Life's a B1tch

[Giovanni SouthSide]

Every man that lacks self love and self respect will eventually find himself I'm this exact situation.

Because women are like that wild animal you try to tame: no amount of study will predict how she'll react tomorrow. And eventually the wild animal will hurt you. When it does, you only got yourself to blame.

Beyond self respect is an entire world of goodness waiting for ya. You just gotta get through the bitter pill called loneliness. Once you get through that, much better thing waiting for you. But first you gotta tell life how to treat you. You say that it's okay to be disrespectful towards you. You'll reap what you sow.


Dude loves her more than he loves himself.

Imagine him living om her house...he would've been kicked out like 5 times already for simply forgetting to close of the toothpaste or not closing the toilet seat.

This **** lets a cheating woman take from his resources while thinking he gets "leverage " over her

^^ Key tenets of red pill.

You can't teach a woman if you're not prepared to leave her at any moment. That's what's so difficult about beautiful women who know how to claw their nails in your back like demons when you are thrusting her dirty, damp and deep giving her the fear of god.

You have to genuinely from the bottom of your heart, not give a fvck, while at the same time love her enough to train her.

They require a lot of love too, so the the love for yourself has to be sky high, so that you still think you're better than her, after giving her so much, you have to love your appearance, love your brain, love your emotions
100%. No cap. Love what you bring to the world, the value, how others see you, how you are as a leader.

You have to basically think, and know, you're a bad ass motherfvcker that could have any girl in the world. Your purpose has to be challenging enough, that you think you deserve a beautiful, loyal woman.

You lose that frame, you lose the girl.

Game immunizes you against the depths of romantic failure (although I believe on the flip side it also immunizes you against the heights of romantic love).

I would think that's true for a lot of men. But not Obi Wan Kenobi-level game, where you manage to show to a woman or anyone, for that matter that losing something, in this case a quality woman, would be a loss, but that you understand that life is full of loss, and losing every thing is an eventuality. At times, the trust you give a woman will be the rope she hangs you with and it happens to the best of them everyday.
You nod where other men would sob. You haven't crushed down your emotions, you've merely prepared yourself by not living in a fantasy world better suited for women and children.

This can't be faked. It's an internalized belief and posture after having a certain volume of experience with women and, instead of coming out (only) bitter or guarded on the other side, coming out accepting of the circle of life.

 

[Gamisch]

^^ Key tenets of red pill.

You can't teach a woman if you're not prepared to leave her at any moment. That's what's so difficult about beautiful women who know how to claw their nails in your back like demons when you are thrusting her dirty, damp and deep giving her the fear of god.

You have to genuinely from the bottom of your heart, not give a fvck, while at the same time love her enough to train her.

They require a lot of love too, so the the love for yourself has to be sky high, so that you still think you're better than her, after giving her so much, you have to love your appearance, love your brain, love your emotions
100%. No cap. Love what you bring to the world, the value, how others see you, how you are as a leader.

You have to basically think, and know, you're a bad ass motherfvcker that could have any girl in the world. Your purpose has to be challenging enough, that you think you deserve a beautiful, loyal woman.

You lose that frame, you lose the girl.

Game immunizes you against the depths of romantic failure (although I believe on the flip side it also immunizes you against the heights of romantic love).

I would think that's true for a lot of men. But not Obi Wan Kenobi-level game, where you manage to show to a woman or anyone, for that matter that losing something, in this case a quality woman, would be a loss, but that you understand that life is full of loss, and losing every thing is an eventuality. At times, the trust you give a woman will be the rope she hangs you with and it happens to the best of them everyday.
You nod where other men would sob. You haven't crushed down your emotions, you've merely prepared yourself by not living in a fantasy world better suited for women and children.

This can't be faked. It's an internalized belief and posture after having a certain volume of experience with women and, instead of coming out (only) bitter or guarded on the other side, coming out accepting of the circle of life.

Great write up. OP should read it a couple of times to internalize the message.

To use the animal analogy: it's like having a lot expensive but possible dangerous dog. You train ,invest, make TONS of time, sacrifice you r freedom ect ect ect.

But the moment the dog acts up in a way that can be considered "unforgivable " the dog will be put down.

Despite all the effort . Women ain't much different from that and they KNOW.. that's why women are saying the "refuse " a simple low cost 1st date: what, you expect the wild animal to be tame at all times? Look at this shyte show: a grown man who willingly puts himself in such a weak position. There are just two flavors: sweet or shyte. OP tries to season a turd and use the baby as sugar to coat it.

She even lives in HIS house. That's how strong the urge for new penis is. She is willing to throw her safety away in order to get sexual attention from another man. Das frau = AUS

 

[DJ Novice]

Hedonic adaptation kills all relationships eventually and women tend to get bored faster than men.

