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this is not good my man. My ex required a steady stream of male orbiters at all times...you can turn this around but you need to grow up a bit. I can only assume you still have opposite sex friendships? You need to end those, and then you need to tell your wife to end hers. You hang with the...

Here’s some advice from someone who was in your shoes...mine ended in divorce. I did the complete opposite of this advice: 1. Do not, under any circumstances, agree to marriage or “couples” counselling. There is no training to becoming a “couples” counsellor. Talk to any therapist worth their...

and not everyone is an AFC. Tell you what, the next time you run into a girl you banged, run home and tell your wife/LTR and let us know how it goes.

you did the right thing, good man. There are quality women out there who will reveal themselves in the course of time. Keep respecting yourself and good things will happen. Talking about ex flings and creating drama for the sake of drama, ya, let the next chump deal with that.

we all have exes but not everyone chooses to talk about our past with our present. Almost always a red flag if a woman brings up running into her past hookups, or brings up past relationships, etc. Have a discussion and say talking about the past is a no no. If it happens again, cut your...

Definite red flag. High quality women don’t talk about their past. It’s a huge disrespect whether intended or not. Run unless you like drama.

These types seek the attention they once had from their looks by becoming “Karens”

This. If you haven't been doing proper maintenance, don't whine when your car starts to break down. If she's nagging you, it's because you've already let her know since day 1 that it's ok for her to do so. It's not just about how you react to her, but rather how you present yourself to the...

I just read through this thread and now see that OP was made over six years ago...haha. Glad you figured this one out. Orbiters = booty call only. Probably my single biggest red flag when I was dating. Many male friends = no chance whatsoever for LTR material. The type of woman who does not have...

If you're just dating, who cares if she has orbiters. You're just dating, hooking up, whatever. At this level, orbiters should make no difference to you whatsoever. If orbiters are an issue for you at this level (which it sounds as if they are...), then the girl is clearly out of your league...

Leaving a note for her says to her “I’m too scared to ask you out in person.” Conveying fear does not turn a woman on. What turns a woman on is confidence. Had you asked her out in front of the realtor, you would have got laid that night. Guaranteed. BF means nothing. Only a ring matters. I...

1. You left a note? Why didin’t you ask her out when you first saw her? 2. We “should” go for a drink sometime? Next time try “I’m taking you for drinks tonight.” 3. You should have stopped being “buds” with girls around high school. If you’re looking for a hang, hang out with some...

amen brother. Respect.

By the time you’re finished high school, you should also be finished being plutonic friends with girls. I can’t over-stress this point more. Treat every woman you meet as potential, and understand the same goes for her with the men in her life. With that in mind, respect work boundaries, and...

I carried the BS and treachery of my ex-wife for 7 years. When she started threatening to call the cops to get me to leave, my lawyer told me "I'm not a criminal lawyer so don't call me when you get busted.." At that point I started questioning things. At the same time, my social worker...

A lot of the “theory” being exposed here is helpful for married guys in a normal marriage. However, in your situation, you need to focus only on these 3 things: 1. Retain a lawyer 2. Manage your stress levels through exercise, proper nutrition, and abstinence from drugs and alcohol 3. Prepare...

It was an absolute living hell trying to make it work when she clearly wanted out. All that said, I just couldn’t walk out. That’s me. My path is not someone else’s. Not walking out until I had no choice lest I get charged meant I can look at my kids in the eye and say I truly did everything I...

Been a while. I was in the exact place you’re in, it’s what brought me to this forum years ago. The advice and perspectives offered here are valuable, but they’re not dogma. At the end of the day, you have to do what you feel is right, not what people are telling you to do. I fought to the very...

It’s the same reason why people say shyt music they hear on the radio today is great. It’s all fed to us from the corporate machine, i.e. what’s hot, what’s cool, etc. if you think for yourself and form your own opinions, you’re cast as a freak.

Good for you for recognizing this. If your relationship with your Mom was ****ed (mine was too), than you’re always going to be looking to recreate (with women) the ‘perfect’ relationship to try and make up for what you should have received as a kid from your Mom, but sadly never did...You call...