So what I gain from this comment and your previous comment of "If he doesn't offer to pay, It leaves me unimpressed" translates to is, if a guy doesn't offer to pay, then you lose attraction, because you don't feel like he's interested in bonding to you due to the lack of interest in financial investment. Either way a guy not offering to pay lowers your attraction towards him. Which is what I proposed to pan.
Correct. I'm very open about this. In the initial stages of an interaction bonding is not really going to occur. But investment builds toward and over time creates a bond. Humans are social critters and have need of emotional bonding. Without it they become damaged and sub-par. It's a natural thing to seek as a human being. So this idea that the desire to bond with another human being is somehow bad is a DAMAGED way of thinking. Refer to other people in this thread.
Let me ask you a question. If you are a top tier man with lots of options, would you choose a woman who is non-compliant, flaky, and difficult to pin down? Would you pick a woman who is not responsive to you and who creates barriers to sex? No. No man with options will choose such a woman.
Why?
Two reasons. 1. Why pick her with all her barriers when you can choose someone else of the same attractiveness level who WILL submit, be compliant and reliable and sexually accommodating??? 2. The non-compliant woman does not feel good to be around. The compliant woman feels good to be around. That is a huge factor!!!!
People (both men and women) gravitate to what feels GOOD. Non-compliance doesn't feel good to a man. Especially not when he can choose another woman with whom he can have a pleasant interaction.
In the same way a woman with many good options has the same sort of choices to make. I have been a woman men compete for all my life. That is the way of things for beautiful, pleasant, sane women who are good company. If I have a dozen or so equally successful, good looking, desirable men to choose from...why on Earth would I pick a cheapskate, who, by not acting as a gentleman and picking up the check for an outing that he initiated, and that I agreed to spend my time doing (at the expense of other things I could have been doing with other people), why would I reward that behavior? Answer: I won't. And neither will any other beautiful desirable woman.
I didn't make the rules but I understand them. I just shake my head at men that expect a high value woman to accept Netflix and chill or a quick drink outing and then expect her to allow you sexual conquest on a first date. That is UNREALITY. Now if she is low self-esteem, just wants a hook up, is a w h o r e, or has few options then understand something. By this set of expectations you guys are screening FOR low value, low quality women! And then you complain about there not being any quality girls out there. Quality girls are like Chads. They do not have to tolerate BS, so they do not. So if you think a quality girl is going to put up with this way of being? Good luck. She's going to pick someone who treats her well and makes her feel special (which a cheapskate does NOT do).
It's honestly very simple. Pick a woman you like who LIKES YOU BACK. If the women you want do not like you back, then you are invisible to them. Figure out why that is or pick a different woman!
