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Great post. I have found that in an LTR, there are times to use silence and distance and there are times to be very direct (maybe even aggressive) about establishing your boundaries and calling the woman out on her bad behavior. Sometimes, I think the woman can misinterpret S&D as you...

This is the right move. On one hand I am a little unclear on what your relationship exactly is. You say it has been going for 20 years -- so clearly you have some considerable history. What that history is may influence what advice we would give. Regardless, I think String nailed it. If you...

Actually, sex was never a major problem with my ex wife. That was still fairly regular until about the last 4-5 months when the end was becoming very imminent. The relationship, however, had trouble for a number of years for other reasons unrelated and to which aren't worth bogging this thread...

7 years was my longest -- and a couple of points of interest: 1. I could still be in that relationship if I didn't mind being miserable; and 2. I should have exited that relationship probably about two years earlier than I did -- but stayed due to my daughter.

Generally speaking, communication IS important in a relationship. Many times, you need to let her know what your boundaries are, and the only way to usually do that is to let her know in a direct and firm manner when she has crossed one of them. I have found that usually women are very poor...

Because she isn't going to change. So if she cheated before, had 1000 male orbiters before, was a black hole financially before, was physically violent before, etc. etc. - it's not whether it will happen again but when it will happen again. Women (and really people generally speaking) very...

Good post. I have experienced this as well. Not so much with the mundane tasks, but with my LTR not caring for my friends and trying to make me give them up by throwing a little tantrum every time I head out with a couple of guys she doesn't care for. It would be easy to give in and tell her I...

Murk, It sounds like you flat out just don't like this chick that much. I am guessing if she was very hot and interesting you wouldn't care that she asked you multiple times if you are cold. And you likely would be fine taking her out more often because she would look good next to you. You...

I have known many women that have 1-2 and I wouldn't say it signified anything. However, women who have many tattoos (4+), have "sleeves," or any type of facial tattoo generally are flashing you with red lights that they are crazy. Granted they many times are very adventurous in bed so they tend...

It isn't so much that this place is toxic as much as you sound incredibly blue pilled -- especially for a guy who apparently was active at one point back in 2017 here. You are completely plugged into the matrix right now, brother. You told a girl who you haven't had sex with that you love her...

If a woman is going for just a hookup with a man, it will be about: 1. Looks 2. Confidence 3. Social Status (includes $$) If a woman is going for an LTR with a man, it will be about: 1. Social Status (includes $$) 2. Confidence 3. Looks This is based solely off of my experience. If you are...

70k is a lot different than 9k. That said, you are kind of on the cusp where you could experience some of that. Certain venues will have the same people in them routinely that you could run into at 70k. Overall, you should be fine in a place that size population-wise.

I agree with your list. With one exception. Having lived in a small town (pop. 9000), I can tell you that you can quickly develop a reputation if you try to approach multiple women within said town. I moved to a small metro soon after my divorce (pop. 150000) and never had a problem thereafter...

Agreed our society is going through major changes. Some for the better, many for the worse. Am I reading this correctly that you believe our society is becoming more moral? If so, I am speechless. Part of the reason that women - especially those you meet on OLD - are becoming so pointless to...

Contrary to what some other guys are saying about the hospital line being "cringe" - if you had the appropriate delivery for it and in the right setting it could work. However, sometimes women don't want to be bothered. This chick definitely did not want to be bothered and did not want to talk...

Women like good looking men. That isn't exactly an epiphany that can be claimed by "black pill." My problem is that many men who identify as "black pill" typically see limitations in themselves instead of potential. It really boils down to that.

"There would be no reason to drop me." Brother, women don't require "reasons" to do anything they do. They are inherently unreasonable creatures and function based upon their whims and their whims alone. Expecting her to follow some rational way of thinking as to whether she nexts you or not is...

Still a great place for seducers. Don't let the minor (but very vocal) contingents scare you off.

By itself, being short should not drastically affect your ability to get laid unless you are like a sub 5'4. I see short guys (under 5'8) who are with decent looking women often. Now, if you are 5'3, never work out, and look like you are barely put together, yes, a picture is worth 1000 words...

Your fact of being an only child means nothing in the context of this woman not being interested in you. However, you acting in a certain way may have definitely turned her off. Her mention of you being an only child as the reason for the way you were acting may have been tongue in cheek...