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I'm 30 and am completely gray due to my genes, it runs in the family. Until I was 27 I dyed my hair. Then I just quit because of the time I spent at a hairsalon and because it's not that good for my hair anyway. But I honestly don't feel confident when I'm going out, you can hear people think...

Couple of years ago I worked with a girl at a bar. She was and is ugly, I'd rate her a 3. That plus the fact she was only 18 and had the typical teen mentality. Now because I had no attraction to her whatsoever, I basically did what I wanted. When she did something that I didn't like, I called...

Little update about today Had to work with her today for 2 hours. And as I said I was feeling not as good as the other days so in my opinion it all went to ****. We were talking about our plans during the weekend, due to some conversation I just told her I’m shy around girls (after 5 years on...

Past few days I've pushed myself in a few more conversations I would normally not start. Touched girls on their shoulders when giving them a kiss on the cheek (welcome greeting where I live). Tried to hold eye contact longer,... Long way to go, but it feels good. Lets hope I can keep this...

Thanks a lot for all your responses. It's amazing you can achieve it in 4 weeks, but I always feel it's something you have to have in you to be able to go from bottom to top that fast. I'm going to throw myself in social situations. I don't encounter many, but going to try to get the most out of...

I've had my blood taken a few months ago, they said everything was ok. I do always feel like I don't have enough testosteron as I feel myself as a pathetic nice guy who is afraid of conflict. I fap once a week and don't watch porn. I'll buy some extra zinc as I just read about the symptoms of a...

How my life looks: I have an amazing job where I only have to work for an average of 5h a day. The trip there takes about 45m, so lets just say all included I work 7h a day. When I get home or before work, depending on the shift, I go to the gym. I spend an average of 1h there. But then I get...

My current schedule is a three day split, advice is always helpfull because to be honest, through all the info you can find on the internet, I honestly don't know anymore what is good or bad. I'm not really hungry but I do eat something every 1-2 hours during the day between lunch and dinner...

Thanks all for your replies. One thing that struck me today is the fact I never thought about giving up. I was a bit down when I came home from work, but I just went to the gym and gave it all I got, it's a good feeling. In the past when something like this would have happened thoughts like...

Hi guys Been going to the gym for over 4 years now, the results are not what it should be. Reason is my diet. I've tried eating a surplus of calories, but it's hard for me to eat more even though I'm full. So I tend to seek solution in shakes. But I have my thoughts about the health issues...

I've been forcing myself into more conversations, just talking more and trying to keep a conversation going by asking follow up questions. But I still have such low self-esteem that I feel it shows on the way I ask questions or try to put in a joke or a tease. When I'm at home, I feel good, I...

I don’t think I’ll ever completely cut back even though I told so in the first post, but after thinking about it... I also want girls who don’t mind a drink. The few girlfriends I had also liked a drink and there is something to getting drunk together. The sex than was also more uninhibited and...

Hi guys Since february till about the end of september I've been drinking 2-3 beers a day. During the weekends it was even more when I was out with friends. Even though this was not extreme and I did this because I was emotionally a bit down, I felt this was not a good lifestyle. My work or gym...

Some thoughts I have on NC. In the past before I knew this forum I had a horrible break up and kept in contact with her as much as possible. I did some pretty pathetic stuff (showing up at her window in the middle of the night,...). I still see her from time to time and I still ‘ignore’ her...

We all have our goals to achieve in the new year. I am one of them, but will I achieve them? Well have a look at my threads this year and especially my latest one. I will give it my very best. But, and I know this is a wrong attitude to start this new year, my hopes are very low. I am getting...

My dad passed away when I was about 12 years old yes. Although I only became like this when I was 21 after a very hard breakup. I think my youth was quite 'ok', beside the absence of a father figure. I will definitely not keep doing this as I realize this is very very pathetic and I know I have...

Hi This may sound pathetic, but I find that imagining that you're in a relationship or that you're girlfriend is beside you, might make you realize how you need to behave in an alpha way. Yes, like I said, this looks like you're a 6 year old boy with imaginary friends. But perhaps this might...

Hand in pocket, sign of insecurity. And no he looks badass. It's just that I've read so much stuff, too much. Every single thing I analyze and it's just too much. In a sense I'm happy I discovered this site, in another sense not. I know much more, but want to apply it all that it has the...

Are there any good books that go into how to build social skills? I've read books on body language and stuff, but not on talking or what to say etc.

Hi Every thread I post starts the same "I've posted many threads with this kind of subject". Well unfortunately this isn't going to be any different. I have some things I wanted. A high paying job and apparently I'm not that bad looking. But truth is I will trade it in the blink of a second...