The more I do this the more I notice that when I start a conversation with one girl another girl magically appears across the room. She's looking my way and sending IOIs. I've been bailing on girl one because girl 2 is hotter. But it never works out. It's like damned if you do and damned if you don't. Going back to 1 never works, so what do you guys do?
3rd annual Anti-approach anxiety competition
- Thread starter Gray The Prince
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Alright folks, I did the approaches. My friend picked me up and he took his dog with him, to my surprise. I thought it was nice he took his dog with him for this week's task, so
I suggested we go to the park after getting some snacks for the dog in the local grocery store. Sorry for the lack of details.
#1: A guy was about to hop on his bike and I told him it was pretty neat bike. Guy thanked me but there was no conversation. [1/4]
#2: On our way to the grocery store I see an old lady with a very bright colored handbag. Complimented it and we had a quick chat about the weather and then I left. [2/4]
#3+#4: After 10 minutes I saw these 2 girls (HB6 and HB6.5) and I complimented them on their shoes. They thanked me and kept on walking. Guess they had some place to go. [2/8]
#5: We arrived at the park and I spot a bench with an old dude taking photos of random stuff. Walked past the bench with my friend and his dog and I told him he had a cool camera.
He thanked me and I told him to have a good day. [3/4]
#6: After chilling for some time in the park me and my friend left to get some food because I got hungry.. so I went into the local grocery store and while being in line, I complimented the cashiere.
Told her how good she was at what she does and she thanked me. These "hired guns" are easy, aren't they? [3/8]
#7+#8+#9: My friend needed to pee so he went and I waited for him as I was holding the dog's leash so it couldn't escape (not that it tried to) and three girls (2 HB5s and 1 HB5.5) came up to me
and asked me if they could pet her. I told them to go ahead and they did. I told them that they're really good with dogs. They didn't thank me but whatever. They did laugh, though. It's a compliment.
I know I could've gone for a close but the thing is.. I wasn't interested in any of them and this week's task didn't require me to get a phone number. I thought the compliment was good so I'll be using this one more often. [6/8]
#10: After my friend got back, we left. As we were heading back to the park I saw this kid around my age skateboarding past us. I shouted "rad skills, man" (not that he did any tricks, lol)
obviously we had no conversation, whatsoever. [4/4]
#11: As we arrived back at the park I noticed the old dude left and there weren't many people around here other than other people who were walking their dogs.
So I sit on the bench with my friend and this HB6 comes up to us and she asks my friend if she can pet it. My friend says she "most certainly can". As she's petting it, I tell her she's good with dogs.
Apparently she took it the wrong way because she gave me a confusing look, and shortly thereafter left. She had a strong accent, by the way. Hahaha, it was funny. [7/8]
#12: After 30 minutes or so, I got tired and told my friend we should go home, he agreed and we went. On our way home I realized I had one approach left, thus leaving me in a hurried stage.
I saw this really cute HB7.5 waiting for the bus, so I approached her with a weird feeling in my stomach (I think it had something to do with the fact she was really cute). I told her that I really liked her shoes
and she thanked me and turned around, as if she wasn't in the mood to talk to anyone. So I quickly left and I sorta felt creepy-ish. It's like I gave off a creepy guy vibe. [8/8]
Phew, I've never talked to this many strangers in one day. It feels strange when I'm under some sort of pressure, if you know what I mean? I had one day left.. no wait, actually a few minutes
and that got me panicked, to be honest.
Luckily I have one week for myself so I can do next week's task any time I want to, even tomorrow if I'm lucky. I secretly hope next week's task is more challenging, haha.
I should stop planning this thing out, by the way. Like Mr. Bond pointed out.
I suggested we go to the park after getting some snacks for the dog in the local grocery store. Sorry for the lack of details.
#1: A guy was about to hop on his bike and I told him it was pretty neat bike. Guy thanked me but there was no conversation. [1/4]
#2: On our way to the grocery store I see an old lady with a very bright colored handbag. Complimented it and we had a quick chat about the weather and then I left. [2/4]
#3+#4: After 10 minutes I saw these 2 girls (HB6 and HB6.5) and I complimented them on their shoes. They thanked me and kept on walking. Guess they had some place to go. [2/8]
#5: We arrived at the park and I spot a bench with an old dude taking photos of random stuff. Walked past the bench with my friend and his dog and I told him he had a cool camera.
He thanked me and I told him to have a good day. [3/4]
#6: After chilling for some time in the park me and my friend left to get some food because I got hungry.. so I went into the local grocery store and while being in line, I complimented the cashiere.
