Ok, so I'm married 7 years, 2 kids (3 and 6). My wife checked out emotionally a year ago, we've been in separate beds, etc. I came on this site a while back and poured my heart out...all the cynical vets said "prepare for divorce", I said "you're wrong"........you were all RIGHT. She asked for a divorce.
When she asked for the divorce I said "no way" and did the typical "read every self help book and change my flaws" route. I did manage to make some great personal changes that have resulted in me being far less angry, and far more in control of my emotions. She noticed the changes, but she still said she wanted a divorce. Then we had some very typical married disagreement, and she blurted out "I was going to give this a chance, but now I can see you'll never change...we need to divorce!" At that point, I had a fundamental shift inside of me. I said "nothing is worth this...if I don't get out, my kids will suffer, I am in a fundamentally abusive relationship and I deserve to be happy." Since then, I've been hanging out with friends, working out, talking to girls, generally living my life as if I'm single. I've also been spending a TON of quality time with my kids. Life is actually better. It's just BS that now that I've made a commitment to going through with the divorce, she now seems to be dragging her feet....
When she asked for the divorce I said "no way" and did the typical "read every self help book and change my flaws" route. I did manage to make some great personal changes that have resulted in me being far less angry, and far more in control of my emotions. She noticed the changes, but she still said she wanted a divorce. Then we had some very typical married disagreement, and she blurted out "I was going to give this a chance, but now I can see you'll never change...we need to divorce!" At that point, I had a fundamental shift inside of me. I said "nothing is worth this...if I don't get out, my kids will suffer, I am in a fundamentally abusive relationship and I deserve to be happy." Since then, I've been hanging out with friends, working out, talking to girls, generally living my life as if I'm single. I've also been spending a TON of quality time with my kids. Life is actually better. It's just BS that now that I've made a commitment to going through with the divorce, she now seems to be dragging her feet....
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