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Miscommunication. I didn’t equate sex to levels of love. I meant sex is an indicator of feelings or a reflection of the relationship to a degree. Maybe I have been expecting her to fee in the ways which I do. To give in the manner which I have. And that’s been my downfall. And in doing...

That’s actually not true at all. I thought your post was very articulate and spot on. I asked your thoughts because what you stated is the direction I need and desire to head to. And so it would make sense I would ask for your perspective and guidance in dealing with that. That’s the whole...

Okay so what is it that’s missing that she’s not doing that. In real simple terms here

I’m asking your experience with this is all since you had a brilliantly cogent summation of your thoughts just laid out. I will play it out for myself. Because I know what has not worked so far. So only way to go is in the opposing direction.

Because it’s a relationship. Emotional, spiritual, physical, bond. It’s not just about the sex. Sex is an indication of her feelings, yes. Her actions are generally all good. But her words vassilate and that’s what I’m trying to subside. I’m not trying to change her nature. I’m trying to...

Very good post. I’ll read this several times. It’s like the whole site explained in an eloquent way. This has happened to me and I didn’t even realize it. It’s still around but I’m trying to get away from it. There’s always one thing missing and she always brings it up. Sometimes even...

I can agree the problem is mostly ME. I’m not trying to be delusional. I’m trying to discover some truths here that I’ve been disregarding. I appreciate all your advice here. But don’t dismiss me and call me delusional. Sometimes we are unable to see our own faulty thinking And re: sex...

So the best thing I can do is do what’s best for me so it challenges her own self developing world? I want to become that man. So whether I’m currently delusional or not. I need to learn this. This is actually interesting; this weekend we had sex once. Sunday morning. After we got back...

If she had no respect or anything, why would she continue to be with me, want to go on our trip, pay for dates, still be effortful towards us? But she’s not treating me like a back up? Or do you mean she’s using him for a back up, someone to still keep her a float even if we don’t workout? So...

What do you mean by animal life? Women are simplistic??

Can you put that a little more simple? Why is she bringing me up and down? Manipulating? Smoke screening? What is it she truly wants?

Okay let’s refrain from put downs. I’m very familiar with how my situation is perceived and is. It’s caused me much anguish. Yea. She was upfront about it from the start. Saying she wasn’t girlfriend material. Thought we’d only be short term. Still trying to work things out emotionally...

The thread with her ex went back and forth a whole bunch. Was saying what they had before was special and crap. They’ve been in communication since the start of our relationship though.. she tells him about me and sends him messages like ‘seeing your text is difficult, before I’m about to get...

It didn’t. I’m angry about it though. Still leaving a sour taste in my mouth. I guess she needs the attention? Or she was ready to jump ship. Makes me just want to do the same but find someone better... feels like emotional cheating

Except I did grab her phone when she was in the shower to see wtf was happening behind the scenes. She was getting attention from two guys. One guy who she friend zoned and one from her ex

So we ended up spending the whole weekend together instead of just the one day, and had sex. Seems as though things were better. She tested me a couple times and I passed. Rejected sex once, I immediately said it w was all good and she was shocked. Asked if I wasn’t going to pursue her as...

But you’re thinking I’m going to fail. So it’s not actual support

Thanks. I know it’s a very difficult what I’m trying to do now. And apparently to everyone I’m already dead in the water. I see their points and also yours. I’ve noticed she has tested me already. When we talked on the phone yesterday she was at her sisters and I heard her talking to...

There’s plenty wrong with her. But all I can control is me. I see you’re being very sacrsactic and facetious. I don’t get why trying to rectify a poor situation is such a bad thing here. It’s not like I burned the world down and the ground is seared, and now it’s completely gone from being...

I see what’s on the line, Epic. It’s not just a woman. The woman is feedback of my poor behaviours and doings. Right now it’s not good. But it’s not a catastrophe if we’re hanging out in a couple hours from now. I think I have the ability to turn things around. Because like I said, I...