Life's a B1tch

[New_Journey]

I want offspring

Get a surrogate mother then

 

[Travel memoir21]

Have you thought about going overseas? There's lots of traditonal minded women out there who would welcome a western man like you with open arms.

Take it from me, I'm here in The Philippines right now and my Tinder started blowing up when I got here.

 

[Clockwerk50]

I'm trying to be empathetic, especially given the erratic posts and bravado persona. I’m truly sorry for your loss after such a brief time. I can only imagine how challenging it must be, and the strain from unsuccessful pregnancies can certainly affect a relationship.

To navigate this difficult time, it's important to find a balance between your emotions and rational thinking. I suggest to take a step back, both physically and emotionally from all of this stress in order to gain a clearer and more neutral perspective on the situation. You need to question her motivations and outcomes while remaining open to new ideas. This way you will not only take her behaviour at face value but also avoid doing something irrational that will cause more harm than good; stay away from the red pill group bias this moment and think about your long term goals and how to action them. The longer you resist reacting, the more time you have to reflect in all of this. Self-assess everything with time.

I can tell you from experience that she may want to fight through tooth and nail to keep you around and keep the relationship going. She may create drama, involve your family, do nice things for you, or rationalize how insignificant her actions were. All I can say is that you have all the leverage in the relationship to end it if you do not want to continue this journey with her. Most people don’t get this chance.

Good luck.

 

[Ricky]

We had a history, so I gave her the benefit of the doubt. Bad idea. People don't change. Women least of all.

We had a kid last year, but he only lived 5 days. I haven't mentioned that yet. I'm a stoic motherfvcker, but some things hurt you

That's what makes this betrayal so bad. And she didn't fvck, just text him bad things about me, and eventually start talking about fvcking

Still hurts somewhere inside me

I don't have much left to hurt

Damn i am sorry about losing your child.

BTW everyone always tries to pile on posters who ask for honest help or feedback on here. Its stupid. I guess since i have a high IQ (advanced degrees in engineering and physics) and am presumably more intelligent than most of the posters here , i can help out a little bit more.

The original poster didn't see red flags, in fact his girlfriend may have been lacking them or quite good at hiding them, so the repetitive posts about that aren't helpful.

He is looking for actionable advice here. Maybe some of you have been through similar things. I know i have.

A clear fact of social psychology is that women tend to be slightly more impulsive than men in many ways. Thats why sales and marketings specialists target them to make purchases now. They tend to be more willing to be influenced to by things in sales etc.

Unfortunately while in prior years dating and romance was more regulated (a woman would be limited to the men that actively approached her in person or those that lived in her area), now the smartphone has created an unregulated market where attention is available easily and any and all old romantic encounters can contact her. So at the first sign of relationship difficulty, you have to deal with an outside influence trying to mate poach.

This situation is extremely common. Of course Occams razor and simplicity says to next, but if any of you other keyboard jockeys want to become great seducers, i think we can find ways too outclass a simp from her past and help the original poster.

1) Keep calm.. all the laws favor women.. even yelling at a woman can get you a DV conviction
2) Keep working on yourself in all ways. A masculine man will almost always outperform a simp
3) You have the home field advantage. She is in your house still
4) Flirt with other women.. as one redpill influencer says sometimes your stay game is the same as your go game. Be ready to replace her if needed. Look and feel your best at all time. Stay confident... this situation is becoming all too common the only reason some of the other posters s^*t on you is that they haven't ran into it because they haven't been living with a woman or in a relationship.

We have to start being helpful to posters..

 

[Ricky]

We had a history, so I gave her the benefit of the doubt. Bad idea. People don't change. Women least of all.

We had a kid last year, but he only lived 5 days. I haven't mentioned that yet. I'm a stoic motherfvcker, but some things hurt you

That's what makes this betrayal so bad. And she didn't fvck, just text him bad things about me, and eventually start talking about fvcking

Still hurts somewhere inside me

I don't have much left to hurt

You both are probably dealing with a lot of trauma from the lost child. I'm not sure the best way to handle that but i feel pretty certain its affected both of your emotions and i feel bad that you've had to go through that together.

 

[New_Journey]

Have you thought about going overseas? There's lots of traditonal minded women

Take it from me, I'm here in The Philippines right now and my Tinder started blowing up when I got here.

