Rollo Tomassi said:
Single guys still dating in their 30s & 40s are like escaped slaves bringing news of the outside world to their married friends. Of course they look on you with disdain; they envy in you what they lack in themselves - your most precious resource, options and the ability to maneuver in a stage of maturity where you can finally see the manipulation going on. You understand the game now and you've still managed to retain your options! You're dangerous to the feminine ideal. Men find out early on that marriage (and LTRs) means sacrificing their primary desire (unlimited access to unlimited sexuality) to meet a woman's primary desire (security). And like most anything else, we disdain that which we cannot have.
Ok, I've gotta go on record here. I have one 29 year old male friend, and a couple of 30 something male friends, all single. With respect to my situation (married to my wife), all three of them envy me more, not the other way around. In fact, all 3 have overtly stated that they envy me (specifically, my wife and my married, stable state). Sure, like any man, I also envy to some extent a man who can (ethically) have any woman he wants, such as these guys, BUT I wouldn't trade what I have for that right. I have never once regretted my marriage, and continue to not regret it despite being fully educated on DJ principles.
Now don't get me wrong; i'm not saying that any single man
should envy me. What i'm saying is, is that I disagree with RT's characterization that it is the married men predominately envying the single men. Maybe it is, on average, but it certainly isn't from my personal perspective. Even looking beyond me, I have far more frequently seen single guys envying the married folks with 2.3 kids, 2 cars and a house, than the other way around.
So, you take it too far sometimes, RT. DJ vs not is about a mindset and how you live your life. It has only two things to do with the married vs not married issues; that would be jack and s***.
So, I generally agree with the things you're trying to encourage here, RT; that being to not be pressued into either a LTR or a marriage. I fully agree with that. But I think you really need to stop short of belitting men that are married, regardless of the age that they did so. If for no other reason, quit doing it so that you quit putting yourself down. Having many past encounters doesn't change the fact that you're married today provided marriage is some bad thing to avoid. If marriage is inherently a less desirable position for a man, then at least start by admitting you also belong to this so-called, lesser state now.