If You Have To Leave A Message, What Do You Say?

[Disco]

I have a person that I have been friends with forever. Anyway a friend of hers noticed my picture and started asking questions about me about three weeks ago. She gave my friend her number and asked if she could get the number to me. I got it. About a week ago I tried to call, but only recieved her voice mail. I didn't leave a message. I'm going to try again tonight, but if she doesn't answer I do need to leave a message. Even though I don't know this person (she's supposedly hot!), I need to leave a message for my friend's sake. I respect him a lot and don't want him to think I just blew it off. Question? I know the chances of this girl calling me back are like 20% tops, but what to say what to say. I'm going to be in her town this weekend and I thought about something like this. "Hi, Mary. This is John Smith, George's friend. I'm going to be in Davistown this weekend and thought it would be nice if we could get together for dinner. If your up for it give me a call back at <<<<<<<<. I'll talk to you soon.

 

[RKTek]

This is the only type of answer I will leave when it seems there is no other way:

"Hi, this is RK. I'm trying to get in touch with you, but you're not home. I'll try later."


Again this is a LAST RESORT. The reason I like this message is that it doesn't tell her what I want to say, rather tantalizes her curiosity.

 

[anakin]

If You Have To Leave A Message, What Do You Say?

Breathe heavily...then say "I can smell your cvnt from here".

 

[DJMaC23]

I never leave messages but if I HAD to I'd go with RKTek's approach

 

[TesuqueRed]

Leave a message where?

Home? Don't.

She has caller ID and will know you called. Her friend will probably have given her your number, so don't make excuses about her not knowing it's you. Even if he didn't, don't make excuses about her not knowing it's you since women aced Phone Management 101 back in 3rd grade and she can figure out it was you.

Cell? Don't.

She has it on her and knows that you're calling (see above for why.) The first 1-2 times she'll play "I'm not here"--then she'll get over it and pick up. Or she won't. How desperate are you for a chick you've never seen? You're grooving on some fantasy and now you're about to get into chasing a girl you've never seen (this is what leaving msgs will look like to her...)

As for your buddy--let's say she doesn't pick up and he asks, you can simply tell him you tried a few times and she doesn't bother answering, so he needs to get a better number or she needs to pick up. Throw it back on them.

 

[gr8one]

LoL @ Anakin...

I would just breathe heavily, but not say a word.

 

[htemorp]

damn caller id, without caller id, I'll probably leave messages less often. anyhow, I agree with Rktek, just say your name, you called...I often leave my number and say call back?

 

[neo12535]

To TesuqueRed,

Why not assume she wasn't home and didn't have the number.. Seems like he is from out of town so it shows up on the caller id as "out of area" so she doesn't know who called. And maybe she doesn't have caller id and doesn't even know he called. Now, if it was a cell phone that he called maybe she didn't know the number and didn't call it back or doesn't have the feature on the phone like a caller id and has no idea he called...

People on this site that are "experts" always seem to think the girls are against everybody. Just cause a girl ignores and dislikes you or doesn't return your calls, doesnt mean this one is. Girls always call me back if I leave my name or whatever, thats what message machines are for.

 

[StuartScott x 2]

I used to not leave messages until I started to use some common sense.

A long time ago my friend made a call, the girl wasn't home and he left a message, so I asked him if he always left messages and he said

"yeh, I'm obviously calling for a reason and if I can't get in touch with the person I'm calling, I'll leave them a message to tell them what I'm calling for and to call back"

Made sense to me so I started doing it. If the girl is interested, she'll call back. It doesn't matter anyway, she'll know you called regardless b/c of caller ID so what's the use of hiding and why try to hide the fact you called anyway.

Unless you're gonna be away from your house/cell phone, then you say something like, "I'll try calling you back later"

If not, just tell her to call you back and leave your phone number. I usually say something like, "If I'm not home, leave me a message and I'll call you back"

 

[TesuqueRed]

To Neo-etc...

Originally posted by neo12535
To TesuqueRed,

Why not assume she wasn't home and didn't have the number..
Because that's what she wants you to think.

Because I did assume that and still think that not leaving the msg is better, whether she has caller ID or not.

Because I work with a couple of 20-something chicks (left, right, and somewhere over there..) who I get to watch manage their social and dating life via cell phones all day at work. They know who's calling, they tend to guess unknown numbers with a high degree of accuracy, and they freely editorialize about said caller before deciding to answer or not answer. I underestimated their abilities on the cell phone--any woman with over 1 week's possession of a cell phone is a cool and practiced professional.

And because these women are not the exception.

Seems like he is from out of town so it shows up on the caller id as "out of area" so she doesn't know who called. And maybe she doesn't have caller id and doesn't even know he called.

Unlikely, but if it makes you feel better, think that. In fact, most AFCs jump immediately to that conclusion and will work at it until they're convinced of it. Party on, dude.

Now, if it was a cell phone that he called maybe she didn't know the number and didn't call it back or doesn't have the feature on the phone like a caller id and has no idea he called...

Maybe maybe maybe maybe.

Yeah, maybe. What's the point of this line of thinking? That "I" could be wrong? No shyt. Yeah, I thought of those likelihoods (see above re chicks at work) but this is getting less and less possible nowadays since these "features" are not really features anymore but are standard (check with all your friends and see which ones got the stripped down no-features pkg and compare with the ones that got every feature they could get.)

And what if one of these "maybes" of yours was an actual event? What did he lose not leaving a msg?

My experience (see chicks at work above explanation) is that these "maybes" are low percentage events. What I detailed in my post above are much higher percentage events.

Go with the odds.

And he'll run into her later, or he can call again later, or he can do any number of things that lets him retain the control and the momentum.

People on this site that are "experts" always seem to think the girls are against everybody.

Go to my post and quote the line where I claim to be an "expert". Or are you reading that interpretation into things....? Or does the MDJ thing wig you out? I didn't put it there, btw, and I can't seem to remove it either...

Go to my post and quote the line where I always seem to think the girls are against everybody. I said and implied no such thing. This reveals more of your bias, actually, and has little to do with what I said.

Just cause a girl ignores and dislikes you or doesn't return your calls, doesnt mean this one is.

Doh!!!! That hurt! Yep---that's where I got that bit of advise--from my bitter experience.

Girls always call me back if I leave my name or whatever,...

We'll have to take your word for it, won't we? As above, your reading comprehension and general interpretive skills need upgrading, so how's about we put that little bit of self-serving self-revelation of your's on ice for the moment?

... thats what message machines are for.

Yeah, no shyt...I was wonderin' all these years and now it comes clear. Thanks Neo-etc.

 

[Ofus]

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http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=19253#post159421