You keep saying my posts aren't worth responding to, but could it be that you have no good response?
I have nothing to hide from, the answer was so simple I didn't see a need to answer. Only a fool would hire the guy that stole the money, all else being equal. The thing is life isn't that simple. I recently hired a guy for a manager position who had a theft on his record when he was 19. I could have chosen to not hire him for this, but my best instincts told me that it was merely a moment of indiscretion on his part and he wouldn't be any more of a problem than anyone else.
Your entire argument is based upon using one indicator to disqualify a candidate for a long term relationship. Is a woman who you know has cheated more likely to cheat? It certainly takes her out of the running for angel of the year, but it doesn't necessarly mean she is at the far other end of the spectrum. That's a judgement call that needs to be made on an individual basis. It isn't something that you can automatically use to lump her into the category of being undateable unless you don't mind limiting yourself down to the very small percentage of the female population who you can never be sure of pinpointing anyways.
Since we have dragged business into this discussion I'll share with you a little nugget of wisdom that has taken me a long time to realize.
I finally reached the point where I understand that everything in business has to be analyzed from the perspective of what will make me the most money. I learned to not take things so personally, and to let things slide. If I noticed one of my managers giving a couple of unauthorized discounts to friends, my pride says, "FIRE HIS ASS! If he is willing to steal from you in this way, he's bound to steal more!" But the reality of the situation is that almost ANYONE YOU HIRE would steal from you if given the opportunity. All I can do is keep a close eye on it, and make changes if it gets out of hand. If I fired him for a minor theft I could very likely end up in a worse situation than I was before. You don't have a crystal ball to have the luxury of predicting the lesser of the two evils.
The point is that both my business partner and myself (and anyone else I know who has had the pleasure of ownong a business) through years of experience realized that most people will steal if given the opportunity, and it is impossible to discern one from the other. You just have to count on the fact and deal with it in a manner that is best for you. I see women in the same light. My experience has shown me that all of the hoping or action in the world isn't going to prevent cheating from happening, all I can do is look at the odds and make my choices accordingly.
After i cheated for my first time it opened the flood gates, cheating became less of a big deal and more of a common thing. you figure ****, ive alrdy cheated why not do it again?
A guys POV doesn't have any weight here. You aren't a woman, and as such are not restrained by the same social mores.
In simpler terms- Society doesn't give a rats ass if a guy cheats, but if a woman does so it comes with a terrible social stigma that continues to restrain her from further infidelity.
What is it with your ego? Do you really think that you are some wise sensei or something, the only older adult male role model that anyone on this board has?
Take it or leave it, I don't know you and could care less if you are too stubborn to listen.
Lesson Learned is to not be a sucka, yet at the same time be somewhat open-minded as to the content of one's character before entering into a serious relationship.
Good observation. Open minded is exactly what I am shooting for here. To dump all women into a "good" bin or a "bad" bin without accounting for other factors is likely to keep you alone for a long time, and when you do finally find one YOU THINK is the right one it is likely to leave you devastated when things goes wrong.
