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From what you described, I didn't see that you ever asked for her number before asking to meet. I've always had a phone conversation before meeting anyone from an online contact. So -- go back and get her number, then try again. That said, this doesn't look promising. A high online IL is...

Okay, one step at a time here, Frank. Let's start with an attitude adjustment. Approaching women should never be, as you put it, a "task." As long as you think it is, women will sense it and pull away. Instead, make it fun. Try different things when talking with women. In particular...

Damn good book. It was written by the late, great Dr. Maltz in the Fifties, yet it's still pertinent and effective to this day. He was a plastic surgeon who was uniquely qualified to write that book, as it was inspired by his experiences with his patients.

Field Tested and Proven I get questions like this, or at least close variants, all the time and my answer is pretty well fine-tuned. Married, divorced, never married, whatever, my answer is always: "It's not what I was, or how long I was it, what I am now is single. And you know what? I...

Frank, walking is great, but you'll probably need to do more. Start thinking about hitting the weights, dude. Luckily, you're starting slender, so you'll probably put on muscle easier than many other men. And, wow, are you lucky you live in New Jersey. You are local to the largest...

Wow. This is an interesting thread. All I can say is, Frank, you've come to the right place to get the guidance to get you on the right track. But you'll have to trust us and what you read here, as much of it is counter intuitive at first blush. If you have very limited dating...

Posted by Pook awhile ago: "Get all this crock out of your head about a woman maturing and seeing your 'wisdom' and 'maturity'. It will never happen. Women remain women. The prettier she is, the MORE blatant she will be woman and do all the things you hate that women do."...

Definitely go the dress shirt and khaki route -- and make sure they're cleaned and pressed properly. If you're not good at ironing, take them to the dry cleaners and have them do it. It's cheap insurance. Heck, you can go up to an hour or so on the first meeting; just make sure you end it...

Make it a short date, definitely. Even so, you'll need to plan for it. I have a lot of experience in this area and have finally got it down fairly well. A few pointers. Even if it's a coffee date, make it at a location that will reflect well on you. Which means, perhaps a Starbucks if...

I'm not going to get into a long-winded rant here, but what Mystery Woman says is not universal truth. I've had women who've waited longer than the time period she states and, let me tell you, in all cases except one it was well worth the wait! The key is this: other than intercourse, how...

Setting up a specific time for a phone call? Say what? I've never done this and I must say it's as AFC as it comes. If you want to gauge interest level, do it some other way. Because, if you do it by setting a "date" for a damn phone call, you'll have an effect on IL, alright -- you'll...

Re: Re: NLP I work in the ad business, and I can tell you categorically that so-called "subliminal suggestion" is a bunch of baloney. It was tried by a few experimenters in the 1950s and it didn't work at all. It's the Abominable Snowman of advertising. People think they see it, but it...

The Key Word Here is "FEEL:" You nailed it, Francisco! "Feel" is the operative word here. And how do we want a woman to "feel?" Freaking great, that's how. For God's sake, guys, keep it simple. Do whatever you have to do to BE FUN and share the experience. Not one woman alive...

After getting snapped awhile back by an HB9 for my less-than-optimal footwear, I have to agree about the woman/shoe connection. I have a theory on this. Women love to accessorize, whether it's jewelry, handbags, shoes, or hats. These days, women are traveling lighter -- hangbags have gotten...

Most often, ****y+funny works when the emphasis is on funny, delivered in a teasing-playful manner with some challenge thrown in for good measure. For instance: Her: "I can't quite figure you out." You: "I can't figure me out, either. When you do, type it up double-spaced and have a...

Pardon me if I disagree a bit, but except for the "nice guys" one, I'd say these are reasonable expectations -- and realistic feedback. Which is unusual, because most times women do a lousy job of expressing what they want in a man. Mind you, they're not saying a guy has to have all these...

Just spoke to a lady friend about all this metrosexual stuff. She's well aware of it and totally turned off by it. My take on it is this -- If you're going "metro," stay in the closet. And lock the door behind you.

If she's living with her folks and doesn't have her own number, then make it between nine and ten. Otherwise, go to the 9:00 to 10:30 bracket. Keep it light. Keep it funny. Tease her some. Hang loose. And keep it under 15 minutes. Then go for the date, set it up and get off the damn...

Dear Mr. Latte: Go ahead and enjoy your life, get tons o' tail and everyone else will do likewise in their own way. You don't need to justify your lifestyle here. If it works for you, then...great! This thread is taking up way too much bandwidth for its own good.

Re: Where were you all.... Give it a few weeks, have a blast in the meantime, then go get your stuff and get the hell her out of her life -- and get her out of yours. By the way, this forum isn't necessarily a support group for jilted guys. It's place that teaches men how to change...