really want a relationship or to connect with her without knowing her? How do you know these things? It’s not AFC it’s just patently irrational by any standard. You’ve been here a while, you must know that you don’t know jack about her until you have dated her and fvcked her for some...

I think its time to implement a BAN on quoting convos with women! It hurts my fvcking head just reading this utterly meaningless garbage! Stop the insanity! DJ’s don’t give ultimatums, they don’t need to. DJ’s make decisions. Impart that you and she should get together and be very...