Pick one. I'm sure those women from Tinder are very traditional.

Are men in the world this gullible?

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

Pick one. I'm sure those women from Tinder are very traditional.

Are men in the world this gullible?

You can use me as proof of that, I reckon

 

[Travel memoir21]

Pick one. I'm sure those women from Tinder are very traditional.

Are men in the world this gullible?

Honestly, which Country would you rather use your tinder on to find a decent woman? The Philippines or any other countries with a lot of traditional woman or The US of A?

I'm willing to bet you'd pick the former because the US is just skanks galore man. lol

 

[New_Journey]

Same as usual, I'm sure

Women are fickle. I know this

It still sucks to experience it

A woman who considers her man her best option and who respects her man, will not respond to text with sexual things. You're not her best option, otherwise she would have policed herself to not do something to lose you.

You say you're a veteran implying you have experience (an elephant doesn't say how big he is, he jist walks), but you got with a woman cause "you're old and wants kids" women are the ones who say that $hit, men plan ahead and don't need anything from women.

You mentioned you're "short and bald" implying you probably have a hard time getting an woman, therefore are afraid of losing her, if me only reading this, it reeks of insecurity and desperation, imagine what that woman thinks about you, a woman who you spend a lot of time with and have a sixth sense for desperate men.

You're a veteran in years, but you're still a noob in the dating game. You gotta a lot work to do my friend.

 

[Gamisch]

Damn i am sorry about losing your child.

BTW everyone always tries to pile on posters who ask for honest help or feedback on here. Its stupid. I guess since i have a high IQ (advanced degrees in engineering and physics) and am presumably more intelligent than most of the posters here , i can help out a little bit more.

The original poster didn't see red flags, in fact his girlfriend may have been lacking them or quite good at hiding them, so the repetitive posts about that aren't helpful.

He is looking for actionable advice here. Maybe some of you have been through similar things. I know i have.

A clear fact of social psychology is that women tend to be slightly more impulsive than men in many ways. Thats why sales and marketings specialists target them to make purchases now. They tend to be more willing to be influenced to by things in sales etc.

Unfortunately while in prior years dating and romance was more regulated (a woman would be limited to the men that actively approached her in person or those that lived in her area), now the smartphone has created an unregulated market where attention is available easily and any and all old romantic encounters can contact her. So at the first sign of relationship difficulty, you have to deal with an outside influence trying to mate poach.

This situation is extremely common. Of course Occams razor and simplicity says to next, but if any of you other keyboard jockeys want to become great seducers, i think we can find ways too outclass a simp from her past and help the original poster.

1) Keep calm.. all the laws favor women.. even yelling at a woman can get you a DV conviction
2) Keep working on yourself in all ways. A masculine man will almost always outperform a simp
3) You have the home field advantage. She is in your house still
4) Flirt with other women.. as one redpill influencer says sometimes your stay game is the same as your go game. Be ready to replace her if needed. Look and feel your best at all time. Stay confident... this situation is becoming all too common the only reason some of the other posters s^*t on you is that they haven't ran into it because they haven't been living with a woman or in a relationship.

We have to start being helpful to posters..

Telling him the harsh truth will be the best help he can get.

 

[Vanderdonck]

Sorry to hear about all of this. You are 39 bro, that's not old. Get her out of your house so you can have some recovery time.

Personally this is just another affirmation to me that monogamy isn't real. But it's tough if you want kids too. I can guarantee you DON'T want kids with a woman like that - especially if she is also picking fights with you. Don't ruin your life and the kid's.

Date some much younger women and have some fun. Or chill alone a bit. I dunno. I think you're choosing the wrong women as mentioned by another poster.

 

[Gamisch]

"An" idiot

Yes, thank you

You got any better?

You are tripping. Emotionally rollercoasting.

We've ALL been there bro...
but wanting kids(at damn 40) +
being afraid this Is your only /last woman +
She is texting another dude behind your back!!
=
Your in a extremely weak position and whatever you do to keep this relationship alive will be like watering a dead plant.

I get @Ricky his sentiment, but money now. You wanna "out alpha " a dude who gets all thr leverage from her? The REAL problem is you don't love yourself enough. That'd the root of the entire problem. That's why she is straying.

