The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[soulforge]

You’re right, I dodged a bullet and I have to get better with setting the correct frame next time.

Did she give you a reason for the break up?

 

[vato]

This is my plan.

Feel like **** for the first couple of weeks and allow myself to feel the pain. Cry if I have to, self-pity if I must. Will watch some “letting go” videos from Julien so I can process the break-up instead of using other outlets to escape my thoughts. I’ll also write down the mistakes I made during this relationship and how I can avoid them in the future.

But after those two weeks I’ll stop with all the b*tchass-ness and get back to work: I’ll start with taking boxing seriously again, back to the gym. Start making music again.

Focus on reading, traveling, socializing and getting sh*t done. Build up my Instagram profile to make it easier get ho*s. Tinder will be downloaded again.

Most importantly, I will start cold approaching and doing day game. 3 approaches daily and 10 during the weekends. I’ve missed this so much so it’s back 2 business.

This sh*t won’t be easy, there will be days where I want to break NC, but if I stick to NC and to my plan then know I’ll come out stronger in a couple of months. I’ll keep you guys updated on how things are going. At the moment I feel f*cked!

 

[vato]

Did she give you a reason for the break up?

She said that I take her for granted and that I don’t compliment her. Also that I won’t let her know what our future plans are (aka when we’ll get married). I told her she’s full of sh*t and why she didn’t break up with me a week ago instead of when I confronted her for flirting with my friend

 

[Baibars]

Broke NC yesterday because I left things on a bad term and wanted to tell her a few things so she doesn’t have that last bad impression of me.

The relationship ended because I was a major dckhead towards and then she didn’t want me back when I realized she’s moving on and that she was a good one. Break up happened almost 3 months ago.
So yesterday I called her and told her that I didn’t mean it when I got offensive. She appreciated it and was about to cry.
my longest NC streak was 19 days now.

Not planning to chase. I learned a lot and matured too.
Going to the gym consistently and I see results but my head is still a mess. It’s better than before though.

 

[soulforge]

She said that I take her for granted and that I don’t compliment her. Also that I won’t let her know what our future plans are (aka when we’ll get married). I told her she’s full of sh*t and why she didn’t break up with me a week ago instead of when I confronted her for flirting with my friend

Sounds like, she got exposed as being an untrustworthy hoe, and decided to run.

Girls are brilliant at sabotaging there relationships & recognising because she has been exposed, it's a better option to run.

 

[soulforge]

Had a moment of weakness today at work.

Had some memories of her come flooding back, of some of the few good times we had.

I immediately grabbed a pen and paper & made a list of all the negative qualities about her, all the bad behaviours she displayed & some of the areas where my values do not align with hers.

Pretty much immediately I felt ok again lol

 

[soulforge]

Keep the list. Laminate the paper and keep it ready in your pocket for other 'weak' moments.

Told my ex yesterday to not call me for anything ever again. Ive supported her for the past three years and she dosent understand why I cant "just" be her friend. The situation with her has really killed alot of my pride. Shes used me and this becomes evident when she starts dating a new guy. I go from surrogate boyfriend to a pain in her ass. So No Contact is for the best. The sad thing is Im pretty sure her current relationship will end within the next few months because she is a high maintenance attention ***** that kills attraction after the new relationship ideals go away. She expects me to be there to pick her back up like I have several times before. She dosent understand how much this ****s with my head, being used to meet her needs while mine are laughed at. She asked me why I cant just be happy for her, happy that Ive been ditched and shes ****ing someone else. Selfish *****.

No Contact, day one.

Sorry to hear that man. Any idea what caused the breakup?

Anyway under this circumstance you should never play the back up guy, incase her new situation doesn't work.

Stay 100% NC fall off the face of the earth.

 

[soulforge]

Keep the list. Laminate the paper and keep it ready in your pocket for other 'weak' moments.

To be fair I'm kinda beyond the point of where I would break NC.. That is very very unlikely to happen.

I do get the odd day where I feel sorry for her & her broken life, her broken upbringing & her issues, including depression.

However trying to fix a broken/damaged girl never ends well for us men.

This is why a written reminder or a list of why I had to cut her loose, helps in those low moments.

What makes things hardest is, she was a sexy little attractive thing. Damn!!

 

[vato]

Had a moment of weakness today at work.

Had some memories of her come flooding back, of some of the few good times we had.

I immediately grabbed a pen and paper & made a list of all the negative qualities about her, all the bad behaviours she displayed & some of the areas where my values do not align with hers.

Pretty much immediately I felt ok again lol

Keep that list in your notes app in your phone. I created a long list and it has helped me.

 

[soulforge]

Keep that list in your notes app in your phone. I created a long list and it has helped me.

Yeh I have done that. I look at it from time to time.

