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The key to success with women is to recognize that it’s a numbers game. Try, try and try some more. Learn from your mistakes and learn to accept rejection and keep going. “Never, never, never give up! Winston Churchill

I read it a few years ago. I did not think it was that great but I did learn some things of use. I took what he said about ending relationships when they are not working to heart and have ended three since then. The women seemed very shocked when I did. I don’t think they are used to being the...

When a women only shows her face in the profile it is because she is overweight. A women with a nice body will post a photo of it. I would be suspicious of someone calling you luv like that, sounds odd to me. Send her another message and see if you can engage her in a simple conversation. If...

That’s a great video.

I was using OLD at the beginning of this year (match.com). I would send a message to the ladies I was interested in. Put some effort into it, make it clear that you have read her profile. Ask her a question which makes it easier for her to reply. Don’t make you messages too long, 4 or 5...

No, you are not going crazy and there is nothing wrong with deciding you don’t want to date. Your opinion might change at some point and if it does understand that you can get back into the dating market quite easily. I did not date for about 25 years of my life and I was very happy. I was...

Rollo addresses the OLD phenomenon in The Rational Male. He talks about it from the perspective that it is a buffer that allows men to minimize the fear of rejection and the fear of regret at the same time. That chapter is worth re-reading in the context of this thread.

Your first point makes no sense to me. You seem to imply that the 1 in 3 who met online just settled for anyone and they are really unhappy with their partner. That just does not make sense to me. You might be on to something though, I wonder if the divorce rate is higher or lower for people...

How do you square all this negativity about OLD with the fact that about 1 in 3 couples these days meet online. Didn’t @MatureDJ have a recent post that talked about that.

Fun to play with but I just don’t think it is real. If I put myself in, it says that only 0.041% of men are like me. That’s hard to believe but it sure would be interesting to know the actual number.

I assume you did not agree to this ahead of time. If her girlfriend just showed up I would cut the date short and get out of there. I would not contact her after the date. It’s never happened to me but I have heard that this happens where they bring girlfriends with them expecting you to pay for...

Men do not have any advantage on campus. Are we to believe that the women are only dating the guys on campus? With all the dating apps (Tinder etc) women are still spoilt for choice.

Never use money to attract women. You will attract the wrong kind of women.

Your dating plans seem elaborate and what could be called simping behavior. Have you considered less elaborate dates? Walk, coffee, ice cream. Things like that, things that are much cheaper. The problem with inviting women to do elaborate (expensive) things is that you never know if they are...

Sorry she cancelled, but this is another example of anything other than an enthusiastic yes is actually a no. You have the right attitude though, just move on.

It is hard to have sympathy, these people are obese at their own choosing. The thing about becoming obese is that it does not happen overnight, it takes many years to become truly obese. No one is born obese and most of these people have no memory what it was like when they were thin. When you...

I have the same issue with my gf. We’ve been together for about 4 months, she’s a great lady and I love most things about her, except for her weight. I’ve told her directly I do not like it and she got very upset with me so I decided not to do that again. She has a genuine desire to be with me...

The tiny few that are interested in you will make an effort. The other 99.9999% of them will make no effort or they will play games with you. The smoke blowing is just part of the OL game.

I just read OP again and see that I did not really answer his question. Women on OLD are inundated with guys so they will reject you for any tiny thing. It does not matter just move on and try another women. It’s a volume thing. Also when you message them you need to say something...

About once a week, with the same lady. I’ve never had any luck with ONSs. The only way I get action is by meeting a lady and putting some effort into it. It’s been worth the effort with my current lady.