Hi All,
Ive been reading this thread for a good couple of months now. It certainly helped me.
Around 6 months ago my girlfriend suddenly became cold on me, ignored me and eventually we parted ways. She didnt even have the guts to tell me. She went off with someone else. Naturally, i was devastated. This was a girl who i got to know well, become close and intimate with for over a good year......Low point - i was in the park with my head in my hands bawling. It took me over three ways for the crying to stop. Sad and pathetic - who knows, human nature i guess.
I listened and read all of the posts and comments on here, particularly Mauser96 and sosuave666. They have helped me enourmously. Thank you both. Anyways, I applied no contact, said a massive fVCK off to her in my head and walked away. No FB, no msgs, no snapchats. Nothing. Im Gone. Forever. I never looked back. At first i tricked myself into thinking this will bring her back. How funny the tricks your head plays on yourself eh! Bascially i was pinning for her and hoping that she realized her mistake. Im not going to lie. It was tough. Real tough. Hence the challenge i guess.
Anyways after weeks and weeks went passed of doing gymwork, hanging with friends and equally importantly......meeting new people....the clouds stared to dissapear. I was acting normal again. I was smiling and confidence was slowly creeping back. I was iniating conversations with girls and getting numbers, and dates......and then bam. Guess what. She contacted me. She was missing me..........What did i do?........Nothing. No msg from me, no call, nothing. Im gone dear lady. You are a memory. A good one but still a memory. Im onto other things now. She tried again. She got no message, no call, no snapchat. Nothing.
I am now spinning plates as some of you call it and i feel great. Its all in the head. No contact started out as a way to get her back. No contact now means i'm a man who takes no ****. For instance, i just had a girl who ive been dating and been banging who just flaked on me. I didnt respond to her, ive just ignored her. I went out with another chick that night instead. She apologised afterwards and arranged another time. Im gradually growing stronger and accepting myself for who i am. If someone doesnt like it. Good luck to you and goodbye.
To sum up.....no contact increases your confidence and belief in yourself if you stick to it. It will hurt at first and your head will convince you that it will bring them back. It wont. Its a learning experience and you will find someone better. But most importantly....you are step closer to reaching your potential. Good luck all, and thank you.