Told her how good she was at what she does and she thanked me. These "hired guns" are easy, aren't they? [3/8]
#7+#8+#9: My friend needed to pee so he went and I waited for him as I was holding the dog's leash so it couldn't escape (not that it tried to) and three girls (2 HB5s and 1 HB5.5) came up to me
and asked me if they could pet her. I told them to go ahead and they did. I told them that they're really good with dogs. They didn't thank me but whatever. They did laugh, though. It's a compliment.
I know I could've gone for a close but the thing is.. I wasn't interested in any of them and this week's task didn't require me to get a phone number. I thought the compliment was good so I'll be using this one more often. [6/8]
#10: After my friend got back, we left. As we were heading back to the park I saw this kid around my age skateboarding past us. I shouted "rad skills, man" (not that he did any tricks, lol)
obviously we had no conversation, whatsoever. [4/4]
#11: As we arrived back at the park I noticed the old dude left and there weren't many people around here other than other people who were walking their dogs.
So I sit on the bench with my friend and this HB6 comes up to us and she asks my friend if she can pet it. My friend says she "most certainly can". As she's petting it, I tell her she's good with dogs.
Apparently she took it the wrong way because she gave me a confusing look, and shortly thereafter left. She had a strong accent, by the way. Hahaha, it was funny. [7/8]
#12: After 30 minutes or so, I got tired and told my friend we should go home, he agreed and we went. On our way home I realized I had one approach left, thus leaving me in a hurried stage.
I saw this really cute HB7.5 waiting for the bus, so I approached her with a weird feeling in my stomach (I think it had something to do with the fact she was really cute). I told her that I really liked her shoes
and she thanked me and turned around, as if she wasn't in the mood to talk to anyone. So I quickly left and I sorta felt creepy-ish. It's like I gave off a creepy guy vibe. [8/8]
Phew, I've never talked to this many strangers in one day. It feels strange when I'm under some sort of pressure, if you know what I mean? I had one day left.. no wait, actually a few minutes
and that got me panicked, to be honest.
Luckily I have one week for myself so I can do next week's task any time I want to, even tomorrow if I'm lucky. I secretly hope next week's task is more challenging, haha.
I should stop planning this thing out, by the way. Like Mr. Bond pointed out.
Masculinity
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Resist the temptation and simply stick to girl 1. If you're in a school context, it is possible (although not highly likely) that you will see the other girl again. Girls come and go and the one you want to hang on to is very, very rare. In the mean time, date as many as you can to find her. Dating is, after all, a trial and error game.coachD said:
Keep being money,
-R
12. HB8 at BN wearing a Texas A&M sleveless shirt. I smile and tell her I like it she smiles and says thanks. Regardless of how the rest of this goes, I turned a corner this week. Greenes 48 Laws chapter on boldness, a DJ bible post on the same and this contest has made me realize that not approaching should be the embarassing part .
Gray The Prince
Master Don Juan
I see quite a few of you are done. Great job. To those of whom who have not completed the challenge, you have 4 hours and 17 minutes. Keep in mind, that if you do not complete this challenge, you will receive one strike.
The next challenge will be posted after I and/or Robyn look through everybody's entires.
The next challenge will be posted after I and/or Robyn look through everybody's entires.
JohnChops
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Bleh ill take the first strike I suppose. Been sick and buried in lab work since last Tuesday -___-.
saw that post and ran out to go finish.
8. I like your purse hb5
9. girl had a swiss hat on said I like you hat. had a little bit of banter, hb5+
10. nice purse
11. I like your shoes HB5+ got a tha-----
12. Told a guy i thought his beanie was cool.
Compliments suck, cause i felt the need to actually like it alittle before i could give it. Plus I rarely give compliments anyway, it felt unlike me. The little talk I had did pump me up enough and knock the next three out real fast
8. I like your purse hb5
9. girl had a swiss hat on said I like you hat. had a little bit of banter, hb5+
10. nice purse
11. I like your shoes HB5+ got a tha-----
12. Told a guy i thought his beanie was cool.
Compliments suck, cause i felt the need to actually like it alittle before i could give it. Plus I rarely give compliments anyway, it felt unlike me. The little talk I had did pump me up enough and knock the next three out real fast
Uncharted
Master Don Juan
Easily closed out my final 5 today in Manhattan.
8. Complimented a woman's hair on the train. She was HB5/6 nothing really good but whatever. He hair was interesting so I told her I liked it.
