Asking out girl from another race

[mahon83050]

I am white and there is a cute Indian girl who works in the 7-11 I frequent. I asked her name the other day and I told her mine. Now, everytime I go in there she says Hi "John" and asks me why I am not buying baseball cards today(sometimes I buy a pack) I get good vibes from this chick and would have made a move already if she were white. It has nothing to do with racism (so do not go there) and I find some Indian girls pretty. However, this is a girl with a culture so different from mine I would feel awkward asking her out. How the hell do I do it with all the other Indian co-workers around?

 

[princelydeeds]

Indian chicks are tough, there culture is waaaay waaay different. I wouldnt approach if others are around. The social pressures are waayyy different. They usually do everything their familes say. I don't know how Americanized she is but if shes not dont try her unless you can get her totally alone. Thats my two cents.

 

[RKTek]

Anyone who likes you will help you like them. She is in this country, therefore knows the culture here. The fact that you would be interested in her culture as well should be a bonus.

The thing is, attraction is universal.

Ask for her home number, then proceed as you would any other woman. If she really likes you, she'll help you and this should be a test of her attraction: how much she helps you. Any cultural differences, to me, would be a point of interest and not a stumbling block.

I've dated women from England, Russia and China and have found those to be the most interesting BECAUSE OF the cultural differences.

Be a DJ and ask for her home number. If she gives it, go from there. All DJ rules apply.

 

[vectorz]

Originally posted by mahon83050
I am white and there is a cute Indian girl who works in the 7-11 I frequent.

LOL, I thought you were being funny at first.

 

[jakethasnake]

Mahon, I don't see why it would be a problem. If you can find another 7-11 to frequent in case things get awkward, I think you should go for it.

 

[Y Trallwng Am Byth]

Just don't ask her out "for a drink some time".

 

[Ronin I]

If you feel awkward I would try and wait until no one else is around - but you definitely have to at least try.

Indian girls are awesome in that they have good values and are very loyal.

Don't miss out on the opportunity if you think there is one. Don't let YOUR perceived cultural differences stop you. In my experience Indian girls bring the best of both worlds to the table in that they live here in the US so are forced to assimilate to the culture somewhat (ie dating white dudes, etc) but they usually are very loyal and have very strong family values (contrary to many, many US girls). Also, not to stereotype too much but in my experience they are usually pretty intelligent and have their act together.

Unfortunately I am very picky looks wise and am only attracted very light/fair skinned girls. But, a hot, light skinned Indian girl is definitely worth pursuing.

 

[Shiftkey]

Just because she's of Indian decent it doesn't mean she's of a different culture. I've dated girls who aren't white (me being white) and for the most part they were completely Americanized.

 

[anakin]

LOL vectorz, I thought the same.

Mahon, applying the fundamental DJ principles will get you the girl, of course women are different, yet fundamentally the DJ system is universal. C+F, mystery, charm, confidence, challenge, etc...

You are only letting the your mind pull you back. You still are not happy within yourself - that is hindering your development Mahon. You need to develop the right attitude (something I keep going on about for those who know me) because until you do, you will always be a robot mimicking certain actions or things rather going through them with passion and desire.

It's because you are too self-critical, your mind has a certain attitude to what you ought to be and you realise that you are not. Yet you do little at the same time to help yourself - real soul searching ... don't take this the wrong way, I'm only trying to help, but I sincerely think that your preoccupation with all things PHYSICAL and TANGIBLE hinder you. Your self-critical behaviour about your looks is but one example (and yes, I've been here a long time and I remember seeing the pic you posted - and just because Wyldfire said you looked like a cartoon character or something like that - you took it real personally). Most of us thought you were OK looking. Those who haven't seen you from what you describe yourself to be think you must be some kind of monster...and you know that is far, far from reality.

I'm writing this because this issue about the Indian girl is not really what matters. It is only a side-issue. It is you who is the issue. It is you who is hindering yourself.

Deal with it. It is only when you confront this that the other things will fall into place. You, your dreams, desires, goals are primary, women are secondary. Once you sort out the person who is Mahon, you will approach the female world with a whole new perspective and added confidence and composure.


Anakin

 

[Who is John Galt?]

Just curious, what "race" do you think Indians are part of?

I agree with shiftkey, to assume she has not assimilated into "mainstream" American culture is prejudiced. The fact of the matter is that most people who are considered "foreign" in the USA(basically anyone who doesn't have white or black skin...)have assimilated. Assimilation is simply natural after you are in a nation for a long time, or grew up there. The only potential problem is that conservative Indian parents don't allow their kids to date. However, just ask her out. If her family doesn't like it what are they going to do? Ban you from their store, lol?

I don't think you're a racist but you are certainly prejudiced. Would you be hesitating to ask out a white European immigrant who came here 2 days ago? Don't take this personal but I, a person who does not have sacred white or black skin, am sick and tired of being considered a person who just got off the Boeing 5 minutes ago due to my skin color. I was born here, my father works for the feds, and probably know more about the country than 99% of the people my age but I'm still considered a damn foreigner. I just had to get that off my chest.

 

[gr8one]

Ask her out already!

"Don't be a WUSSY" - Papa Titus

 

[drixsa]

what you do is :

go up to her when she is at the front of the counter

then ask her to help you with somethin way in the back

doesnt really matter what it is

then jus make small talk for like a minute and ask for her number

there ,its a sinch

 

[DJ de Florida]

Originally posted by mahon83050
I am white and there is a cute Indian girl who works in the 7-11 I frequent.

Just don't ask her if she likes the character Apu on the Simpson's before you ask for the number.

If there is a language problem, just make sure that your intentions are known that you are interested in her in a dating sense. Didn't you date a South American a long time ago? Same situation. Just do what you would normally do.

 

[trajhenkhet]

For some, a difference is a hinderince, for others, an advantage. Think of it as an opportunity to learn how things work and proceed from there.

 

[Cremasta]

Personally I like the Indian colouring, especially if there is a bit of caucasian thrown in somewhere (nice facial structure).

Agree with Ronin about the values and loyalty.

Try the C&F and ask her if her parents have arranged her marriage already.

 

[Paranoid]

Being an indian myself,I would like to tell you that most of the females back here have started opening themselves to the idea of dating...and parents have started supporting this idea too...so unless this girl's parents are extremely conservative..you shouldnt have too much problem.

Another thing you should keep in mind is..if she agrees to go out on a date...keep the kino a lil easy...and everything else should fall into its place.