Faldero456 said:Son of a *****!!!
Back to day 1
:cuss:
Someone please :kick:
What happened dude?
Faldero456 said:Son of a *****!!!
Back to day 1
:cuss:
Someone please :kick:
Affi11 said:Day 4, morning.
Yesterday I had dinner with a cute girl from work. She has a serious boyfriend, but I liked her as a person. To be honest, she reminded me of the ex - both very good communicators, kind, tall and skinny, from the same town and with similar values. Had a nice two hour dinner with lots of talking.
Then after I got home, I LJBF's the girl I went on a date with two days ago, who was just not really right for me. As I was chatting with her I accidentally browsed to old pictures of me and the ex. Mistake.
Woke up today missing her. And loving her. Not in a bad needy way, at least I don't think so, but just, eh. Work's going to be busy. That'll be good.
Having a little bit of self esteem crisis. The ex is probably a 9 in looks, 9 in personality, and 9 in values - not perfect but pretty darn close. When we first started dating, I was probably a 7.5 in looks, 9 in status, and a 9 in personality (I had 4 plates spinning at the time). Now, I'm a 5.5 in looks (I lost 20 lbs from stress), 7 in status (I started my own business but it's young), and 6 in personality (less confident, less funny, less positive).
Sometimes I descend into a wall of worry. There are plenty of women out there - but not that many like her, especially with her values, at least I don't think. The only thing to do is to work on myself, get myself back to where I was or better yet even higher, and move on to the next one.
On the bright side, there is nowhere to go but up.
Like the others have said, please tell what happened. Did she contact you and you responded or did you initiate? Details, man!Faldero456 said:Son of a *****!!!
Back to day 1
:cuss:
Someone please :kick:
henreahenrea4 said:I won't lie. I'm jealous.
Faldero456 said:henrea
I have got to move on!
So I had a night of feeeling like a couple. Talking. Getting close. Sex.
End of the day we are still broken up. No reconciliation.
F uck budy, one last time for old times sake.
This doesn't help at all.
All it did was put me back to day 0 of healing.
Faldero456
You guys aren't back together YET. Why is everyone so negative around here? She agreed to see you, you guys spent time together, you had sex, you talked. There's still something there. It may just be too soon to jump back into a relationship, but I see potential for some kind of reconciliation here. Maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic, though. It's a lot better than my situation. My ex wife will talk to me if I text her and she'll answer if I call, but she wants nothing to do with me otherwise. Won't even sit down and have a cup of coffee with me for 30 minutes. I don't know...maybe that's better for me. If I just let go, I could probably be over her pretty quickly. I just don't know how to do it. They say absence makes the heart grow fonder, and also out of sight out of mind. I think my ex wife is experiencing the latter while I'm stuck on the former. I want to text or call her so badly right now it's killing me. I even googled her name like an idiot yesterday and tried to look her up on Facebook (I've blocked her luckily) All I want right now is for her to reach out....to give me some kind of indication that the 9 years we spent together meant SOMETHING, ANYTHING to her. It seems like she completely forgot about me the minute I got the "I fell out of love with you" speech.Faldero456 said:henrea
I have got to move on!
So I had a night of feeeling like a couple. Talking. Getting close. Sex.
End of the day we are still broken up. No reconciliation.
F uck budy, one last time for old times sake.
This doesn't help at all.
All it did was put me back to day 0 of healing.
Faldero456
I know just how you feel, man. I was with my ex wife for 9 years, and we were two weeks away from our 8th anniversary and she tells me that she isn't in love with me anymore. This came seemingly out of the blue. Now, my ex was the type to always text me and was really lovey-dovey. That night, I didn't get a single text message from her after she went to work. Like a light switch, she just changed completely before my eyes. I guess since the secret was out she figured she could drop the act. Then, after we separated (which was only a few days later...oh and btw in that time I was also served divorce papers) the nc continued and when I tried to contact her she acted really nasty to me. A week prior I was thinking of doing something nice for her for her 40th birthday (she is 6 years older than me) and our anniversary and now I'm sitting at my parents house 4 months later, divorced, still trying to figure out where the hell my wife went. I made the mistake of cyber stalking...looking at her FB page and whatnot...she looks great. Lost a bunch of weight (she had type 2 diabetes and her doctors recently told her that if she keeps this up she can stop taking some of her medications) and is going out with friends more. Everything seems to be just going peachy for her while I'm sitting here feeling like killing myself at least 3 times a week. Yeah, it sucks ass.mike465 said:Guys my mind's all over the place today. I'm so annoyed at her for doing it over text. I'm so angry that I've had to go through all this pain.
I just want her to be upset so that I can have a bit of fun with this, i wish she would chase me for a while so I can laugh at her and have the power.
Not knowing whether she's as upset as I am (or near it) is the hardest thing to cope with. Knowing how much I cared about her and how (seemingly) easily she has brushed me off is annoying and makes me feel like ****.
Not a good day today at all...
Don't be too hard on yourself, man. We've all done it. Just brush yourself off and get back on that horse.Affi11 said:I replied to a logistical e-mail of hers with something "try-hard". Then, couldn't help myself checking her facebook and seeing what she's up to. Back to square one. It doesn't feel good... sigh.