Once a woman cheats on you (physically or emotionally) she has mentally checked out of the relationship by her actions.

Any respect or desire she once had for you is gone.

Either kick her to the curb now or stay, emotionally detach, use her for recreational purposes only and spin plates until she chooses to leave of her own accord or you eventually get sick of her and decide to end it yourself.

Don’t delude yourself into thinking things will get better like they were in the beginning. You can’t recreate the feelings of the past as things are now much different. Nostalgia is your worst enemy.

Good luck. It’s a tough situation to be in. Women can break you but only if you let them.

 

[Bingo-Player]

I believe humans place far too much expectation on relationships

They have a shelf life just like everything else on earth , you can't expect to be with someone over a period of 5,10,20,30,40 years and there not to be issues

I'm not sure I've ever come across a relationship between a man and a woman that doesn't have some sort of core issue bubbling under the surface it's almost like they need it too keep going.

Even the most "fairytale" relationship I've come across the guy absolutely hates his partners mother , and this causes drama in the relationship pretty much on a weekly basis

Another problem is that humans get bored and tempted very easily ....I don't care who you are you've been in a relationship for 3 years + the sexual desire is going to start waining for both man and woman

"cheating" is rife out there ......fundamentally men desire the feeling of the hunt and women desire the feeling of being hunted

You can't really get either of them core desires fulfilled from a long term relationship / marriage because theres nothing to hunt

Why do you think people get fat and out of shape in relationships !?! .......becuase of comfort and there literally being fvck all else to do lol

Always makes me chuckle when people say things like " I can't believe they would do that "

Anyone is capable of anything under the right circumstances .....

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Women negotiate with words, but men negotiate with their very presence alone.

Dont have a chat with her, don't fight with her just spend your time elsewhere, it's really simple.

If you let her stew and frolic in her own energy she tends to stop doing stuff like this, truth is you have probably positively reinforced her behavior in parallel to this at some point.

A very wise man once told me: If you can afford to treat people like **** you have wildly misplayed your hand.

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

Hell yeah!

The title of your thread is "Life is a b!tch". That's not true. Life is not a b!tch. Your future ex is a b!tch. You need to handle your business like a man, not like some sappy, sentimental pushover. I can guarantee that you will be embarrassed by some of the things you wrote in this thread when you read them a few months from now.

There's a lot in play.

Her mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer shortly after we got together and died a few months into her pregnancy.

I mentioned that we lost a son after a few days, but I didn't mention that he was born premature because her liver burst and they had to perform an emergency C-section, to save her and him. She almost died.

I spent two weeks in the hospital with her. I watched my son die 5 days in, then had to worry about her dying for another week.

A few months later, she started drinking too much. Then I started drinking too much. It's been volatile ever since, but in a passionate way. We both assumed it was something that we would overcome, especially when we started trying to have a baby again.

Well, we did start trying again. And it turns out she was texting this dude during that time, which hurts pretty bad lol

I want mention that there were no signs. I've been with women that lost interest, and there were always signs.

She never acted any differently towards me. She kept begging me for marriage. She never lost sexual interest (though she was probably picturing him lol); she was giving me oral sex on a regular basis. She still went out of her way to make me happy etc

That's what makes it so weird to me.

She's been begging me. She tries to pretend nothing ever happened. I told her I can never forget, yet she's relentless in trying to be normal.

I'm in a tough fvcking spot, man. If I bring it up, she starts acting like a baby and makes my life hell. If I ignore it, I end up getting pissed because I have too much self-respect. It's a cycle

It isn't boring though

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

I believe humans place far too much expectation on relationships

They have a shelf life just like everything else on earth , you can't expect to be with someone over a period of 5,10,20,30,40 years and there not to be issues

I'm not sure I've ever come across a relationship between a man and a woman that doesn't have some sort of core issue bubbling under the surface it's almost like they need it too keep going.

Even the most "fairytale" relationship I've come across the guy absolutely hates his partners mother , and this causes drama in the relationship pretty much on a weekly basis

Another problem is that humans get bored and tempted very easily ....I don't care who you are you've been in a relationship for 3 years + the sexual desire is going to start waining for both man and woman

"cheating" is rife out there ......fundamentally men desire the feeling of the hunt and women desire the feeling of being hunted

You can't really get either of them core desires fulfilled from a long term relationship / marriage because theres nothing to hunt

Why do you think people get fat and out of shape in relationships !?! .......becuase of comfort and there literally being fvck all else to do lol

Always makes me chuckle when people say things like " I can't believe they would do that "

Anyone is capable of anything under the right circumstances .....

Great post

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

I got rid of most of the things I owned when we moved in together. I didn't care much about the stuff

Currently, our house and garage is full of her crap. Pisses me off now...

