Women who have no self respect and have not self love as evidenced by terrifically high partner counts are low quality women that cannot bond.
Great men are the exception to be sure. They are the mavericks, the ambitious, the successful, often the self employed, the unabashedly "No give a sh!t" men out there doing life on their own terms. They are the ones who can take or leave women because there are always lots of women to choose from as women are indeed drawn to men like this.
True, because you see it in everyday life.
However, most of these men, in addition to being workaholics and focused on their careers, are almost always sociopaths, manipulators, and emotionally immature.
And guess who they attract? Women who don’t love themselves.
Why? Mostly because they remeber their father. Also, for other reasons.
Just as these men mock others to advance their careers, adopting an IDGAF attitude and manipulators patterns, they will do the same with their partners and children. So what that family look like?..
This is what some women are drawn to: a man's ability to mock them while making them feel loved in a way that ultimately isn’t genuine, because that kind of women, in the very first instance, can't love herself.
Now, You can say I could be wrong. For sure, but I can confirm this because I have two real examples of men who possess the qualities you described, but do not dwell in the sociopathic and manipulators category. Their relationships lasted for ten years, after having kids and marriage, before ending in divorce because "the love was gone.".
To add, one person I know, it's a close friend. He's business got eradicated by covid, but he went to a solo travel for one month, to relief his problems, and then came back, and through his own efforts, he created a social media presence, studied what he always loved to do, and became a local personal trainer, running his own gym. He now trains over 50 people and makes good money, is popular locally and on social media, so he has all the cards in his pocket to land a quality woman. Plus, his lifestyle is damn healthy.
He has all the quirks you mentioned, but: You know what? He's a good guy. A real golden boy. No sociopathy, no meanness, no manipulation. He always has a smile on his face and tells me he has a hard time with women. Finding the right ones who can receive the love he gives. He dated many, and still hard to find one like you've mentioned. He told me that He sees the same patterns I was describing. Those women keep their relationships with arrogant men who can scold them. Is this the thruth? We don't know, but this is what we see.
(by good guy I don't mean spineless, or a doormat or a nice guy)
So, if you are a woman attracted to a man like that, that's fine. However, if you cannot recognize that he may be a manipulative sociopath who mocks others—and therefore will likely do the same to you—then what is the next thing to do?
I always thought that a good person will attract a good person.
So a bad person, even if it's superficially showing you those desired quirks, will attract a bad person still.
(sorry for my bad english)
Make troopers out of your women. Run the fvcken ship in the manner you want to run it. She either freely submits as a passenger, or she's out.
The difference is how you give her the order to do things.
This connects with what I've said above.
Women will submit to you if you can make them uncomfortable, mocked, scolded. (She doesn't love herself.)
Others will submit if you can make them to understand, calmly, without arrogance what you've said. (She know how to love herself.)
It's really like lottery, and the approach you adopt, will actually filter out women for you
So if one relationship (LTR) fails, it's not surprising that another relationship (marriage) follows suit.
