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Just tell them you'll take care of it and she picks up the tab on the next venueSo would I.
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Just tell them you'll take care of it and she picks up the tab on the next venueSo would I.
Good, no need to pursue further.Then she declines going to the next venue.. "It's getting late, I better get home".
Is that 2 drinks per person or 2 drinks total (1 per person)?2 strong drinks is not expensive. Foot the bill and don’t even mention it.
I have been doing pay to play. I’ve spent my entire mating career footing bills on dates. I don’t like it but I do it for the notch.It's pay to play dudes.
If you can't afford to pay for her drink, you should prioritize other aspects of your life.
My mindset is that I have activities that I want to do, and I just invite women along to come with. Two birds with one stone, if you enjoy drinking or having coffee then do that.Movie dates in theaters are a terrible idea in the early stages. I thought every man knew that by now and they were discredited decades ago. Established couples do that shiit.
I'm not entirely opposed to activity dates for a first date or second date. For a first date, I'd have to find a common, enjoyable activity in a 5-10 minute conversation. That answer doesn't typically reveal itself in a conversation on an initial approach. It's much more possible for a second date.
It's very difficult to cut bars out of the seduction process entirely. You'll either need them for the initial approach or as a 1st-2nd date hosting venue.
Correct. I'm very open about this. In the initial stages of an interaction bonding is not really going to occur. But investment builds toward and over time creates a bond. Humans are social critters and have need of emotional bonding. Without it they become damaged and sub-par. It's a natural thing to seek as a human being. So this idea that the desire to bond with another human being is somehow bad is a DAMAGED way of thinking. Refer to other people in this thread.So what I gain from this comment and your previous comment of "If he doesn't offer to pay, It leaves me unimpressed" translates to is, if a guy doesn't offer to pay, then you lose attraction, because you don't feel like he's interested in bonding to you due to the lack of interest in financial investment. Either way a guy not offering to pay lowers your attraction towards him. Which is what I proposed to pan.
I greatly appreciate the candor of your response and I understand and relate to the family of origin thing. Divorce is indeed rampant. But great marriages are also quite common. There are men here who came from solid families of origin, and men here who are themselves leading solid families of origin right now. So it's not as though solid LTRs are like four-leaf clovers, they are VERY common in fact. I know dozens...DOZENS of very good marriages!! And guess what? Those are well adjusted people similar to me who are experiencing those quality relationships. I see they exist, I prefer to have a situation like that in my own life. I know young people, middle age people, older people who are happily coupled. It's very cool. These are people who live together, play together, raise families togther and once the kids are grown, play together some more and grow old together!I like to think I am more red pill than black pill.
This is an accurate representation of my viewpoint. Yes, I believe that romantic relationships have a shelf life. There was family of origin pain. I have resolved those issues through a difficult process.
The best evidence of the shelf life of goodness of romantic relationships is a divorce. Divorce is rampant. The probability of a divorce occurring over a 40 year period (the likely evaluation period for marrying couples 35 and under) in any marriage is quite high.
When a divorce is filed for, the shelf life of goodness ended a long time ago. The divorce is simply the final step of putting a relationship that effectively ended often years earlier out of its misery.
My parents had a subpar romantic relationship that lasted far longer than it should have lasted. I can’t think of 2 more ill fitting people who lasted as long as they did. They lasted 20+ years. Since I am only 39, I don’t know any 20 year long couples yet but I do know some ill fitting couples coming up on 10 years.
In the United States, the norm is to think of married couples & their duration from the time of marriage, discounting their relational time pre-marriage. I think of couples from the very beginning.
There is a lot of evidence that sexual passion dies over time. I don’t want to stick around a relationship long enough for that to occur.
I'm not suggesting you are a faux alpha or something. But I asked the question for you to think about the kind of abundance a Chad has or that a beautiful woman has for you to consider the way a person like that exists. It's comply or BYE Felicia in that world, and it goes two ways.I'm not. I'm not a faux "alpha" who's larping on this site. I'm on here as a beginner to game, learning to be a don juan, which means I'm not nuanced enough to know when a woman is pretending to be interested just for the attention and entertainment of doing something. Plenty of men have stated women do this regularly. Also, my lack of game nuance/charm could turn them OFF, and as stated, I don't have the finances to take 20 women on dates with nothing to show for it except sunken costs.
Yet I have the need for sex and sexual bonding, and I'm not willing to resort to rape. So, why wouldn't I leverage the situation to my benefit financially when I am not charming enough to be a sexual prospect to the woman, but nuanced enough to see that she's not interested. Like you said, women don't need men to pay for them. So why would I be obligated to? When I see it's not going anywhere I'll pay for my drink, and cut the date short. Otherwise I may take loss after loss and it adds up taking me out of the dating game, defeating the purpose. Because you're a woman, you don't experience men's reality of "ONE DATE, NO SECOND DATE, NO SEX" time and time again.
but why would a guy have the right to get laid ?
maybe sex is not for everyone
Lol, using a prostitute does not involve procreation.why ?
the point of mating is for the specie to get better , not for simps to get laid and make the specie to devolve
if you do not get laid it is mainly because of you
I'm trying to ascertain whether you are ABLE to leverage the situation. That ability, and whether or not you have it require a great deal more detail. I DM'd you with specifics.I'm not. I'm not a faux "alpha" who's larping on this site. I'm on here as a beginner to game, learning to be a don juan, which means I'm not nuanced enough to know when a woman is pretending to be interested just for the attention and entertainment of doing something. Plenty of men have stated women do this regularly. Also, my lack of game nuance/charm could turn them OFF, and as stated, I don't have the finances to take 20 women on dates with nothing to show for it except sunken costs.
Yet I have the need for sex and sexual bonding, and I'm not willing to resort to rape. So, why wouldn't I leverage the situation to my benefit financially when I am not charming enough to be a sexual prospect to the woman, but nuanced enough to see that she's not interested. Like you said, women don't need men to pay for them. So why would I be obligated to? When I see it's not going anywhere I'll pay for my drink, and cut the date short. Otherwise I may take loss after loss and it adds up taking me out of the dating game, defeating the purpose. Because you're a woman, you don't experience men's reality of "ONE DATE, NO SECOND DATE, NO SEX" time and time again. I'm willing to bet every time you've wanted sex to happen on a date, it happened.
This. Like this isn't even rule #1, it's rule 0 lolsIf you want advice about dating females, last type of person you should ask is a female... Just sayin...
I have to disagree. I believe marriage is a terrible thing and would seriously ask any man of value to reconsider. A communal system (though they dont really exist currently) would be far superior imo.Too many people here think marriage is the problem as an institution. No. Marriage is only ever as good as the two people who got married. You have two sh1tty people in a marriage? It's going to be a bad marriage. You have 1 awful person in the marriage? It's going to be a sub-par marriage.
Digest that logic. I agree you do you and live your own life as you please. But your beliefs are keeping you in a state of disappointment and disbelief.
I can certainly agree with this.maybe sex is not for everyone