Despite your autism spectrum disorder, you did what appears to be a decent job reading this situation. It would be extremely frustrating not to get vagina.
You are having sex which is better than not having sex. Directly paying for sex is not as good as getting laid conventionally.
When getting laid conventionally, a man is still paying for sex. It's indirect payments for sex. A lot of men having to do things like buy Rolexes/luxury brand watches, luxury brand cars, buy a boat, spend money on dates, etc. in order to get some pussie.
It's best not to lead with your wallet, but plenty of men figure out that using money to flaunt wealth will get them a longer term girlfriend or a rotation of women.
There's a great thread on college sex below, focused on college sex at large American public universities.
I went to a school that I've called "Hot Girl U" on here. Despite the fact that my university was known for a party environment, attractive women, and college sex, few men were scoring regularly. I knew more men who were getting drunk from overconsumption of alcohol at off campus than guys who were getting their penises wet with attractive women at these off campus parties.
I saw more use of technology and the erosion of social skills. I saw too much reliance on AOL Instant Messenger (a precursor to text messaging). People were substituting AOL Instant Messenger for phone calls or in-person interaction. By the beginning of my senior year, both Facebook and MySpace had launched. Guys were starting to try to seduce on those. Dating websites were also rapidly de-stigmatizing and women were getting their inboxes flooded by horny guys. This happened less on college campuses than in the general public around then, but I was peripherally aware of it.
I thought I'd share this as someone who went to a party school and was in a fraternity there as well. Not wanting to give too much about myself but I went to UGA and graduated a few years ago. While Athens has its hot girls, I do feel like the quality got worse every year due to the admission...
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