How to Spot a Unicorn

[BeExcellent]

@devilkingx2 you can rant all you like.

There are plenty of high quality women who desire to please their man sexually. However these are women who understand their value & currency. The have plenty of self esteem and bring plenty to the table.

They do not jump into bed easily. I've said a thousand times that a woman who values her reputation and her virginity (if she is waiting for marriage to lose it) knows how valuable her chastity is.

Your post is a great example of the type man a high quality woman would weed out very quickly or never give an opportunity to. It screams angry & bitter. Perhaps working on oneself is a more productive use of time.

Not every man wants a high quality girl. Some men prefer spinning plates and easy sex and call it good.

This post was made for those who DO want a quality girl.

 

[BeExcellent]

The term "Unicorn" originated as I'm sure most here are aware from a viral You Tube video a few years ago.

The "hot/crazy matrix" and all that. It's a funny because it resonates with people.

Most people want something that has value/cache/something seen as desirable. If that wasn't true BMW, Mercedes, Prada, Chanel, Ferragamo, Canali, and Robert Graham would all be out of business. Nobody would buy expensive homes or vacation in expensive places. Everybody here gets that.

Things easily obtained or that anyone can have are not seen as valuable. This is not news.

Everyone here refers to the SMV marketplace.

To appeal to women who are high value who have basically unlimited choices you have to offer "more" than other high value men. This will vary some based on individual desires in a companion. Things in a man that are a given (expected by) for the top tier women are:

Good looks, status, success, fitness, sex. Top tier women can get all of that in a single package all the time. Just like actors & athletes can get the hottest women to pick from all the time. That's the market at work.

When you are drowning in abundance you get to be extra choosy. So the things that are given get sorted by priority and choices get made on secondary attributes as well.

Of course that means the man needs to be high value...if he wants a high value woman.

Call it women's frame if you like but really it's just the efficient market at work. The market doesn't care if you are male or female...it simply sorts you into the hierarchy based on your competition and your attributes.

And it should be obvious that the hierarchy is on a bell curve.

There's lots of this info. already in the thread.

 

[Von]

You need to be a virgin to find a unicorn... it's written in the only text.... oh and a woman

8 Page on unicorn.... people want unicorn... but they usually appear when you aint looking

 

[devilkingx2]

you can rant all you like.

All I did was ask a series of questions and interpret the meaning of your words as they're written

Also don't think that anyone didn't notice you didn't respond to them lol

Your post is a great example of the type man a high quality woman would weed out very quickly or never give an opportunity to. It screams angry & bitter. Perhaps working on oneself is a more productive use of time.

Are you always this sensitive to the slightest bit of criticism?

I've said a thousand times that a woman who values her reputation and her virginity (if she is waiting for marriage to lose it) knows how valuable her chastity is.

The problem I've always had with this train of thought is that, what if you accidentally filter for a woman who just doesn't like sex very much? There's women out there who don't watch porn and never masturbate, they simply have low sex drives (whether naturally or psychologically or as a medicine side effect), what if through your "quality screening" we end up with those? Is that an unintentional side effect or a necessary sacrifice?

 

[sazc]

There are NO unicorns of either sex. We're all flawed. The trick is finding sometimes flaws you can work with and relate to

 

[BeExcellent]

Unicorn is merely a moniker.

There DO exist women as described in the outset of this thread. I personally know quite a few. Atom Smasher has found one.Colossus found one. Penkitten is one.

The thing is because these are women men value for all the reasons already reviewed in this thread.

They are mostly happily married. They get snatched up. So no, you aren't going to see them in single land very often.

There is no need to answer your questions. The answers are already in the thread. Read.

No need to rewrite the thread.

 

[guru1000]

Make troopers out of your women. Run the fvcken ship in the manner you want to run it. She either freely submits as a passenger, or she's out.

