Die Hard
Master Don Juan
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I've dated plenty of girls over the years and I sometimes look them up on social media. So many of them are now settling down, getting married, living together, having kids and all that. It's so funny to see that the great majority of them have the exact same type of guy that they're settling down with: He looks like a weakling, very kind and sweet, a softy, often even a bit nerdy, the exact opposite of "badass". In other words, a beta...
You can see how this guy will always say "Yes, dear..." when she puts the pressure on him. He will never be able to deal with her emotional storms, he'll just respond to those by NOT putting up a fight and letting her have her way, instead of standing up for himself and putting her in her place. He's the perfect victim, she will have him in her control and he'll provide her with a carefree life.
When I see this, I realize that pretty much none of the girls I dated in my life would've been a fit for me in the long term. I gotta say, it's a bit depressing. It seems you're either the guy she wants to fvck or you're the guy she wants to have a stable, long term relationship with (but it requires you to be a loser!). So I guess I really am better off giving up on a LTR and just pursuing sex instead. Yet, I can't make that transition, it just feels hollow and pointless just to pursue sex and never having a great connection where you and her really complement each other's lifes and can build something stable.
Sometimes I do try to push myself to that attitude. I just give up on the hope that a woman can be more than a cvm dumpster... But when I adopt that mindset, it shows through my behavior. The girls realize that I just see them as a cvm dumpster and therefor will not give themselves up to me. They want me to really "like" them. But I don't lol... I think they're disgusting with all their arrogance, their hypergamous habits, their treacherous and manipulative ways, their double standards and hypocrisy etc. So no, I don't like them! I just want to fvck them coz they don't deserve anything more than that... But when they realize this is the way I feel about things, obviously they won't co-operate haha!
So the trick is to act as if I do like them, I guess? I have a hard time with that... I wish I could find a girl who's worthy of being more than a cvm dumpster, so each time I meet a girl who isn't that, I'm disappointed and I just can't hide it. I tell myself "Oh well, she's another worthless piece of shyt, but she does look hot so let's just try to fvck her" But because deep down I'm disappointed, I cannot act convincingly as if I like her. Actually, I just can't have genuine fun and enjoy a girl when I notice that she's just another superficial, untrustworthy, treacherous, arrogant, hypocritical piece of azz. They often notice this, and then pull away.
In the past, I was foolish and thought many girls were nice and sweet, not aware that it's all just a facade. So I really liked them and could genuinely act that out, therefor they liked being around me. Thus, I got laid a lot more! Nowadays, I see through their facade and I simply don't like them anymore, so I don't genuinely act like that either and therefor they don't like being around me.
I wish I somehow could really let go of my disappointment, so it wouldn't hold me back from smashing all the girls around me, lol. But how can I let go of my disappointment without letting go of the expectation that fuels the disappointment? Should I really give up on the idea that I can find someone who's good for me in the long term? Someone I could settle down with? To think that this is not possible makes me depressed and nihilistic, makes me wanna give up on women altogether. Furthermore, if brainless sex with no connection or no hope for anything else is all that remains.... Then why go through all the effort of texting, dating blahblah that is needed to get the sex? Seems like a big investment with a small reward. I'd rather watch porn and use my right hand, that's a whole lot easier!
I just feel stuck and caught in without seeing a way out.
You can see how this guy will always say "Yes, dear..." when she puts the pressure on him. He will never be able to deal with her emotional storms, he'll just respond to those by NOT putting up a fight and letting her have her way, instead of standing up for himself and putting her in her place. He's the perfect victim, she will have him in her control and he'll provide her with a carefree life.
When I see this, I realize that pretty much none of the girls I dated in my life would've been a fit for me in the long term. I gotta say, it's a bit depressing. It seems you're either the guy she wants to fvck or you're the guy she wants to have a stable, long term relationship with (but it requires you to be a loser!). So I guess I really am better off giving up on a LTR and just pursuing sex instead. Yet, I can't make that transition, it just feels hollow and pointless just to pursue sex and never having a great connection where you and her really complement each other's lifes and can build something stable.
Sometimes I do try to push myself to that attitude. I just give up on the hope that a woman can be more than a cvm dumpster... But when I adopt that mindset, it shows through my behavior. The girls realize that I just see them as a cvm dumpster and therefor will not give themselves up to me. They want me to really "like" them. But I don't lol... I think they're disgusting with all their arrogance, their hypergamous habits, their treacherous and manipulative ways, their double standards and hypocrisy etc. So no, I don't like them! I just want to fvck them coz they don't deserve anything more than that... But when they realize this is the way I feel about things, obviously they won't co-operate haha!
So the trick is to act as if I do like them, I guess? I have a hard time with that... I wish I could find a girl who's worthy of being more than a cvm dumpster, so each time I meet a girl who isn't that, I'm disappointed and I just can't hide it. I tell myself "Oh well, she's another worthless piece of shyt, but she does look hot so let's just try to fvck her" But because deep down I'm disappointed, I cannot act convincingly as if I like her. Actually, I just can't have genuine fun and enjoy a girl when I notice that she's just another superficial, untrustworthy, treacherous, arrogant, hypocritical piece of azz. They often notice this, and then pull away.
In the past, I was foolish and thought many girls were nice and sweet, not aware that it's all just a facade. So I really liked them and could genuinely act that out, therefor they liked being around me. Thus, I got laid a lot more! Nowadays, I see through their facade and I simply don't like them anymore, so I don't genuinely act like that either and therefor they don't like being around me.
I wish I somehow could really let go of my disappointment, so it wouldn't hold me back from smashing all the girls around me, lol. But how can I let go of my disappointment without letting go of the expectation that fuels the disappointment? Should I really give up on the idea that I can find someone who's good for me in the long term? Someone I could settle down with? To think that this is not possible makes me depressed and nihilistic, makes me wanna give up on women altogether. Furthermore, if brainless sex with no connection or no hope for anything else is all that remains.... Then why go through all the effort of texting, dating blahblah that is needed to get the sex? Seems like a big investment with a small reward. I'd rather watch porn and use my right hand, that's a whole lot easier!
I just feel stuck and caught in without seeing a way out.
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