3rd annual Anti-approach anxiety competition

[Uncharted]

7. HB5/6 (I only complimented her because of this thread). Saw her walking into my office complex. She had a pink stripe shirt on and I complimented it.

5 remaining.

As an update to my #5 girl (HB8), we are meeting for drinks this weekend. I might start a separate thread for approaches/followups.

 

[TheMusic]

11 remaining...

It still feels so weird to say "Hey, stop for a sec, I really like your shoes."
I've been talking to strangers a little more but still didn't compliment them.
2 days to go, no plans for the weekend. I guess I'll have to go out or something like that...

 

[Uncharted]

I don't think the rule is that the first thing you need to say is the compliment. I think you just need to compliment them. Otherwise I'm doing it "wrong".

Since it's the weekend, just call up a buddy or two and tell them you're going out.

 

[Fly By Night]

Don't worry about it guys, as far as I understand, you could walk up to someone and say "Nice ____" and it will count. Remember, this is to get rid of approach anxiety, we're not asking for you to number close or hold a 5 minute conversation. Just be able to walk up and talk to them.

 

[Plutoman]

The struggle of the day - finding 5's and up...

 

[coachD]

The struggle of the day - finding 5's and up...

You must live in my neck of the woods. Making it a point to go to the bar and cold approach several girls. I'm going to go to a bar where nobody knows me in case I crash and burn.

 

[Neon Owl]

So far I'm 0/12 I need to pull my finger out. Off to the gym tomorrow so will try and get as many as i can on my way there and back.

 

[nroug7]

You must live in my neck of the woods. Making it a point to go to the bar and cold approach several girls. I'm going to go to a bar where nobody knows me in case I crash and burn.

Oh. Nice for you. I live in a small town and word travels around quickly. I would like to make a request, for the comp if possible, due to my towns size I would only like to do eight. (I want to keep some of my decent reputation )

Anyways, here's 3 of them for you.

HB6 at shopping mall, drops some stuff
Me: would you like some help picking that up?
Her: no thanks.
Me: oh, okay, how has your day being?
(Fluff exchange.)

HB7,cashier (they are extremely easy to open thanks retail employers for focusing on customer service xD)
Me: hey, how's it going.
Her: good, yourself.
Me: yeah, I've been good, say, it's a rather hot day isn't it?
She starts rambling on about the heat and work, I completely Zone out.

HB6, I'm at my workplace so I could open this one easy.
Me: good morning, can I help you?
Her: yeah, I've got an appointment with (person)
Me: oh, alright, I'll let her know you are here.
I then proceed to enter a conversation with her, she tells me about how she recently took a holiday and just returned, then I found out she had a BF >.>

 

[sageproduct]

Went out and sarged after class today

Definitely did much more than 12 approaches, got 2 numbers

 

[Neon Owl]

Oh. Nice for you. I live in a small town and word travels around quickly. I would like to make a request, for the comp if possible, due to my towns size I would only like to do eight. (I want to keep some of my decent reputation )

Anyways, here's 3 of them for you.

HB6 at shopping mall, drops some stuff
Me: would you like some help picking that up?
Her: no thanks.
Me: oh, okay, how has your day being?
(Fluff exchange.)

HB7,cashier (they are extremely easy to open thanks retail employers for focusing on customer service xD)
Me: hey, how's it going.
Her: good, yourself.
Me: yeah, I've been good, say, it's a rather hot day isn't it?
She starts rambling on about the heat and work, I completely Zone out.

HB6, I'm at my workplace so I could open this one easy.
Me: good morning, can I help you?
Her: yeah, I've got an appointment with (person)
Me: oh, alright, I'll let her know you are here.
I then proceed to enter a conversation with her, she tells me about how she recently took a holiday and just returned, then I found out she had a BF >.>

You know you're supposed to compliment them too right?

 

[nroug7]

You know you're supposed to compliment them too right?

I did, but I consider that part of the fluff.
This isn't called the talking anxiety competition it's the approach anxiety competition xD

 

[nroug7]

Hahah I count myself lucky today we had a weather of 0 celcius (32 F), bastard!

Good approaches mate

Yeah, we'll I'd kill for weather like that, just warm up with jackets and blankets. No escaping heat from 35 to 40 degrees Celsius.

 

[coachD]

My favorite bar...I see a girl with Guess? Jeans and talk to her.

Me. Are those Guess?
Her. Yeah, they are the style.
Me. I didn't know. Back in the 80s they were the ****.
Her. . High five
Me. Drunk fist bump.

Hb 7


3 down

 

[Purefilth]

Went out and sarged after class today

Definitely did much more than 12 approaches, got 2 numbers

F- THAT! - 12 compliments bro, that's the challenge. If you wanna brag how much you didn't get laid then start a journal.