Yes, most women have histories of low-quality behavior. Could you blame them given the myriad beta men willing to kiss their feet regardless of how they choose to act? What motivation do they have to act correctly? I remember one morning asking an ex to make a cup of coffee. She looked at me as if I had three heads and stated, "I have never made a cup of coffee for my bf. They are the ones to make coffee for me!" LOL. That quickly changed.

I encourage men to distinguish themselves by being the KINGs of the social interaction. There is a certain value that originates and emanates from YOU when a woman unequivocally knows that she must be on her best behavior with you else lose you (assuming you are not worth losing).

Most importantly, follow through. If a transgression of behavior occurs, after prior notification, execute your exit. Most reluctance we hold with "boundaries," is in our own inability to truly exit incited by the implicit fear of being alone. Your willingness to exit upon impropriety is the implicit glue which cements the relation.

I place this post in the "unicorn" thread, as even good women will treat you badly if YOU allow them to. We sometimes miscategorize women as difficult, when it could be as simple as our own inability to lead. Many women can be directed well and happily subordinate, but you have to be the leader they feel they can genuinely defer to.

 

[Tenacity]

It's the promotion of UNICORNS and the disagreement of my "analysis" that every woman in the market is fvcked up.......that makes me WISH Poon King were still here to call these folks a damn "fag.got" lmao.

I mean come on, how long are you guys going to push this damn scam? Every woman has ONE of the major issues I've been talking about for months now. There's no getting around it.

 

[devilkingx2]

It's the promotion of UNICORNS and the disagreement of my "analysis" that every woman in the market is fvcked up.......that makes me WISH Poon King were still here to call these folks a damn "fag.got" lmao.

I mean come on, how long are you guys going to push this damn scam? Every woman has ONE of the major issues I've been talking about for months now. There's no getting around it.

you ever see a sitcom where the gag is that the main character wants to dump a girl for something hilarious petty that he thinks is a humongous deal? like seinfeld, remember that episode where george found a girl who liked him because she didn't care about looks at all, and he wanted to dump her because that meant that she didn't find him particularly attractive?

because that's how I always imagine your dating life, I can imagine you dumping a girl and going "she looks too much like jennifer lopez and I'm more of a mariah carey fan..." or "she likes sprinkles on her ice cream like some sort of plebian" or "I saw her drinking a Dr. Pepper once, ewww #fanta4life" and then having heated debates with your friends about it where you absolutely insist that not knowing that the fruit orange was named before the color is a deal breaker lmao

I always thought that was the most logical explanation for your lack of success in finding the one, you've gotta have some sort of crazy standards to hit 200 without finding an LTR

 

[QuadDeuces]

It's funny how growing up with sisters can give you perspective.
I saw all these boyfriends and orbiting men worshiping and pedestalising them and handling them with velvet gloves kissing the floor they'd walk on.
As a brother I would look at those men as pathetic and weak, because I knew my sisters eventhough they are/were hot they were far far far from unicorns.
And I saw all these guys swallowing their words like gospel giving them non stop attention.

 

[devilkingx2]

There is no need to answer your questions. The answers are already in the thread. Read.

No need to rewrite the thread.

based on how bad your theory proposals are I can tell you're not a scientist

 

[BeExcellent]

based on how bad your theory proposals are I can tell you're not a scientist

Says the young man to the healthcare executive (and scientist), lol.

@guru1000 hits the nail on the head once again. Failure of men to lead in relationship is a key factor. Leadership and decisiveness are key things for men to achieve success. Timidity, fear & indecision are enormous turn offs.

I run into high powered men all the time IRL who register the same complaints as are on SS. But I also know quite a few really solid couples as I've noted. Might things fall apart at some point? Perhaps. But do not get complacent and do not fail to lead & you greatly reduce the chances of this.

If you start off with higher caliber your chances of success increase. So again we get back to being your best self...because that is how to appeal to better women.

