Gents usually these women are easy to spot. Here are some markers:
1. First or second date she tells you what pieces of garbage her previous boyfriends are. If I can't hear a woman say that she has had "some" relationships that were good, but didn't work out due to just differences, my radar goes up.
2. She may be hard to get on the hook, but once the relationship starts she's very aggressive in pursuit of you early. It won't feel normal. It'll feel good, but your senses will tell you she's coming on too strong. Now, most guys blow this off because here's where she throws sex to set the hook firmer.
3. As many have said, at about 6-8 weeks they drop a major $hit test at you. It'll either be a blatent lie, a disrespectful move, etc. Either way, she'll do this to see if you a) boot her to the curb or b) let her get away with it. If you let her get away with it.....the games have just begun. You will be in a endless loop of BS until you wind up here on SS hopefully, or commit suicide, or break free on your own.
The more important question I ask is not about the Cluster B personality people out there. The question I ask is Why did we let that person into our lives? If you have a good network of family, and friends, and faith, or whatever you want to use as a compass you will recognize these personalities and not fall prey to them. You wouldn't be spending an inordinate amout of time writing about it. You'd recognize her at date 1-3 and even if she's smoking hot you'd pass. Guys that fool themselves thinking they'd keep her around as a FB, one nighter, etc. are foolish. They are playing with fire.
My own exposure with a Cluster B is very similar to others. Hook set early with sex and agressive pursuit. I was pedestalized, then when I started acting like a boyfriend all hell broke loose. I was disrespected, lied to, etc. Fortunately I had faith and friends that helped me break free from the cycle. Once I did, the MASSIVE hoover went into effect, she tried even harder to get me back, saying things that she never said in the relationship to win me back. I used legal means to break free. Only once in a great while now does she try to contact me. I usually laugh, because I know it's probably because some other guy has figured out her game and tossed her out of his life. I guess I should celebrate that another AFC has come to open his eyes. If only it weren't so devastating a process to get there.
KC
