I had a high school teacher who struggled a lot financially as a kid/young adult. During young adulthood, he did a lot of stuff the average person wouldn't want to do...but in the end, he managed to get himself into a decent place financially (teachers, at least in the state I went to high school in, are comfortably middle class).
I remember him saying once (about the sacrifices he made during young adulthood) "If I could do it, why couldn't everyone?"
There's somewhere I'm going with this story. For the past 9 years or so, I've barely made a move on any woman. If I can do it, couldn't every man?
It wouldn't take anywhere near 9 years to notice a difference if every man did this by the way. Within 9 months, we'd start to notice a drastic difference (in terms of broads becoming more bold with coming onto us)
This is the nonsense talk that people use to derail themselves..."anyone can do it but nobody does" is closer to the truth. Why? Because to be good at anything requires a LOT of work, effort and determination that is undeterred by setbacks, failures or things not going their way.
Especially if it is something they are struggling with to begin with. You don't need to work 2x as hard, you need to work 2x to the tenth power as hard to improve.
And most people just aren't willing to do it because it forces them to go outside their comfort zone and status quo.
Once you understand your brain isn't trying to get you to thrive, it's merely trying to ensure you survive you will view things a whole different way. Your brain is literally wired to keep you trapped wherever you currently are in whatever situation you are because that is it's comfort zone and for survival reasons it is always better for it to have a known than an unknown.
That's why you will find yourself talking negatively to yourself, telling yourself you can't do it, having doubts about doing it, lacking motivation, etc. Your brain will try any trick in the book to make you quit and keep you stuck in the status quo that it is comfortable in.
Once you realize this, you have a choice. Either stop listening and move forward KNOWING it will attempt to stop you at every turn and be ready to combat it, or quit.
90% of the people choose quit. So that's why it makes no sense to think of someone could just spend 9 years doing it, everyone would be great at it. Because most people won't even spend 9 weeks let alone 9 years doing it.
And even then another 90% of people will only be willing to put the amount of effort, work and energy towards it that they believe should make them successful because they only want success on THEIR terms.
But that's not how it works in life. Success has its own terms and it doesn't give a crap about the ones you think it should have. Either you are willing to meet those terms or you aren't and most aren't.
Change the way you think and you can change your life. Your mindset is your biggest issue. In women and in life. Your mindset extends to everything in life not just women.
Not sure how many times you need to hear it before you actually choose to do something about it IF you want to. Because I can promise you, nothing is going to change for the positive for you with your current mindset.
You'll be stuck exactly where you are 1 year from now, 5 years from now, 10 years from now, 50 years from now.
In life you can either make excuses or get results, never both. Choose which you want and if it's results then the excuses need to stop TODAY. If you'd rather have your life be one giant excuse then just give up on getting results because that won't happen.
