Lotus Effect said:
It happened with the girl that brought me here as well! The god forsaken EX
She dumped me, 15 days later we got back together because I cried and begged.
It was awesome on the first week. We f*cked like rabbits indeed. Than she begun treating me like sh*t at the second week. And then she f*cked another dude on the third. 2 days after my birthday!
Too bad for her she was not very smart on hiding it!
It sucks balls. But it is what it is. She was a devious slut. And I don't wish her nothing in this time of the year. Nor good or bad. Nothing at all.
I sincerelly hope that all of you guys keep it strong, and keep it to yourselfs.
Don't give the Ex the pleasure of knowing they own you. Tripod said it very wisely. Read his words over and over again!
DON'T SEND NOTHING TO HER.
I doubt that they will send you guys anything anyway.
And bateman, no worries man. We are here to help each other!
But most of all, a Merry Christmas to all of us!!!
Let this pain be our most valuable present in life, and let us all rise like a Phoenix from this mess!
Bigger and better Man!
The day I found out my girlfriend cheated on me my best friend was in Hawaii and another friend had already moved to Australia. This is my support network, the ones that would tell me to be strong, move on, and don't contact her. Completely unavailable to me when this happened.
Luckily I found this forum.
Today I am focusing on what happened after my last relationship ended, this was about 2.0 years ago and the months leading up to the time I met the girl who drove me to this forum were some of the best of my adult life. Here is a quick summary:
1) Started two new businesses
2) gained roughly 10 lbs of muscle
3) honed and strengthened my "game", learned to build attraction and maintain "frame" with hot girls.
4) Expanded my network of guy friends.
5) improved my wardrobe
the day I met my ex gf I had about four romantic prospects in my life and I was having a great night out in her home city. I was completely self contained and happy in my own skin.
a few months into my relationship with this girl I lost some of this. Dropped some of my hobbies, and dropped ALL my plates.
I don't believe everything I read in the manosphere but I have to say women have a unique intuition and can tell when you are drawing more energy and you happiness from your relationship than you are from other aspects of your life. You may be happy and confident in your life, but the moment that relationship takes center stage, you are a bit less of a man in her eyes.
At that point it comes down to where she is in her life. Is she happy and secure enough to let you take center stage in her life? A girl in her twenties lives in a pretty exciting and pretty emotional world. I don't think anything occupies center stage very long in her world. If a man puts her on his main stage he tranfers a lot of power to her. the end result?... at your absolute weakest moment she kicks you to the curb.
I want to get back to the happy self sufficient state in was in before her. I know I got to let her go to make this happen. it helps me to come here, reread postings from you guys and comment on your situation. I want to emphasize to anyone reading this that it is not about outwaiting her and getting her to call. its about kicking her off your main stage and putting yourself back up there. When you are the star of your own show that's when the ladies come calling and that's when your really living your life.
anyway. thanks for the help during the holiday season. don't call her, text her, come here instead and post.