 

[coachD]

Sausage ****ing fest

 

[Masculinity]

Went out and sarged after class today

Definitely did much more than 12 approaches, got 2 numbers

Oh. Nice for you. I live in a small town and word travels around quickly. I would like to make a request, for the comp if possible, due to my towns size I would only like to do eight. (I want to keep some of my decent reputation )

Anyways, here's 3 of them for you.

HB6 at shopping mall, drops some stuff
Me: would you like some help picking that up?
Her: no thanks.
Me: oh, okay, how has your day being?
(Fluff exchange.)

HB7,cashier (they are extremely easy to open thanks retail employers for focusing on customer service xD)
Me: hey, how's it going.
Her: good, yourself.
Me: yeah, I've been good, say, it's a rather hot day isn't it?
She starts rambling on about the heat and work, I completely Zone out.

HB6, I'm at my workplace so I could open this one easy.
Me: good morning, can I help you?
Her: yeah, I've got an appointment with (person)
Me: oh, alright, I'll let her know you are here.
I then proceed to enter a conversation with her, she tells me about how she recently took a holiday and just returned, then I found out she had a BF >.>

You guys aren't following the compliment challenge. We aren't at the phone numbers week yet.

@Sarge: One thing a lot veteran DJs would agree on is that number don't mean anything. Every try calling a chick and get no response?

 

[coachD]

HAha...went back and cold approached the guess girl. Very uncomfortable.

 

[thechosenone2190]

these are the same approaches as approaches 94-106 in my journal here

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=185927&page=6

i just copied and pasted.

summary:
13 approaches, 2 numbers (1 of which shouldn't count b/c it was only hb5)

Approach 1
HB7 is shopping for earrings in clothing store. She is about 5-10 years older than me, but still smoking
Me: Excuse me i really like your gloves
HB7: oh my gloves? thank you
Me: they're all glittery and stuff. where did you get them?
HB7: Where did i get them? i think i got them at J-crew
Me: I might need to get me a pair. what's your name?
HB7: --
Me: Nice to meet you i'm -- *hb7 goes back to looking at earrings* Where are you from?
HB7: --
Me: oh cool. so you just got out of work and decided to do some shopping?
Hb7: yea i just got out of work
Me: are you buying earrings for your mother or something?
Hb7: no i'm just buying them for myself
Me: Cool. these look nice *point at hoop earrings*
hb7: no i already have some like those
me: ok. what's your phone number?
hb7: i'm actually doing shopping for me fiancee
me: oh my bad
hb7: so it's not the right time
me: nice meeting you!
hb7: you too

Approach 2
I spot hb7 going inside grocery store, and i follow behind. as she crosses my path
me: excuse me, i really like your purse
hb7: oh thank you
me: what's your name?
HB7: --
me: nice to meet you. i'm --. where are you from?
hb7: mexico
me: oh really?
hb7: yea
me: what part?
hb7: around central mexico
Me: and you work here now?
hb7: yea
me: when did you move here?
hb7: about 1 and half years ago
me: wow your english is amazingly good
hb7: oh thank you
me: you went to some international school?
hb7: no i went to -- for college
me: really? i went to -- too!
hb7: no way. are you serious
me: yes!
hb7: what school?
me: college
hb7: me too! what year were you?
me: 2011
hb7: Me too!
me: so i'm guessing you're some kind of [profession]?
hb7: no actually i'm not.
me: that is very unusual
hb7: i know! all my friends are, my classmates are, my boyfriend is
me: haha what do you do?
hb7: [profession]. have you been in the city this whole time?
me: yea i've been working here for the past 2 years. do you go to the -- alumni events?
hb7: no i don't have time for that
me: yea me neither. what's your phone number?
hb7: *confused look* oh you want to hang out?
me: yea
hb7: ok it's --
me: here you put it in
hb7: *enters digits* here you go
me: how do you pronounce your name again?
hb7: --
thanks! nice talking to you
hb7: you too!

my phone reads "do you want to save contact?" and i hit "no" by accident, thereby losing her number. F*** MEE!!!! i actually start chasing her again to ask her to input it again, but then i stop myself short, remembering that she has a boyfriend already so it's probably not worth it anyways. i'm still so pissed at myself for pushing the wrong button on my phone.

