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Damn. Why do I give her so much value? Probably because we have great times together. It’s easy, she’s smart, challenges my own self on deeper levels, attractive, has an honest character, good values, sweet. Those are very difficult qualities to find in a woman

That’s a good point. I am an attractive guy and she does always mention how women look at me or just find any reason to talk to me. She talks about this on a very regular basis. So maybe these are ways for her to have security in some ways.... as petty as it is. I guess the only way to...

But she’s maybe playing these games because I was weak.. like flow said.. I let it here.. but it is also telling of her personality. Ugh all women do the same thing. Ffs

Yes I need to stop giving this all the energy I have given to it. I think many posters here are right. I need to work on my self respect and start working on myself. In terms of her and me and the coffee douche... I will ignore until she asks me about my thoughts or something long those lines

She doesn’t string me along though. She’s always been in it with me. Always receptive... Except when I was pulling the needy weak behaviour previously

Is she toying with me though? Because when she talks about him it does sound like he’s just a guy who wants to hang out with her. But she obviously knows he has interest and that’s the issue we’re all seeing.. She’s stated multiple times she only sees this guy as a friend. Thinks he’s just...

Very good points. I’m still being non reactive. Haven’t said a peep. She knows how I probably feel about it since our discussion way back. There hasn’t been the correct opening for me to take the shot in engaging the topic. She has just mentioned that she bailed on the coffee date because...

What about her rescheduling their hangout? @RangerMIke @flowtheory @AttackFormation @SeekerOfTheWay ?

Oh no... they rescheduled for next Thursday... wtf

Where did you learn all this? I really like your posts. They’re clear headed and grounded in sanity. Which books or websites do you follow? Or??? Same with you @AttackFormation

Thanks for the super open response. Glad a woman around here can be honest.

No. She’s been much sweeter since I’ve started behaving different and being more emotionally strong, 2 and a bit weeks ago. She texted me earlier today. “Blah blah blah hope your day is good :)” I responded. She responded. I called 1.5 hours later to set up our plan/day tomorrow. Over the...

What are some directions or options I can implement now so these situations don’t arise again?

UPDATE: She didn’t go on the coffee meeting. She bailed.

I’ve haven’t been reduced to nothing. We have a lot of sex. I get what you’re saying about having you in a certain position though.

No woman would respect a guy who gives her freedom? Lol come on man. This is a relationship. Getting her to submit to me would be me doing what exactly? Telling her what she can and can’t do? Punch her in the face? Shag another woman? What would you suggest?

so she’s just proving to herself that I want her. It’s based out of insecurity and need for validation? Oh God. This is what’s happening. But I’m passing the tests.. so this is what is causing her confusion and hesitation to pull the plug.. This guy is the guy she’s going to fal on to to...

But we haven’t broken up. And her being jealous would show her care of what we have. Fear of losing me. If she didn’t actually want to be with me, I think she would be okay breaking up with me. I don’t think she’s with me just to know she can have me? She does make effort in our...

Yea this is a good point. I do believe it is highly manipulative. And she is doing it for external validation. All of which is not good or healthy if I’m coming from a place of health

We did agree that we would trust each other and go off of our own moral guidelines about who’s correct to hangout with and who is not. Because we didn’t want to have the hard rule of ‘youre not allowed to hangout with anyone of the opposite sex’ it didn’t seem healthy or I’m aligned with a...