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It warms up when she stops connecting with her guy friends and starts respecting you and your frame. The more attention you give her, and the more you keep losing your shyt and allowing yourself to be ruled by your emotions, the less she will respect you. This is red pill 101 and there are...

1. This post alone shows you are completely focused on her, and who she may be with, etc. Shut it down completely. 2. Divorce with kids is absolute hell, and she will destroy you. This is not a preferred option despite what others may tell you. You will be lucky to see your kid once a week at...

Not sure how going down the “what if she is cheating” rabbit hole is going do any good for OP’s situation. This would be a classic example of negative thinking, and my personal advice is for OP to train his mind to shut down these kinds of speculative thoughts. As mentioned earlier, unless he...

if you go deep into anger management therapy, you’ll discover that your mind is actually divided into parts, and that you control these parts. Anger is just one part of the mind that you control. The same self control used over the parts of your mind when managing ones anger is the same self...

Thanks for the concern. Even with the moratorium I’m still making money off the appreciation of the condo as condo prices are soaring where I live for some weird reason. There is no perfect solution. There is no perfect woman. Living and loving life is all about risk management.

this. I feel your pain man. Look at my post history. When I joined, my first posts are a word for word repeat of your situation. Stop focusing on your wife. I told you earlier in this thread what to do. Work with a social worker certified in teaching court ordered anger management. Start...

Haha, marriage to two women? That would be a a challenge...I gave up alcohol almost 12 years ago. I’m Catholic, but sometimes I think I would have been a good Muslim. Good luck with your marriage(s). As-salamu alaykum.

Sex, food, companionship, loyalty, respect, all while building equity. So what’s your alternative? If you think marriage is anything but transactional, than you’ve clearly never been married. A man has zero leverage once married, so why do you think this forum is flooded with married guys...

If we break up and she does not pay, I can evict her. She’s my tenant, not my wife. Like I said, she knows the rent would be 4x what it is if we broke up, so she plays ball. That’s why I don’t charge her above and beyond my costs—leverage. That’s why there is a dinner on my table every night...

If I charge her rent above and beyond my costs, I have to pay tax on the rental income ergo I forgo the net rent...if she decides she does not want to be in an LTR, then yes, I will start charging her the current market rental rate, (and pay the tax...) It’s worked quite well now, going on seven...

Huh? Where do I say that I cover the overhead brah? She pays for everything. i.e mortgage, fees, taxes, insurance. All I do is sit back and make money while enjoying my own space that she visits when I want.

Now back to the thread... For me, I managed to make it work by having my LTR live in my investment property. Granted, she's my age, she does not want kids, she's a career woman, and I am divorced with pre-teen kids...( and with a lunatic ex still hell bent on destroying me...) I've had to...

Haha, you're pissing up the wrong tree brah. You wouldn't last two seconds living my life. I've lived to write the book on truth bombs. But hey, if you want to keep living at mommy's, and posting about how "all women are this," and "don't get married that," go for it. I've made my LTR 100% work...

My LTR is my age and does not want kids. It’s different when your middle aged, divorced with kids vs having never been married, in your late 20s/early 30s in an LTR with a woman who wants kids. My situation works for me. Would not trade it. Not every marriage ends in divorce but most do. We...

What touched a nerve is you're the moderator! Your job is supposed to encourage the flow of conversation and ideas, not provide one word responses akin to what a pouty 12 year old would say. I'm certainly not asking you to agree with my point, but if you're going to shyt on what I say, at least...

Unreal for you because you can’t afford to do it, or unreal because? What? I tried reading your “thoughts” which basically were “don’t get married.“ Real insightful advice...never heard that one before. OP is asking about guys who have pulled off an LTR without getting married. I have been...

Typing one word replies that offer zero advice or insight other than to tell everyone here that you’re jealous and have self-esteem issues? Totally agree.

Is your psychologist certified to conduct court ordered anger management therapy? If not, get rid of him/her and find one who is. Most are social workers. You need to learn to effectively handle your anger if you’re going to get through this. Get it under control. Once you have a good grasp on...

When women push for marriage, what they are pushing for is financial security. One way you could achieve an LTR without marriage is to buy two condos in one building. Have your LTR cover your costs (mortgage, fees, taxes and insurance) but don’t charge her any rent. You’re still making money off...