Approach 3
I get off train and HB6 walks over to other side of platform waiting for train
Me: hi. i really like your outfit. it's all grey and it just really caught my attention
hb6: oh thank you!
me: what's your name?
*hb6 turns around and walks 5 ft away from me*

Approach 4
HB7 walks out of DSW shoe store and passes by me
me: excuse me
*hb7 stops and turns around*
me: i really like your sneakers
hb7: oh thank you
me: did you get them from the store?
hb7: no i got them from france
me: oh you're from france?
hb7: yes
me: how long are you staying here?
hb7: i stayed for 2 weeks to visit my sister, but i'm leaving this saturday
me: i'm sorry what? *she had a very strong french accent*
hb7: this saturday i'm leaving
me: oh you're leaving this saturday
Hb7: yes.
me: got you. do you plan on coming back here?
hb7: what?
me: do you plan on coming back here later on?
hb7: sorry i don't understand
me: here. do you ever want to come back to america later on?
hb7: maybe!
me: cool. what's your phone number?
hb7: *shrug* i don't know what my number is here
me: ok nice meeting you
hb7: you too

Approach 5
HB7 in supermarket is shopping for frozen foods
Me: Excuse me i really like your jacket
HB7: oh thank you
Me: What's your name?
HB7: *pause* --
Me: Nice to meet you i'm --. Did you just get out of work?
HB7: No i don't work
Me: ok. you go to school here then right?
HB7: nope *hb7 turns away from me and continues shopping, acting as if i no longer exist*
Me: you really look like you just got out of work *she was wearing business formal*
*hb7 chuckles a bit and pushes her shopping cart further away from me to continue her shopping*
Me: What's your phone number?
*hb7 chuckles a bit more with her back turned to me*

Approach 6
HB6.5 is waiting outside of Barnes and Noble. i walk up in front of her and wait for her to take off ear phones
Me: Hi i really like your boots.
Hb6.5: oh thank you
Me: What's your name?
HB6.5: --
Me: Do you work around here?
Hb6.5: nope
Me: you study here at -- university right?
HB6.5: close. i go to a different school
Me: -- right?
HB6.5: yep the -- school
Me: Oh that's a really good school
HB6.5: yea i go to -- campus
Me: That's around -- street right?
HB6.5: no -- street. a bit further north. are you from around here?
Me: well i work downtown. i grew up in central [state]
HB6.5: [state]? ok
Me: Where are you from?
HB6.5: russia
Me: oh cool. why'd you move here?
HB6.5: because my parents are here haha
Me: oh ok
HB6.5: i moved here when i was 3
Me: got you. so you grew up here your whole life
HB6.5: i move between russia and america a lot
Me: *nod head* so do you plan on staying here?
HB6.5: yea
Me: you don't like russia?
HB6.5: it's not as modern as it is here
Me: got it. i'm sorry to hear about what happened in russia. *hb6.5 looks confused* i heard about the meteorites that came crashing down on russia and caused a lot of damage
HB6.5: haha oh yea
Me: i also heard that those meteor rocks are selling for a lot of money
HB6.5: haha yea unfortunately i don't have any
Me: I got some rocks from the meteor at my house i'm willing to sell to you. i'll cut you a deal and sell them to you for $3000 each, a big discount from what they sell in russia
HB6.5: haha i'm sure you do
Me: what's your phone number?
HB6.5: i'm actually waiting out here for my boyfriend
Me: oh my bad! nice meeting you
HB6.5: you too!

Approach 7
HB7 is crossing my path from my right to left headed towards an intersection. it is dark outside
Me: Excuse me
HB7: oh yes?
Me: i really like your purse
HB7: my purse? oh thank you
Me: is it gucci? or louis voutton?
HB7: no it's [brand i forgot]
*signal turns green and hb7 proceeds to cross the road*
Me: What's your name?
*hb7 is gone*

 

[thechosenone2190]

Approach 8
HB6.5 is browsing for clothes with some friends. I didn't see this one coming, but her friends looked like they were still in high school or something. I didn't notice until after i opened her. No pedo. please don't judge me. it was an accident. she is probably at least 18.
Me: excuse. i really like your purse
HB6.5: ? oh... thanks
Me: What's your name?
HB6.5: ...--
Me: Where you from?
HB6.5: --
Me: oh cool. i was born in --!
Hb6.5: ...
Hb6.5's friend A: *taps me on left should* hi!
me: hi *turn back towards Hb6.5*
Me: I really like [genre] music from -- like [artist] and [artist]
Hb6.5: oh i don't know them...
Me: What's your phone number?
HB6.5: eh *looks left and right*
HB6.5's friend b: she doesn't want to give out her number
Me: Is that true? It's ok if it is
HB6.5: um... yea
Me: ok no worries! *eject*

