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First of all, you're not "in love" with this woman. You haven't dated her, gotten into a relationship with her, gotten to really know her. You can't be "in love". She's right when she's telling you you're infatuated. There's so much wrong in your post, my fingers would be worn to stubs typing...

Not to rain on your parade, but, from what you quoted her saying, sounds to me as if she meant "dinner date" meaning she had a date to do dinner with her friend and her friend's husband. Doesn't sound like she's saying there was another guy she was going to go with, as on a double date. Yep...

There isn't a Fear of Intimacy. There's a Reluctance For Intimacy, but not Fear. She didn't have a fear of being intimate with her BF, did she? Don't be her psychiatrist and attempt to attribute cause to her. Sounds like she's leaving her BF and lining up the next guy to bail to. That may be...

Way off what? I said that she acted badly, she lied, she's immature and bad news. But BPD? That's a diagnosis that can't be made based on an internet post. Besides, who cares what it is, the bottom line is she's not behaving acceptably. And, not that I wish to beat up on drmeathead, far from...

I'd fine tune that to: as long as she's more attached than you are. That would be part of going slower than her. Be mindful that it's common for guys to, when they are mesmerized, to lose their center. Sounds like you were begriming to get there, when you expressed your inner...

Mr. P, you don't need to figure this one out. It's all good. You're on the right track with understanding the key here is cultivating patience on your part. Don't bring up the "relationship" talks. That's pressure. You want her eventually to bring it up, not you. That's how you'll know she...

I wouldn't call her a "whack job", as she doesn't sound loony. What I see is a woman (how old is she?) that isn't honest with you ("I locked the bedroom door because people may break in", and I suspect her excuse of being tired from staying up watching a movie wasn't true either) and as someone...

Thanks for the tip, Str8up! I don't take flaking personally, fact is, I don't take a lot of what women do OR say personally, I think it reflects more about them then it could ever could me. I rarely scold. I just drop them if it's bad. If it's correctable, I just tell them what's acceptable and...

A woman may give you her number when you've overstayed your "welcome" and she wants to get rid of you.

I'm just looking for a blowfish.

I wasn't ever "left out to dry". I called two times within two weeks, leaving a brief 5 second message both times. That's all. Okay, maybe it was 6 seconds long.

It's probably because hairdressers comb through a lot of guys.

There are habits you can live with, and some you can't. If someone's habits annoy you, then long term with them, they're really going to annoy you. And, guess what? Your annoying habits will eventually irritate the hell out of your lover too. What she first thought was so cute about you, becomes...

I don't think Latinoman meant that he thought she was adorable. BTW, those titles of her writings, they all seem to suggest her failure with men. It's amazing how that can be heralded as success or as inspiration.

^^^ to the chagrin of Dentists everywhere... Oh f@ck! Did I write "those little birds"? Oh, darn... I'm showing my deep resentment harboring on narcissism bordering on emotional disorder, with a pinch of misogyny and a trace of anger.

Speaking of flakes... here's a real life example that's happening right now. A couple of weeks back, met up with a HB10. She was very attracted to me, giving me lots of IOI: compliments, asking personal questions, kissing me first, hitting another place with me after hours, taking my hand into...

I had heard that excerpt from the show. Apparently this guy knew *early on in his relationship* that she wasn't over her ex and preferred her ex. Like a lot of guys, he put blinders on, he probably rationalized a whole lot too ("She'll change", "It's different this time", "but I love her"), and...

I noticed how insidiously they portray men, and I don't mean via the examples they provide in that article. I mean how they sneak in biased views of men as if factual, such as stating: "Just because men are having a hard time adjusting to the idea that women are capable breadwinners..." They...

The divorce rate is about 50%. The article addresses the remaining 50% of still married couples. So, when we factor their findings into the entire pre-divorce marriage population, the percentages become: 50% divorce. 6% say they're in a loveless marriage. 28% are not completely happy. That's...

How do you turn this around? You don't. You can't. There are too many things against you here, I'm sorry to tell you. Yours actually sounds like a textbook case. Seen it too many times. Here are all the pitfalls: 1. She's 21. At that age, they're still not all mature. 2. She lives borderline...