You might as well ask yourself why should a man act like a man and not just act like a woman.
That's essentially what you are wanting to do, act like a woman.
Because your role as a man is to make things happen and lead. Not sit around wondering what is happening and following whoever is the first person that shows any interest like a puppy dog.
You really are lost man. I don't know where you come up with these nonsensical ideas but they need to stop.
I mean what's next, are you going to wonder why people live on land and don't live underneath the water too? Essentially you are taking something that is the essence of being a man and asking why you have to have it.
You don't. Go be a woman if you choose.
Haven't changed since you were 15...there is a shocker. I could have told you that just by the way you think and your mindset. Guess what? When you are 80 you can say the same thing unless you choose to do something about it.
And assuredly that isn't trying to figure out how to not be a man.
From a logical standpoint, it makes more sense for a woman to pursue a man (than vice versa).
Any given woman is far more likely to get a "yeah" when asking out any given man than any given man is to get a "yeah" when asking out any given woman.
Put another way: A basketball coach who wins a majority of games is better than a basketball coach who
loses the vast majority of games.
Having the man make the move on the woman (rather than vice versa) is like saying the coach who loses way more often is somehow better than the winning coach.
I've mentioned on this forum that there's a male coworker who's talked to me a bit about the ladies. An analogy I gave him: "If a basketball coach loses more than 90% of games, the coach won't have a job next season. In fact, couldn't you say the coach picked the wrong line of work?"
(I get turned down more than 90% of the time; that's where I got the numbers for the analogy I gave the coworker)
The coworker said "Yeah, I suppose a coach who loses more than 90% of games picked the wrong line of work."