I just got an offer to work out of town indefinitely. I'm tempted to take it, to get away from her, at least.

But I'm also leaving my home wide open for her to do whatever.

Fvck. You think you know, but you don't know

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

The stoic philosophers, who I love, didn't touch on this subject

I'm about to go through hell. Wish me luck.

 

[BaronOfHair]

The stoic philosophers, who I love, didn't touch on this subject

I'm about to go through hell. Wish me luck.

On the contrary. They'd point out that you chose to increase your own distress, by thinking in melodramatic terms, like "I'm about to go through hell", even though you have the power to instead think in saner, less hyperbolic ones such as:

"Tommorw, I COULD potentially encounter obstacles to my goals, and events I'd prefer not to encounter. I also can choose to take a cue from Tommy Shelby here

, by handling my difficulties as if I have ice water in my veins. Possessing nerves of steel is an archetypal masculine trait, thus any difficulties I encounter provide me with an opportunity to sharpen my proficiency in that department"

 

[BaronOfHair]

I got rid of most of the things I owned when we moved in together. I didn't care much about the stuff

Was that really the case? Or did you kowtow to her, by getting rid of most of your possessions to make room for those of this broad, for fear that she'd leave you?

"Currently, our house and garage is full of her crap. Pisses me off now..."

I presume neither she, nor a couple of Hell's Angels whom she had under contract put a loaded L1A1 SLR to your head, nor a Bowie knife to your neck then threatened to deprive you of a pulse, UNLESS you allowed her to fill up your house and garage with "her crap". Get pissed off at yourself, for allowing things to get this far out of hand

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

Was that really the case? Or did you kowtow to her, by getting rid of most of your possessions to make room for those of this broad, for fear that she'd leave you?

"Currently, our house and garage is full of her crap. Pisses me off now..."

I presume neither she, nor a couple of Hell's Angels whom she had under contract put a loaded L1A1 SLR to your head, nor a Bowie knife to your neck then threatened to deprive you of a pulse, UNLESS you allowed her to fill up your house and garage with "her crap". Get pissed off at yourself, for allowing things to get this far out of hand

No, I don't care about furniture

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

On the contrary. They'd point out that you chose to increase your own distress, by thinking in melodramatic terms, like "I'm about to go through hell", even though you have the power to instead think in saner, less hyperbolic ones such as:

"Tommorw, I COULD potentially encounter obstacles to my goals, and events I'd prefer not to encounter. I also can choose to take a cue from Tommy Shelby here

, by handling my difficulties as if I have ice water in my veins. Possessing nerves of steel is an archetypal masculine trait, thus any difficulties I encounter provide me with an opportunity to sharpen my proficiency in that department"

Yeah, well, I wanted kids.

I was ready for the incoming storm of drama.

It got a lot worse than I expected.

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

On the contrary. They'd point out that you chose to increase your own distress, by thinking in melodramatic terms, like "I'm about to go through hell", even though you have the power to instead think in saner, less hyperbolic ones such as:

"Tommorw, I COULD potentially encounter obstacles to my goals, and events I'd prefer not to encounter. I also can choose to take a cue from Tommy Shelby here

, by handling my difficulties as if I have ice water in my veins. Possessing nerves of steel is an archetypal masculine trait, thus any difficulties I encounter provide me with an opportunity to sharpen my proficiency in that department"

I'm an old guy. I could clam up and protect myself from every danger

But where's the fun in that?

 

[BaronOfHair]

Yeah, well, I wanted kids

Have you been gelded, VMV? Because otherwise, not being a woman, you don't have menopause to worry about and thus still have ample opportunity to achieve this goal. You just may have to contend with folks regularly assuming that you're son or daughter is your grandchild

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

You always need to challenge yourself.

Life gets boring

I used to cold-approach to get the feels, not so much anymore

There isn't much that exhilarates me these days

I mostly fight apathy lately, which is a good fight. And I will win

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

Have you been gelded, VMV? Because otherwise, not being a woman, you don't have menopause to worry about and thus still have ample opportunity to achieve this goal. You just may have to contend with folks regularly assuming that you're son or daughter is your grandchild

Tell me how I should achieve my goals

 

[BaronOfHair]

I mostly fight apathy lately, which is a good fight. And I will win

Just remember: You don't need to fight, to prove you're right. You don't need to be forgiven... Yeah, Yeah, Yeah

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

Just remember: You don't need to fight, to prove you're right. You don't need to be forgiven... Yeah, Yeah, Yeah

Every moment is a fight now.

My baseline blood pressure is through the roof.

I miss being single, but being single wasn't all that great either.

That's the irony, young bucks

 

[BaronOfHair]

Tell me how I should achieve my goals

Deciding whether or not you really want to remain with this chick, or you're staying around for fear of venturing into the unknown, may be a fine place to start