 

[sazc]

It's funny how growing up with sisters can give you perspective.
I saw all these boyfriends and orbiting men worshiping and pedestalising them and handling them with velvet gloves kissing the floor they'd walk on.
As a brother I would look at those men as pathetic and weak, because I knew my sisters eventhough they are/were hot they were far far far from unicorns.
And I saw all these guys swallowing their words like gospel giving them non stop attention.

Ahhhhhhh the power of the pvssy!

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

beExcellent, you are an excellent poster but unicorns do not exist. That's why we use the term unicorn - because it is a moniker for describing our search for something that doesn't exist.
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Yes, the title of the thread is a little unfortunate. It should read, 'How to Spot a 'Unicorn'. Unicorn has to be 'interrogated' here, otherwise one is buying into a vocabulary that is subverting your very position. A 'unicorn' is not really a unicorn.... there really are some sensible sexy women around.

 

[sazc]

Unicorns are an illusion and the belief you have captured one most likely demonstrates that you are still in the honeymoon period

 

[AlexKaiser]

It seems like a lot of this is deciding who is the undisputed alpha of the relationship, and trying to figure out who gets to spend the most time on the pedestal. If you are not in charge, and making the decisions, then there is no point in being in it at all. Are LTRs for gorgeous women and men just contests of who gets to dominate who?

 

[penkitten]

I'm very late to this thread but I wanted to comment.
I thought that the op wrote a nice article and there was some good discussion for some.

I think if you changed the word "unicorn" to "quality woman" that it may have been more warmly received. Partly because unicorns, dragons, etc are make believe. However, there are good quality women out there.

When I first joined, there were members who felt any female that posted should be argued with or ridiculed. Another female told be to be tough and hang in there. The men posting were telling me to listen to what they had to say. I listened and I discussed things and slowly I transformed myself into a better person and a higher quality woman than I had been before. This forum transformed me from a young adult to a grown woman. I will always have my own flaws but I'm not a terrible person anymore.
My transformation happened because members of this site became my brothers and stopped shredding everything I posted apart. It was very similar to being the only girl on your baseball league. They taught me how to play ball.
Just some food for thought.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I'm very late to this thread but I wanted to comment.
I thought that the op wrote a nice article and there was some good discussion for some.

I think if you changed the word "unicorn" to "quality woman" that it may have been more warmly received. Partly because unicorns, dragons, etc are make believe. However, there are good quality women out there.

When I first joined, there were members who felt any female that posted should be argued with or ridiculed. Another female told be to be tough and hang in there. The men posting were telling me to listen to what they had to say. I listened and I discussed things and slowly I transformed myself into a better person and a higher quality woman than I had been before. This forum transformed me from a young adult to a grown woman. I will always have my own flaws but I'm not a terrible person anymore.
My transformation happened because members of this site became my brothers and stopped shredding everything I posted apart. It was very similar to being the only girl on your baseball league. They taught me how to play ball.
Just some food for thought.

How can one teach a woman though? And who's to say she will accept it with open arms? How can we teach a woman without having to directly explain things in the way such as this forum?

 

[BeExcellent]

How can one teach a woman though? And who's to say she will accept it with open arms? How can we teach a woman without having to directly explain things in the way such as this forum?

Read @Atom Smasher 's recent thread about The Importance of the Philosophical Conversation.

That will explain how you lead/teach/set boundaries

 

[sazc]

How can one teach a woman though? And who's to say she will accept it with open arms? How can we teach a woman without having to directly explain things in the way such as this forum?

I worry about you being so young and on this forum. Your perspective of women is not being shaped by personal experience. It will make a difference. There is always the genuine possibility that, with your personality, demeanor, intelligence, or a myriad of other factors, you would never run into a lot/some of what is discussed on this forum. Keep an open mind as your travel along your journey.

That said, a quality female whom is looking for a quality male is going to know, without coaching, that she needs to be open to the man she is with. Open to listening, learning and understanding. It wont be a large battle, it should fall into place. There will be bumps and hiccups along the way, but for the most part there will be almost no drama, understanding on both ends, loyalty that you can really feel, and (mostly) good times.