Life's a B1tch

[Vending Machine Veteran]

OP, why are you so hell-bent on bringing a kid into this phucked up world that's getting discernably worse by the day? Curb this desire and I bet it would be easier to deal with the gf.

Because I love kids and that's our purpose for being alive

The world needs more smart children, not less

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

That's the thing, he's 10 years too young to be a boomer.

He's at least 65

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

Its definitely a precarious situation. His girlfriend would have to show remorse or apologize for it to really make up for it. It's very rare for a women to apologize but not so as rare for them to show remorse.

I mentioned we were trying to have a kid. So that's my "fvck you" to her.

I have power over that, don't i

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

Whenever I see posts like this I always feel it in my soul. Recently like 4 years ago, famous soccer player who was like a poster boy cheated on his wife. Now ,4 years later she starts spilling information. What stood out the most was when she said: It literary changed my life, my trust in people is gone, I don't think I can ever trust people again.

We always say and act like a cheating woman is just "part of the game". But at the same time it's a blow to your trust that you might never recover from. Only time will tell. But once trust is broken, it can NEVER be recovered. Imo it's like a change is the chemical make up between two people. The formula isn't the same anymore thus the outcomes will be MUCH different from that moment on.

Meanwhile people advice him to actually STAY and FIGHT for his abuser!! She is literally abusing him: she takes his resources , probably feeds his insecurities and simultaneously tries to monkey branche behind his back.

This is a recepy for disaster and will end in violence, sometimes physical but 100% psychological violence. Do we really have to predict how this will end?

OP'S biggest strenght right now is his secret membership of this fightclub where other men with similar experiences guide him . And my advice remains: GTFO.

Good post

My secret strength is that I was raised on this website

I made a strategic decision to put a baby in her.

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

I don't want or need advice.

I was putting my situation here for men to learn from

I'll respond to questions that might help men be better

I might also not check in for a couple weeks

 

[Clockwerk50]

When people experience cheating or a series of failures, it can lead to irrational reactions and a feeling of being cursed by bad luck. This mindset often causes hesitation, indecision, and can result in more mistakes, such as overthinking opportunities or avoiding risks altogether.

I don't want or need advice.

I was putting my situation here for men to learn from

I'll respond to questions that might help men be better

I might also not check in for a couple weeks

I guess you can share what really happened that led her to consider to monkey branch and entertain the advances of another guy. This way, it can serve as a warning to others in their relationships.

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

I guess you can share what really happened that led her to consider to monkey branch and entertain the advances of another guy. This way, it can serve as a warning to others in their relationships.

It's weird, nothing changed at all. That's the funny thing, you expect to notice changes: they start acting distant. Or they stop having sex with you. Something.

She always acted normal. And she's been trying to be more nice since I caught her, obviously. Trying to blow me more often. Clean the house more

I should have caught her sexting sooner!

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

I run some mean dread game. Always have

That definitely factors in.

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

I run some mean dread game. Always have

That definitely factors in.

Every man should master dread game

 

[Vanderdonck]

Whenever I see posts like this I always feel it in my soul. Recently like 4 years ago, famous soccer player who was like a poster boy cheated on his wife. Now ,4 years later she starts spilling information. What stood out the most was when she said: It literary changed my life, my trust in people is gone, I don't think I can ever trust people again.

We always say and act like a cheating woman is just "part of the game". But at the same time it's a blow to your trust that you might never recover from. Only time will tell. But once trust is broken, it can NEVER be recovered. Imo it's like a change is the chemical make up between two people. The formula isn't the same anymore thus the outcomes will be MUCH different from that moment on.

Meanwhile people advice him to actually STAY and FIGHT for his abuser!! She is literally abusing him: she takes his resources , probably feeds his insecurities and simultaneously tries to monkey branche behind his back.

This is a recepy for disaster and will end in violence, sometimes physical but 100% psychological violence. Do we really have to predict how this will end?

OP'S biggest strenght right now is his secret membership of this fightclub where other men with similar experiences guide him . And my advice remains: GTFO.

Agreed. I mean, I think people are generally apt to cheat, that's just human nature moreso than monogamy is. BUT I also think that no matter where you are in life as a man, you can handle what comes at you. Take the L and move on. It's not even an L necessarily. She showed who she was. He's not tied down to her in any way other than emotionally. Women will exploit those emotions but if he's truly a stoic as he says, starting over won't be so bad.

 

[Chow Mein]

What do you think went wrong for her to do this?

You might not want to share with the forum, but self introspection could help after you’ve let off some steam.

 

[Ricky]

Look what he is going through has become absolutely rampant now. I work in healthcare with 80 percent of women. I'm an expert at getting women to open up to me.. i let out a secret of mine.. they give out 10 of theirs.

Almost all women are talking to other men behind their backs. Almost all of them. Its a reality we have to deal with in the smartphone era.

Either we evolve and develop strategies to deal with their hypergamous instincts or we don't.

This is not 1997 when i got my first cell phone but there was no text. This is not 2007 right before the first smart phone was released and all we had is texting. This is 2024 when the entire world of thirsty men and simps are available to waste a woman time and attention.

