Mad Manic said:
As for Comic Relief, I don't really get what he's trying to say. He's trying to underplay/downgrade the severity of the M/F dynamic but he himself is caught up in it just as bad as us. He's average and dating a below average girl after 3 hard years of improvement. If that doesn't indicate how messed up things are then nothing will. I'm not flaming him, we're saying how it is for men.
No, I'm past that bullsh!t ideas that you have that if a woman is not an "HB8 - 10" that she is not worth my time or attention.
As to the Male/Female Dynamic, I'm saying that if you self-improve you will minimize it to the point where it is in reverse. Which is interestingly what a lot of females do. They stop caring about being in a relationship and just want to have fun.
Usually when you stop caring about something like women or happiness, it will try to find you. That is how I found a lot of things that I am looking for. When I was single and stopped trying, I had indicators of interest from different women coming at me.
This is where the M/F dynamic comes into play. If you are not up to par with women standards (which you get there through self-improvement) then this is a pretty useless thing. BUT if you are on par with what women are looking for, then you will have women chasing after you.
And since you got what women are after, then that means that they will chase after you because you are not desparate (why do you think that gay guys have it so easy to hang out with hot women AND no I am not advocating being gay. Just not desparate).
This is where Holland's ideas from my picture thread comes into play. You CANNOT just self-improve your inner game, but leave your outer game to lie in neglect. You must do both.
This is what I am advocating and you can even the odds or completely destory them if you work your way up through self-improvement AND if you mustn't be desparate!!! Be picky and have some standards (yes, I do find my girlfriend attractive and don't care what anyone else thinks about her because she is attractive to me).
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