Current GF / Lost interest in Sex
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I wouldn’t recommend moving in with a girl until at least the 3 year mark. And even then I would take insurance with a pre nup or similar
After 3 years you should know whether she still has genuine desire for you which will manifest itself in the bedroom.
While the quality and quantity of s*x will not be at the same levels as when you first met due to hedonic adaptation, they should still be high. variety, surprise etc. in the bedroom has to come from her as well as you.
Many women will use s*x as a way to either get you to commit to them during the early stages of a relationship or to control your behaviour after you have committed to them. You need to be alert to this during the 3 year vetting period.
During the 3 years before moving in you should make sure you have extended periods of time with her (like a month long holiday) to see how living together would actually be like.
You should exit a relationship if your s*xual needs aren’t being met and you have both had open and honest conversations about it. You can’t negotiate desire; it’s either there or it isn’t.
After 3 years you should know whether she still has genuine desire for you which will manifest itself in the bedroom.
While the quality and quantity of s*x will not be at the same levels as when you first met due to hedonic adaptation, they should still be high. variety, surprise etc. in the bedroom has to come from her as well as you.
Many women will use s*x as a way to either get you to commit to them during the early stages of a relationship or to control your behaviour after you have committed to them. You need to be alert to this during the 3 year vetting period.
During the 3 years before moving in you should make sure you have extended periods of time with her (like a month long holiday) to see how living together would actually be like.
You should exit a relationship if your s*xual needs aren’t being met and you have both had open and honest conversations about it. You can’t negotiate desire; it’s either there or it isn’t.
from the writing,
#3. She actually told him she does not want sex with him.
#1 Likely will follow, if she starts going places or there can be a neighbor.... apparently he is out at the gym on a regular basis, also for other hobbies. this might have already started. if no other obvious reason for a sharp increase in #3, this is the elephant...
#2 Going to gym. But other such as clothing, hair, and posture.
BackInTheGame78
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OP, let her know this is not acceptable to you and that you cannot have a girlfriend that isn't interested in you physically and dump her.
There is no trying to talk to her about it...no coming back from this, stop wasting your time and find other women to date.
This woman is simply a massive waste of your time at this point and that will not ever change moving forward.
There is no trying to talk to her about it...no coming back from this, stop wasting your time and find other women to date.
This woman is simply a massive waste of your time at this point and that will not ever change moving forward.
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4) She used sex to get what she wanted (commitment and cohabitation) and now that she has it, she no longer feels the need to put in effort.
AureliusMaximus
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Commonality is the destroyer of sex, desire and many LTR's = The mystique is gone which feeds her hamster brain wheel.
Rule #1 with girls = Never bore them or you dead to them.
Girls needs attention as much as flowers need the sun light to shine on them as you already know..
Plus what @BackInTheGame78 just said...
Current GF / Lost interest in Sex
Been gone for a while from this forums. Been building different things in my life and while all the rest is working like a clock, my love life and especially my sex life has been decreasing by a high margin. Long story short i posted in the past about this chick im with for about 17 months now...
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