9. Complimented HB7 in my class for her bag.
10. Complimented another HB7 in another class for her boots.
11. Went to a bar for a drink, complimented waitresses bracelet. She opened though, not sure if that counts.
12. Complimented a woman's HB6 earrings on the train home. She said thanks and looked back down.
8. Complimented a woman's hair on the train. She was HB5/6 nothing really good but whatever. He hair was interesting so I told her I liked it.
9. Complimented HB7 in my class for her bag.
10. Complimented another HB7 in another class for her boots.
11. Went to a bar for a drink, complimented waitresses bracelet. She opened though, not sure if that counts.
12. Complimented a woman's HB6 earrings on the train home. She said thanks and looked back down.
Packers2010
Master Don Juan
guys, can you make your challenge posts one post. not 12 please. t's hard to read this thread if you post 12
thanks
thanks
Masculinity
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I agree. It's difficult to follow the number of approaches you've completed--and who has completed them--when they are scrambled together. I know some of you list these approaches shortly after completing them--when they're fresh in your mind and that's completely reasonable. What I suggest is writing your approaches in a word-processor (like Microsoft Word) and just paste its content once you reach the threshold of approaches for that week.Packers2010 said:
-R
Ok I'll do that next time.
Sorry this response is a little late, I got the last 3 done last night at a pub quiz and completely forgot to write it up when I got in, went to bed instead.
Anyways.
#10 - Barmaid, said she had a nice shirt on. HAd a chat about how busy the pub had been all day, cup final had been on.
#11 & #12 - 2 set HB6 & 7. Told them congrats that they did well in the pub quiz, and then said to them both that they were wearing very nice dresses.
All done.
12/12 approaches - 9/8 HB's
Gunner
Sorry this response is a little late, I got the last 3 done last night at a pub quiz and completely forgot to write it up when I got in, went to bed instead.
Anyways.
#10 - Barmaid, said she had a nice shirt on. HAd a chat about how busy the pub had been all day, cup final had been on.
#11 & #12 - 2 set HB6 & 7. Told them congrats that they did well in the pub quiz, and then said to them both that they were wearing very nice dresses.
All done.
12/12 approaches - 9/8 HB's
Gunner
Gray The Prince
Master Don Juan
I enjoyed reading through the posts. Here are the current standings..
zero strikes
Uncharted
Thechosenone2190
Wolfbones
gunner26
Plutoman
Nite
coachD
These guys are the only ones who fully completed the challenge and therefore have no strikes against them. They went above and beyond and in turn, have gained at least a little more confidence and made a dent on their AA.
One strike
Neon Owl
packers2010
parad0x
Sageproduct
Dali tx o
nroug07
JohnChops
Nobodycares1
AAAgent
Purefilth
Frusciante1234
European-DJ
Twistedi
Algren
TheMusic
R.C
The guys above have one strike and are divided into two catagories. One catagory are those who have partially completed the challenge and the other group are those who simply did not show up. Unfortunately, you guys are facing elimination this week, so step your game up! That being said, it does not mean you can't win.
I remember a couple of years ago, there was a guy who was facing elimination after the first challenge. That guy stepped his game up and eventually went on to the semifinals, barely missing the final round. So please do not get discouraged because you have one strike.
That being said, here is this week's challenege.
Approach 5 hb6+s and hold a convo for approximately 3 minutes. Getting a phone # is highly encouraged but NOT required. You have until Sunday at 11:59 CST to get this done. Good luck men.
zero strikes
Uncharted
Thechosenone2190
Wolfbones
gunner26
Plutoman
Nite
coachD
These guys are the only ones who fully completed the challenge and therefore have no strikes against them. They went above and beyond and in turn, have gained at least a little more confidence and made a dent on their AA.
One strike
Neon Owl
packers2010
parad0x
Sageproduct
Dali tx o
nroug07
JohnChops
Nobodycares1
AAAgent
Purefilth
Frusciante1234
European-DJ
Twistedi
Algren
TheMusic
R.C
The guys above have one strike and are divided into two catagories. One catagory are those who have partially completed the challenge and the other group are those who simply did not show up. Unfortunately, you guys are facing elimination this week, so step your game up! That being said, it does not mean you can't win.
I remember a couple of years ago, there was a guy who was facing elimination after the first challenge. That guy stepped his game up and eventually went on to the semifinals, barely missing the final round. So please do not get discouraged because you have one strike.
That being said, here is this week's challenege.
Approach 5 hb6+s and hold a convo for approximately 3 minutes. Getting a phone # is highly encouraged but NOT required. You have until Sunday at 11:59 CST to get this done. Good luck men.
