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for the newbies who may be reading this...read my original thread, the one I posted BEFORE this...the one where I thought "I can still rescue this, I still love my wife, I need to save my family for my kids, blah, blah, blah..."...

this... X 1000

been a while guys..., I didin't really believe any of you when you wrote all of this...how wrong I was. You were all right. Like a script. She took me for everything, turned everyone I knew against me, including my own Mother, basically poisoned the well so bad that I lost everyone save for 2...

yeah, she's out there, for sure. She has no idea what she wants, and it's gone too far. I know what I want...to get my life back.

All great points but I didin't do anger management for her...I did it for me. Uncontrolled anger causes bad **** to happen. Reacting uncontrollably is an addiction, and if you can't control your anger you are doomed to be ruled by it. Losing your **** is beta behaviour, as you are submitting...

There are already dudes on the periphery...I am well prepared for her to start dating asap. This **** has already been dragged out for over 2 years, and any hope of her acting decently or honorably has been beaten out of me....all I care about is setting up the best home possible for my kids. In...

Yup. She lives in bat-**** crazy land. We live in a million dollar house that we are able to afford due to a low interest loan from a relative. (registered, thankfully!) She believes she can keep the house and I will simply be gone. I keep trying to tell her that the mortgage will have to be...

way ahead of you...I already retained the best lawyer in town months ago. We are in mediation working towards an amicable parenting plan. We've only been married 7 years, so there is no doomsday alimony scenario. But I appreciate the jail warning...I am well aware that she could say whatever she...

Ok, so I'm married 7 years, 2 kids (3 and 6). My wife checked out emotionally a year ago, we've been in separate beds, etc. I came on this site a while back and poured my heart out...all the cynical vets said "prepare for divorce", I said "you're wrong"........you were all RIGHT. She asked for...

OK, quick update. I wasn't totally accurate with some facts in my original post. Been in separate beds since March 2014. Had sex three times since Jan, but there was no real emotion...just ****ing. Been going out as much as possible...she always asks where I've been, who I've been with, etc. The...

Thanks. It's not going to be easy to implement this, but I have no choice. I will let you know how it goes as the weeks go by. Appreciate the support.

cheating is so hard to prove....it's easy to let your mind run wild. There is a ton of evidence to suggest that she might be, but she is never alone long enough to actually do it. I think she is at the "thinking about it" stage. I'll never say never, but I'm pretty on top of where she is at all...

totally agreed. My plan is to spend the summer focusing on making myself happy and getting into the best shape possible. I spend too much time concerned about her. I need a break.

OK, I really do appreciate the "prepare for the worst" (i.e divorce) tips. They are valuable, and I will start with this. That being said, I'm not quite there yet. I never discount the possibility of anything, but I'm pretty sure she is not banging anyone at the gym. You never know, but I am...

thanks to everyone who took the time to respond. Great forum!

you're right. I need a few days to think this through before I take a stand. **** will hit the fan, and I hate drama, but you are 100% right. Thanks again for the feedback.

thanks scaramouche, that seems like a realistic plan. Man, that's rough.

I appreciate all of the above points. She had ample time/opportunity to leave me. She knows I'm a great father, and she doesn't hate me enough to want to sell the house, uproot the kids, go through a divorce, etc. I will prepare myself for the possibility of her divorcing me, but I don't want to...

Thanks. I thought that she may have been cheating, but can't really see when she would have the time. (i.e. goes to club in the morning, drops kids off at school at 12.) Maybe? Who knows? That doesn't rule out a potential emotional affair, so you could be right. I appreciate this. Thanks!

Hi, I'm a newbie. First post. Married 7 years, 2 kids. Kids are 2 and 5. I work and earn more than enough for everyone. We have a nanny, and wife goes to a health club 5 days a week. Been sleeping in a separate bed for almost 10 months. No sex. No affection. Nothing. Wife blames all of our...