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Don Juan
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Met a new plate, actually like this one a bit more, will keep you guys updated.
Thanks CJ- feeling slightly better today- Busier and realize that I need to cultivate an 'abundance' mindset.Cejay said:Lozboss,
Not contacting her is doing well. Its so easy these days.
Not being busy is a killer. (at least for me) I have really amped up my busy-ness.
A change of diet can be tough and a lot to take on for anyone. Any chance you're taking on too much change at the moment?
At the same time, at week 2 I just plain felt like sh1t and maybe you just need to get through it.
I'm doing well. I think that I crested some sort of mental hill this week. I still think of her a little here and there. Probably 2x a day, I start to wonder how she is and what she's doing but I don't allow myself to dwell on it and try to think about something more productive. Its nowhere near what it was.
I think part of the problem for me was not knowing many people so she played the role of GF and BFF which fvcks with my frame and made the loss considerably bigger.
I got involved with some local clubs and I'm meeting a ton of guys I have stuff in common with. Making new friends and dropping the plates has really helped.
At the moment, I'm polite but ignoring the women.
Keep going man. You'll be happy again.
CJ.
fafo said:Days are getting slower in the summer while working with no incoming vacation .
Maybe my bad(for not acting faster) but found out the girl that was showing interest in me is having a bf which is a red light for me(don't want to do anything that I don't want to be done to me) and also embarrassed from how much of a AFC I am still
Today my ex texted me with a funny photo of our mutual friend's dog(inside joke)
and I have my doubts should I respond to it.
She doesn't seem to want anything from me but to completely ignore it seems kinda rude. What do you guys think would be best ? I don't want to be a **** about it but I also don't want to seem AFC.
Being lonely in my opinion was the worst part. But eventually you'll realize that it does get better and sometimes will enjoy the time you have all to yourself! Keep up all of the hard work and message me if you just need someone to talk to!Cejay said:Its a holiday today in the US but I didn't have much to do so opted to work it and take it another time.
She continues to fade and get easier to ignore when she does pop into my mind. The way I feel today vs say Day 28 is so far apart.
I'm happy not to be dating right now.
Going to the gym has been a huge help and I should be able to resume martial arts next month which will be another big help.
Fridays are a little harder for me than any other day, as we had a fun, Friday morning tradition that I really looked forward to. (She was off and would come over and make us breakfast, then hang out while I worked.) I miss that a lot.
I think I miss her friendship and companionship more than anything, and thats why I'm concentrating on making new friends. Its hard when you work from home and travel for work, but it'll happen. So I try to make the most of my time with productive efforts. I'm still healing but I feel very good, now its just loneliness.
Stay strong guys, it does get better.
CJ
Good man, Keep busy.Cejay said:Its a holiday today in the US but I didn't have much to do so opted to work it and take it another time.
She continues to fade and get easier to ignore when she does pop into my mind. The way I feel today vs say Day 28 is so far apart.
I'm happy not to be dating right now.
Going to the gym has been a huge help and I should be able to resume martial arts next month which will be another big help.
Fridays are a little harder for me than any other day, as we had a fun, Friday morning tradition that I really looked forward to. (She was off and would come over and make us breakfast, then hang out while I worked.) I miss that a lot.
I think I miss her friendship and companionship more than anything, and thats why I'm concentrating on making new friends. Its hard when you work from home and travel for work, but it'll happen. So I try to make the most of my time with productive efforts. I'm still healing but I feel very good, now its just loneliness.
Stay strong guys, it does get better.
CJ
If you learn one lesson from this experience its this.Cejay said:Lozboss,
I think part of the problem for me was not knowing many people so she played the role of GF and BFF which fvcks with my frame and made the loss considerably bigger.
CJ.
7 days isn't enough to fully heal. Don't beat yourself up so much. I'm currently on day 53 and am gettin so much better. If you go back and read my posts I was a mess until around day 40. Don't expect it to come suddenly and be instantly over her, it's a time process. Just be patient and keep bettering yourself. I was in a worse place then I ever thought, and if I can do it, you can too.Insidout said:Day4, 5,6 and 7 pretty much sucked..
I don't think I'm healing, is it too soon?
Nothing special, everything I do is a matter of routine.. I'm trying to keep myself from thinking about her, easier said than done.
I'm currently staying with a friend which helps me a little.
With each passing day, I'm getting more and more convinced that staying away and breaking up with that girl was the right decision, but God won't her memories leave me alone? it's 7 days already and I'm not feeling good..
It's my own damn fault, I let myself get TOO attached as if she's the only woman ever existed.. and now I feel empty inside and find no meaning in anything I do..
I hope you guys are doing well,..
Lozboss said:Reached the 2 week mark.
Not going to lie today is really tough. Still sad about ending it in bad blood but I guess that's that. Surprised she hasn't reached out (deleted her number so I don't).
Worst part is the lack of closure.
I know it's for the best but I'm struggling. Got a wedding this weekend and will now be going Solo.
Still staying about from plate spinning and dating for the moment until I get my head right. Going to focus on getting back in shape and starting my MBA in September.
On a plus point- Holiday to Sunny Beach Bulgaria in 2 weeks- CAN'T WAIT! Hopefully smash a few broads and enjoy some partying with the lads.
Thank you I really appreciate the kind words. And as far as her flirting with some guy, I'll tell you one thing for sure. 99% of rebound relationships don't work. She might date that guy, but who cares. Guaranteed they won't last and by then you won't even care. Just give yourself plenty of time and don't dwell on her. Try doing something that list occupy your mind during your spare time, always helps me!Insidout said:Day8
I found that she's making comments on some guy's instagram profile. he was interested in her when we were together, I know this shouldn't bother me or matter to me, but it does.. on a scale of 1-10, it bothers me a 7..
I keep thinking, is she over me? I know she wasn't attracted to that guy, could she be making those comments on purpose because she knows how much I hated him?
I can't control those thoughts although I try to push them away as hard as I can, and I know it's not hard enough!
I'm not stalking her btw, I just found a photo of him by accident and her comments on it (made few hours ago).. hurts doesn't it?
CJ
I did read a lot of posts and I understand what I'm getting into, this isn't my first breakup btw, but breakups never hurt me so bad since no other girl meant so much to me before..
Allin
congratulations on your 30 days, I wish I can speed things up and reach that stage when I'm finally able to ignore her text..
your reply wasn't dumb and to me it seems your NC is solid,
To be honest, I wish that my girl breaks NC,.. the last time I stated NC (lasted 7 days) she wouldn't leave me alone for a day! what the hell happened? why isn't she trying anymore? I know this is the worst thing for me to think right now and I know this shouldn't matter to me at all, but I think it's normal that I'm thinking this way.. isn't it? honestly, it does bother me that she's not trying and not breaking NC..
Jared
I hope you're doing well.. keep it up!