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http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=30085 is the prequel to this thread. Maybe she has ESP, but my posting here might have transmitted some brain waves to her because last night she called to ask if she could come over so we could talk. Even though she's got great...

In your post, you repeatedly said "I don't want to mess up". Guess what, you've already messed up by approaching this from a negativitistic point of view. Not wanting to mess up, is very different from 'wanting to succeed'. Self-talk is paramount, so change how you express yourself and talk...

Really, you handled this well, but at some point you KNOW you're going to have to put your foot down because my gut tells me this girl is testing you. The proper thing for her to do would have been to answer him later. The fact that he's a complete AFC and still wants her shows me she's a...

Dating a girl right now and weighing what to do with her. We've been dating for awhile now and on paper she has a lot to offer. She's educated with a nice job, has her own place that she's fixed up pretty good and has read literature and traveled a few places in the world, so she's...

Much moreso than humans, animals are attracted to aromas of other animals. When female animals are in 'heat' (sexually ready to reproduce) they give off a kind of 'musk' smell that is very apparent to other animals of that species. Compared to animals, humans have very weak sense of smell...

There is a very popular book, available at most decent book stores called "CoDependent No More" by Melodie Beattie. It's available in paperback so it's not so expensive. You'll probably also find a copy in the library. It deals with jealousy and why it is you feel that way. You might be...

Anyone who likes you will help you like them. She is in this country, therefore knows the culture here. The fact that you would be interested in her culture as well should be a bonus. The thing is, attraction is universal. Ask for her home number, then proceed as you would any other...

My dictionary defines "charisma" thus: 1) a divinely conferred gift or power 2) the special quality that gives an individual influence or authority over large numbers of people 3) the special virtue of an office, position, etc., that confers or is thought to confer on the person holding it...

Between 7 and 9pm, but it could be stretched to 6:30 to 9:30. Any earlier or later could be construed as desperate or rude. Coupled with the time is the frequency. You should call no more frequently than once every hour if she's not home, which ideally means 3 times per evening. If you call...

This is the only type of answer I will leave when it seems there is no other way: "Hi, this is RK. I'm trying to get in touch with you, but you're not home. I'll try later." Again this is a LAST RESORT. The reason I like this message is that it doesn't tell her what I want to say...

Agreed. I used to hang with a male slut/natural Don Juan. He was an aircraft mechanic who had the face and hair to be on the cover of GQ. He worked out a lot and watched his diet so that he had a hard body. He also frequented all the dance clubs in town and knew how to dance. Every time I...

IF IT AIN'T BROKE, DON'T FIX IT! The method you've been using is working for you. Lesson learned: No matter what she says, keep doing it. And what method is it that's working for you? You already told us: "...i hadn't called or payed any attention to her lately..." Do you see the...

Self-centered Haughty Stuck-up Demanding Impossible to please Domineering Self-aggrandizing Low self esteem Flaky

The sex was bad. Rather, it wasn't as good as she had dreamed. Is this a bad thing? No, because she might have dreamed of fireworks exploding as she had powerful orgasms. Or she dreamed of toe-curling sessions as all her problems disappeared. Or more cynically, she saw you as someone she...

Awright, sorry to zing so much. Did it leave a bruise? :p Quoting from your last post: "...[what] I'm trying to avoid here is the feeling that I'm wasting valuable time" Is this a Freudian slip or what? You are already thinking this is a lost cause. Recognize your own internal...

Zaius, wassupwiddis? Has this girl seriously gotten under your skin in an unhealty one-itis way? You said she lives on a street near your house. Be honest with yourself, does this provide you with the added bonus of being able to keep tabs on her? Maybe you need to purposely AVOID that...

CONFUSION ALERT! CONFUSION ALERT! Feeling confused is itself a red flag. You caught her in a lie. Confusion #1. You asked her on a specific date, she answered in a confusing way. Confusion #2. Now you're going down that dead-end road of trying to figure it out. Anyone who likes...

It's not your job to entertain her. That said, it's best if you 'have a life' and purusits of your own to talk about. It's best if you're aware of the world around you, current events and have a ground in something so that you're not like a flag in the breeze that goes whichever way the wind...

http://www.sosuave.com/articles/bachelor.htm

You "can't not" ask her out. If you don't ask her out, you know you'll always wonder "what if..." As a man, as a DJ, you MUST make the move. However, you must have NO expectations of success, especially at this point. The time to strike would have been a few days after you first saw her...