Approach 9
it's dark outside, but, for the sake of winning this competition, i approach a hb7 walking towards me from the opposite direction
Me: excuse me
HB7: yes?
Me: i really like your purse
HB7: oh thanks *continues on walking*

moving targets are the most difficult hands down

Approach 10
I walk into a university bookstore that looks for the most part empty. I spot a hb6.5 to my left when i first entered, but i couldn't make out her face, since she was facing away from me. After scouting the whole bookstore for hbs to no avail, i walk towards the exit. Before i reach the exit, I see the same hb from before, and i retract my steps and start walking towards her to get a better view of her face. At this point, there's no going back, i have to go in for the approach. She spots me standing beside her from her peripheral vision
Me: Hi. i really like your purse
HB6.5: oh my purse? thank you
Me: is it gucci? louis voutton?
Hb6.5: no it's long champ
Me: cool i need to get me one of those
HB6.5: you want to get one? haha
Me: What's your name?
Hb6.5: ...--
Me: Nice to meet you. i'm --
Hb6.5: you're what?
Me: Nice to meet you. My name is --
HB6.5: oh --. sorry i didn't hear you at first
Me: no worries. so are you a student at --?
HB6.5: no, i'm actually not. i'm here with a friend. she goes to -- here though. are you a student at --?
Me: no, but i did get accepted at --. *grin* what do you do? do you work?
HB6.5: yea in --
Me: oh cool
HB6.5: what about you? what are you doing here?
Me: I just got out of work. i work downtown and i'm just here to buy some underwear
Hb6.5: i don't think the university bookstore is the right place to buy underwear
Me: oh yea woops *headsmack*
HB6.5: haha
Me: great way to spend your friday night! here at the bookstore
HB6.5: oh yea haha *calls her friend on the phone while i'm still standing there*
Me: your calling your friend here?
HB6.5: yea *she talks on the phone with her friend, while i'm waiting for her to finish. after she gets off phone...*
Me: What's your phone number?
Hb6.5: *hesitates* uh
Me: here just put it in *hand her phone*
HB6.5: oh ok fine
Me: so is your friend coming to pick you up?
HB6.5: no i just can't find her. *friend arrives to my right*
HB6.5: there you are!
HB6.5's friend: who is this?

at same time...
HB6.5: just some guy i met
Me: we go way back. we went to middle school together

hb6.5's friend: I thought you said you wouldn't see any more men. well i'll see you later *leaves me and hb6.5 alone*
me: so how do you know her?
hb6.5: blah blah *she was slowly maneuvering towards exit*
Me: alright it was nice talking to you
hb6.5: you too!

Approach 11
hb5.5 is looking at sunglasses. i thought she was a 7 until i tapped her on the shoulder
Me: excuse me
HB5.5: yes
Me: i really like your boots
Hb5.5: oh thanks
me: what's your name?
HB5.5: --
me: nice to meet you. i'm --. so do you work around here?
HB5.5: no
Me: do you go to school here?
Hb5.5: no
Me: so what do you do?
HB5.5: i'm going shopping!
Me: oh yea haha. *got a little intimidated by that comeback* what's your name?
HB5.5: huh? --
Me: oh yea that's right i asked you already. sorry i'm a little nervous *my ego died here*
HB5.5: i can tell. you're buying glasses right?
Me: yea i was buying glasses and i noticed your boots and i was like wow those are some nice boots. where'd you get them? i need to get me a pair
HB5.5: i don't remember. these boots are actually really old and worn out
Me: no they're not... what's your phone number?
HB5.5: i actually have a boyfriend already
Me: oh ok nice meeting you!
HB5.5: you too!

Approach 12
at a food court, I tab hb on shoulder. i thought she might be a hb6 or hb7, but she turned out to be a hb5 when she turned towards me. she looked a bit older than me too
me: hi i really like your purse
hb5: oh thank you
Me: what's your name?
hb5: --
*insert boring chit chat here. i just asked her what she does, where she's from, and where she lives. she's a fashion designer for young boys clothing*
Me: What's your phone number?
Hb5: *surprised* ... ok it's --
Me: got it nice meet you!

Approach 13
at bakery, i tab hb6.5 on shoulder
me: excuse me i really like your shoes
hb6.5: oh thank you
me: didn't justin timberlake wear those shoes at the grammy's or oscars?
hb6.5: who?
me: justin timberlake? *they looked exactly the same as the black and white shoes justin timberlake wore at the 2013 grammy award show in his tux. i still think they're the same shoes*
hb6.5: justin timberlake? oh no!
me: what's your name?
hb6.5: --
me: nice to meet you. my name's --. so what do you do? do you work?
hb6.5: no i go to school
me: what do you study?
hb6.5: fashion design *same field as hb from previous approach. i was not in some fashion district in case you're wondering*
me: cool! do you study like men's fashion?
hb6.5: yea
me: cool... *hb walks to another area with back turned to me*
me: what's your phone number?
hb6.5: sorry no!

after i buy a brownie and walk out of bakery, i notice the same hb6.5 standing with 2 other guys outside. i didn't know she was with them. i could probably take them both on anyways if i had to

 

[coachD]

Ihave no idea what's happning. I have one girl who I'm worki ng and another that's even cuter. I'm drunk. Complemented a red head. Now talking to her and her friend.