If you really want a kid( why at 40,it's EXTREMELY stressful!) You better dump her, recover and find a woman who TRULY got your back.

 

[Gamisch]

Sorry to hear about all of this. You are 39 bro, that's not old. Get her out of your house so you can have some recovery time.

Personally this is just another affirmation to me that monogamy isn't real. But it's tough if you want kids too. I can guarantee you DON'T want kids with a woman like that - especially if she is also picking fights with you. Don't ruin your life and the kid's.

Date some much younger women and have some fun. Or chill alone a bit. I dunno. I think you're choosing the wrong women as mentioned by another poster.

Whenever I see posts like this I always feel it in my soul. Recently like 4 years ago, famous soccer player who was like a poster boy cheated on his wife. Now ,4 years later she starts spilling information. What stood out the most was when she said: It literary changed my life, my trust in people is gone, I don't think I can ever trust people again.

We always say and act like a cheating woman is just "part of the game". But at the same time it's a blow to your trust that you might never recover from. Only time will tell. But once trust is broken, it can NEVER be recovered. Imo it's like a change is the chemical make up between two people. The formula isn't the same anymore thus the outcomes will be MUCH different from that moment on.

Meanwhile people advice him to actually STAY and FIGHT for his abuser!! She is literally abusing him: she takes his resources , probably feeds his insecurities and simultaneously tries to monkey branche behind his back.

This is a recepy for disaster and will end in violence, sometimes physical but 100% psychological violence. Do we really have to predict how this will end?

OP'S biggest strenght right now is his secret membership of this fightclub where other men with similar experiences guide him . And my advice remains: GTFO.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Trust, like attention and validation, should never be given 'freely', but should be earned.

 

[Ricky]

Its definitely a precarious situation. His girlfriend would have to show remorse or apologize for it to really make up for it. It's very rare for a women to apologize but not so as rare for them to show remorse.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Whenever I see posts like this I always feel it in my soul. Recently like 4 years ago, famous soccer player who was like a poster boy cheated on his wife. Now ,4 years later she starts spilling information. What stood out the most was when she said: It literary changed my life, my trust in people is gone, I don't think I can ever trust people again.

We always say and act like a cheating woman is just "part of the game". But at the same time it's a blow to your trust that you might never recover from. Only time will tell. But once trust is broken, it can NEVER be recovered. Imo it's like a change is the chemical make up between two people. The formula isn't the same anymore thus the outcomes will be MUCH different from that moment on.

When people experience cheating or a series of failures, it can lead to irrational reactions and a feeling of being cursed by bad luck. This mindset often causes hesitation, indecision, and can result in more mistakes, such as overthinking opportunities or avoiding risks altogether.

I think there is more to the story though. It is never just one side at fault.

 

[BaronOfHair]

My old lady is sexting an old boyfriend. From fvcking highschool lol

Or was, until I caught her

I found out recently that you could look up deleted texts on iPhones. Found texts over two months. Started small, but eventually got sexual

So it's definitely over in my mind. I expected it from her, but I can't help but feel apathy

The dude lives 2 states away, doesn't matter. I can never trust her again. Obviously not dumb enough to

Why are all women like this? Lmfao

So we live together. Not married.

She's acting like nothing happened, obviously, but I keep having to remind her that something did. This turns into fights, which ruins my chill

There's not really a point to this. Just wanted y'all to know that veterans get screwed over too

I'm all good. Like I said, I expected it.

But at the same time you always hope it won't go that way

I'm not mad, just apathetic

Events like these do lead one to wonder whether or not Francoist Spain https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wom...during the Franco,Franco was repealed in 1941 was on to something

 

[BillyPilgrim]

OP, why are you so hell-bent on bringing a kid into this phucked up world that's getting discernably worse by the day? Curb this desire and I bet it would be easier to deal with the gf.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

@AmsterdamAssassin maybe you'll see one day too. Boomers had it so easy

That's the thing, he's 10 years too young to be a boomer.

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

OP, why are you so hell-bent on bringing a kid into this phucked up world that's getting discernably worse by the day? Curb this desire and I bet it would be easier to deal with the gf.

Because I love kids and that's our purpose for being alive

The world needs more smart children, not less