We need to regain our focus. I am going to make a post about improvements we can all make. We all need to evolve as the game changes.

 

[Gamisch]

Look what he is going through has become absolutely rampant now. I work in healthcare with 80 percent of women. I'm an expert at getting women to open up to me.. i let out a secret of mine.. they give out 10 of theirs.

Almost all women are talking to other men behind their backs. Almost all of them. Its a reality we have to deal with in the smartphone era.

Either we evolve and develop strategies to deal with their hypergamous instincts or we don't.

This is not 1997 when i got my first cell phone but there was no text. This is not 2007 right before the first smart phone was released and all we had is texting. This is 2024 when the entire world of thirsty men and simps are available to waste a woman time and attention.

We need to regain our focus. I am going to make a post about improvements we can all make. We all need to evolve as the game changes.

Oke in that case men should also lower their expectations . The outcome, or I'd say ,the final "product" from your description will be "the azzhole". You know, the type of man who doesn't care if she does whatever because he never trusted her to begin with.

I can tell you that then all of a sudden women will do ANYTHING to get some emotions put of you.

There's no excuse for such behavior when you have a covenant with a woman. I get what you're tryung to do, but simultaneously, despite all your good efforts your advice might be more harmful than you want. We're not talking Texting but Sexting my friend. That's a few levels beyond normal contact as the other dude basically already had her mind....

Regain focus? I agree with that part tho.

 

[BaronOfHair]

We had a kid last year, but he only lived 5 days. I haven't mentioned that yet. I'm a stoic motherfvcker, but some things hurt you

That's what makes this betrayal so bad. And she didn't fvck, just text him bad things about me, and eventually start talking about fvcking

Clearly, you all have been through some sh-t over the past year, and you both have a lot of emotional pain to work through. If you haven't acknowledged this to yourselves, it stands to reason that you both may be acting out in an attempt to soothe that agony, without being consciously aware of what you are doing

 

[BaronOfHair]

Almost all women are talking to other men behind their backs. Almost all of them. Its a reality we have to deal with in the smartphone era.

So long as women are human(A species that's not hardwired for monogamy), the chances that they'll stray is always significant. There's never been any period where this hasn't been the case: Modern technology has just made this tougher to hide

 

[Westminster]

So long as women are human(A species that's not hardwired for monogamy), the chances that they'll stray is always significant. There's never been any period where this hasn't been the case: Modern technology has just made this tougher to hide

I think modern technology has done more than make it harder to hide. It's made it easier to do as well.

The mobile phone can be a real weapon, perhaps especially in a woman's hands.

 

[Learning Curve]

My old lady is sexting an old boyfriend. From fvcking highschool lol

Or was, until I caught her

I found out recently that you could look up deleted texts on iPhones. Found texts over two months. Started small, but eventually got sexual

So it's definitely over in my mind. I expected it from her, but I can't help but feel apathy

The dude lives 2 states away, doesn't matter. I can never trust her again. Obviously not dumb enough to

Why are all women like this? Lmfao

So we live together. Not married.

She's acting like nothing happened, obviously, but I keep having to remind her that something did. This turns into fights, which ruins my chill

There's not really a point to this. Just wanted y'all to know that veterans get screwed over too

I'm all good. Like I said, I expected it.

But at the same time you always hope it won't go that way

I'm not mad, just apathetic

Welcome to the modern world of 2024.

You probably dumb her already but consinder the following:

Usually, two options are on the table, you dumb her, let her come back beg, plead, cry and then depending on your tolerance and if you love her you take her back.

Or you dumb her and move on.

When they argue after such thing, especially sexting other dudes considering "nothing happened" in their mind is usually because of lack of respect for a man.

That's where i would pull the cable and let her talk while i pack and leave.

Zero tolerance for this kind of bs.

 

[Vanderdonck]

So long as women are human(A species that's not hardwired for monogamy), the chances that they'll stray is always significant. There's never been any period where this hasn't been the case: Modern technology has just made this tougher to hide

Agreed.

 

[Gamisch]

Every man that lacks self love and self respect will eventually find himself I'm this exact situation.

Because women are like that wild animal you try to tame: no amount of study will predict how she'll react tomorrow. And eventually the wild animal will hurt you. When it does, you only got yourself to blame.

Beyond self respect is an entire world of goodness waiting for ya. You just gotta get through the bitter pill called loneliness. Once you get through that, much better thing waiting for you. But first you gotta tell life how to treat you. You say that it's okay to be disrespectful towards you. You'll reap what you sow.

Welcome to the modern world of 2024.

You probably dumb her already but consinder the following:

Usually, two options are on the table, you dumb her, let her come back beg, plead, cry and then depending on your tolerance and if you love her you take her back.

Or you dumb her and move on.

When they argue after such thing, especially sexting other dudes considering "nothing happened" in their mind is usually because of lack of respect for a man.

That's where i would pull the cable and let her talk while i pack and leave.

Zero tolerance for this kind of bs.

Dude loves her more than he loves himself.

Imagine him living om her house...he would've been kicked out like 5 times already for simply forgetting to close of the toothpaste or not closing the toilet seat.

This **** lets a cheating woman take from his resources while thinking he gets "leverage " over her