By the way I'm not one of these guys, that looks for red flags or reasons to justify the breakup.

There are literally some serious red flags and issues with my ex.. pretty certain she is BPD/NPD, or some other crazy shyte.

She was on/off anti depressants when I met her & I could clearly tell she had issues with her moods and had anger issues.

And I'm not the type who jumps to the BPD conclusion lightly.

 

[Foe]

pretty certain she is BPD/NPD, or some other crazy shyte.

She was on/off anti depressants when I met her & I could clearly tell she had issues with her moods and had anger issues.

And I'm not the type who jumps to the BPD conclusion lightly.

Nah doubt on the BPD, having some hands on experience with this you will know, there is no ifs or buts about it. The worst part of the BPD is they are actually the worst effected, you can see the torment in there actions and how ashamed and guilt ridden they are. Doesn't stop them from doing the same thing over and over and projecting it all on you but man you will know if you get into it with a BPD..

They give you the purest highs as well which is something Im still trying to get over. I think you just bagged a hottie and lets face it these things are not equipped to compromise, understand or settle. They are princesses, be proud you can hit this calibre of chick, most guys can only dream.

 

[soulforge]

Nah doubt on the BPD, having some hands on experience with this you will know, there is no ifs or buts about it. The worst part of the BPD is they are actually the worst effected, you can see the torment in there actions and how ashamed and guilt ridden they are. Doesn't stop them from doing the same thing over and over and projecting it all on you but man you will know if you get into it with a BPD..

They give you the purest highs as well which is something Im still trying to get over. I think you just bagged a hottie and lets face it these things are not equipped to compromise, understand or settle. They are princesses, be proud you can hit this calibre of chick, most guys can only dream.

01. Anti depressants
02. Sexual abuse in her childhood
03. String of toxic relationships
04. Severe mood swings
05. Raised without a father only dates much older men (daddy issues)
06. Paranoid about cheating, goes through your phone etc, scared of abandonment if you don't text back or call.
07. Doesn't get along with colleagues or family
08. Addicted to attention/social media
09. Lots of male friends
10. Drinks alcohol to get drunk
11. Several large tattoos
12. High body count

This is more than just princess bro.. this is someone pretty much damaged.. Might not be straight up BPD, and I hinted at that.. Possibly Daddy Issue's as, most broken girls including BPD have Daddy Issue's

 

[johnrambo]

This is more than just princess bro.. this is someone pretty much damaged.. Might not be straight up BPD, and I hinted at that.. Possibly Daddy Issue's as, most broken girls including BPD have Daddy Issue's

Most of us guys (e.g., me) who are into younger ladies will no doubt encounter ladies with daddy issues. Not having grown up in a normal and happy family will lead to all the points you mentioned in 01-12! The alternative is ladies who are in their 40s and 50s who are divorced and have kids.

 

[soulforge]

Most of us guys (e.g., me) who are into younger ladies will no doubt encounter ladies with daddy issues. Not having grown up in a normal and happy family will lead to all the points you mentioned in 01-12! The alternative is ladies who are in their 40s and 50s who are divorced and have kids.

I don't like older girls.. So intend to continue smashing younger chicks, but keep the ones with daddy issues at an arms length lol

 

[johnrambo]

I don't like older girls.. So intend to continue smashing younger chicks, but keep the ones with daddy issues at an arms length lol

Young girls who like older guys without daddy issues are unicorns

 

[soulforge]

Young girls who like older guys without daddy issues are unicorns

Yeh true man, they are still worth banging, just gotta make sure you don't get attached

 

[johnrambo]

Yeh true man, they are still worth banging, just gotta make sure you don't get attached

Amen to that! They'll get old eventually though and you gotta find a new batch

 

[soulforge]

Amen to that! They'll get old eventually though and you gotta find a new batch

When it comes to sex, the damaged chicks, Daddy issues girls are the damn best.. they love that domination and kinky sex!!

 

[Lotus Effect]

When it comes to sex, the damaged chicks, Daddy issues girls are the damn best.. they love that domination and kinky sex!!

As the quote go, there’s no better pvssy than crazy pvssy!

 

[Lotus Effect]

Need a reality check guys.

got two friends of mine, guy and girl

to visit me after my surgery (13 days now)

we took some pics, and the chick posted on instagram stories

and now I’m in that position of reposting or not, only to show the girl im here for that I’m living my life.

basically, weak afc behavior.

not going to do it, because the reason is not genuine or anything like, the reason is petty and it just shows im still seeking validation from someone who clearly does not give a single flying fvck

there’s also another two chicks, that id like to see the stories as well, but again, same reason, reposting to validate or to showcase something to others.

not doing it, but it was good writing about it!

cheers mates!