Allin said:
Welcome Teacher and Shadow,
Very good advice from Lozboss there. Work on yourself and wait before spinning plates.
NC day 37
Well. Yesterday was rough but it could have been much worse. A friend tought it was a super idea to tell me that he learned that she entered in a relationship right after leaving me and that I was now ready to know it. That it will help me move on. Wow. That was definitely not easy to take, even if I'm not stupid and already guessed that she dumped me for someone else.
Honestly, maybe this friend was right telling me. I have felt much better since day 30 where she texted me (ego boost) and knowing that she did that while in a relationship in enough for me to stay strong forever.
Starting my new job in 3 weeks. Can't wait.
I was in a situation close to yours :yes:
But mine was kinda worse
she forgot her Viber signed on my PC so I could watch her flirt with her new guy. Yea I know its wrong on so many levels but I didn't care at the time. I deleted viber from my PC when I felt nothing watching the chat. Most people smolder in the fire of negativity and sadness slowly for days, weeks, sometimes years after their ex but I jumped right into the fire and that way became a lot stronger a lot faster.
My confidence was molded from anger and frustration, I couldn't believe how this guy is typing paragraphs of love AFC **** , lowering his value and she is melting.
As this was happening I was reading the DJ Bible and 3% Men books, started gym training and cared only for my needs only because before I was thinking about hers almost all the time. This gave me just the right formula to banish any thoughts of her.
Mutual friends were also talking to me about her but they couldn't tell me anything that I didn't already knew
so I was laughing when some of them attempted to make me sad with stories about my ex. Their faces were priceless when I didn't even blink at the "news" and continued to drink with other friends ignoring them completely
I dont really know what to advise you but you will feel less and less as time passes. If you converse and flirt with other girls, time will pass soo fast.
Im not sayin you should spin plates, at least not at this point but flirting is very uplifting especially if the girl responds
and makes you forget all other ****.
Also starting a new job is very good because you can give it all you've got. I started my new job 2 weeks after we broke up and now Im giving it all, got a paycheck rise already and everything is going smooth(going to Germany tomorrow for a business meeting and beer tourism
).
I'm only curious how will things with the new AFC guy turn out but that only time can show
I'm not in a hurry and feel better than ever
(you will too
)