Current GF / Lost interest in Sex

[Jor-El]

we are together 24/7

..well,its the ultimate passion/relationship killer isnt it,and proving to be so

 

[Jor-El]

My girlfriend tried to sue the doctors after I lost interest in sex following an operation. They said to her "look,we only adjusted his eye sight"

 

[DJ Novice]

I wouldn’t recommend moving in with a girl until at least the 3 year mark. And even then I would take insurance with a pre nup or similar

After 3 years you should know whether she still has genuine desire for you which will manifest itself in the bedroom.

While the quality and quantity of s*x will not be at the same levels as when you first met due to hedonic adaptation, they should still be high. variety, surprise etc. in the bedroom has to come from her as well as you.

Many women will use s*x as a way to either get you to commit to them during the early stages of a relationship or to control your behaviour after you have committed to them. You need to be alert to this during the 3 year vetting period.

During the 3 years before moving in you should make sure you have extended periods of time with her (like a month long holiday) to see how living together would actually be like.

You should exit a relationship if your s*xual needs aren’t being met and you have both had open and honest conversations about it. You can’t negotiate desire; it’s either there or it isn’t.

 

[plumber]

It's one of these 3 reasons:

1) She is fvcking someone else

2) You have significantly changed appearance since you began dating(or, gained a bunch of weight, etc)

3) She has lost enough respect for you that the thought of being intimate with you is revolting to her. Women CANNOT have sex with men they don't respect, it gives them the "ick".

Only you can determine which of these 3 it is, but it is one of these three.

from the writing,

#3. She actually told him she does not want sex with him.

#1 Likely will follow, if she starts going places or there can be a neighbor.... apparently he is out at the gym on a regular basis, also for other hobbies. this might have already started. if no other obvious reason for a sharp increase in #3, this is the elephant...

#2 Going to gym. But other such as clothing, hair, and posture.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

OP, let her know this is not acceptable to you and that you cannot have a girlfriend that isn't interested in you physically and dump her.

There is no trying to talk to her about it...no coming back from this, stop wasting your time and find other women to date.

This woman is simply a massive waste of your time at this point and that will not ever change moving forward.

 

[Bokanovsky]

It's one of these 3 reasons:

1) She is fvcking someone else

2) You have significantly changed appearance since you began dating(or, gained a bunch of weight, etc)

3) She has lost enough respect for you that the thought of being intimate with you is revolting to her. Women CANNOT have sex with men they don't respect, it gives them the "ick".

Only you can determine which of these 3 it is, but it is one of these three.

4) She used sex to get what she wanted (commitment and cohabitation) and now that she has it, she no longer feels the need to put in effort.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

we live together and i work from home so pretty much she has no space to cheat we are together 24/7.

Commonality is the destroyer of sex, desire and many LTR's = The mystique is gone which feeds her hamster brain wheel.
Rule #1 with girls = Never bore them or you dead to them.
Girls needs attention as much as flowers need the sun light to shine on them as you already know..

Plus what @BackInTheGame78 just said...

Current GF / Lost interest in Sex

Been gone for a while from this forums. Been building different things in my life and while all the rest is working like a clock, my love life and especially my sex life has been decreasing by a high margin. Long story short i posted in the past about this chick im with for about 17 months now...

www.sosuave.net

 

[BackInTheGame78]

4) She used sex to get what she wanted (commitment and cohabitation) and now that she has it, she no longer feels the need to put in effort.

That has to do with #3. Just another way lack of respect manifests.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Women CANNOT have sex with men they don't respect, it gives them the "ick".

Oh they can It just depends what transactional value may be on offer to them

How do you think prostitution started lol

 

[Bingo-Player]

OP - it sounds like shes emotionally checked out or you've just hit the natural platonic stage of the relationship where sex goes to die

Sex does not automatically remain exciting whilst in a relationship , if it did nobody would ever cheat

You constantly need to be objectifying and teasing your woman so she can feel sexy and in turn she will BE SEXY

You need to be constantly smacking her on the A$$ and whispering that your balls need emptying

This will arouse her and get her in the mood for sex..... LEAD HER THERE

Too many guys allow their women to basically become a friend and let them do whatever the fvck they want ....do your freinds feel sexy around you ? , do your freinds want to have sex with you ? LOL

Come on guys

 

[Gamisch]

4) She used sex to get what she wanted (commitment and cohabitation) and now that she has it, she no longer feels the need to put in effort.

5# she actually WANTS op to break up with her but since August already this cat and mouse game has been going on.

6# the more eager for sex he is, the more respect she keeps losing.

 

[BPH]

Been gone for a while from this forums.

Been building different things in my life and while all the rest is working like a clock, my love life and especially my sex life has been decreasing by a high margin.

Long story short i posted in the past about this chick im with for about 17 months now and we live together.

As with all the excitements in the beginning when i first met this chick we were having 6-7 times a day sex at-least.

Since we moved together this has gradually decreased to the point of her basically not even initiating unless i bring it up or not even discussing it if we don't have sex for 1-2 weeks for example unless i bring it up.

i want to mention here that since the beginning when we met she never initiated sex i always did, which is fine with me but when i did she was into it. Some chicks are like that from my experience all though i like a woman initiating as well.

The current situation now is that when i initiate sex im trying different things in the playbooks and she is not even getting wet. Her to get wet is like my trying to climb a mountain with a spoon.

Is like she lost interest in sex completely. At one point she even told me “sex does not interest me that much”.

Now i have yes tried to spice things up, i have tried to not bring up sex at all to see her reaction or initiate to see if she ever gets into it and nothing works.

At this point even when the sex happens its robotic and boring she is not investing time to fix this or to make it better unless i do this is what im getting.

She is not investing time in our sex to get down there to do things on her own it’s like she wants to be taken by hand on everything.

This was the case from the start and i did not mind to lead but this got to the point of either i do something or nothing happens.

Im considering exiting this relationship soon if nothing changes and she does not wake up.

Looking for your thoughts and forget about comments of “she is f3ucking somebody else” we live together and i work from home so pretty much she has no space to cheat we are together 24/7.

I haven't read any posts other than the OP, but I'm sure somebody else has already said what I'm about to say.

It's not that sex doesn't interest her much, it's that sex with YOU does not interest her that much. Consider whether you've changed over the course of those 17 months; have you gained weight, have your finances suffered, since you live together are you getting a little too comfortable doing things in front of her that might bother her, etc.

If you truly believe the answer is no to all of the above, I would guess that she is either cheating or fantasizing about cheating. You can think what you want, but where there's a will there's a way.

Quick story to illustrate the hoops a woman will jump through if she really wants to hide something:

My ex, the BPD one, during our first and only Christmas together, decided that she wanted to buy me a bunch of nice clothes, but she didn't know my size and didn't want to give me any hints as to what the gifts would be. Here's what she did...she downloaded an app that somehow calculates your clothing size by scanning you with the phone's camera - which she did while I was asleep, careful not to wake me because I'm an incredibly light sleeper. She then temporarily blocked me from viewing any of her Instagram or Snapchat stories. This is because she put out a public post looking for one of her followers nearby that matches my measurements who would be available to go with her to the mall and try on a bunch of clothes she intended to buy me to see how they would fit.

I had no idea. You might not either. All I'm saying is I would never be so confident to think there's zero chance.