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This girl I’ve had my eye on and have flirted online with (lives in another city) hit me up right before the weekend saying she’d be in town and asked if I was around to hang out. I had another date lined up for Sat. night but told her I could hang during the day. I figured she was just passing...

The rule seems to check out. I’m 38, so 26 is about perfect I’d say - although I’ve only fwb, never relationships that were on the minimum age spectrum of the rule. My LTRs have happened to always been 4-5 years younger than me. The early-mid 20s girls were because I was in social or work...

No joke. They’ll spend the weekend with you and act like the sweetest girl when they come to your Mom’s birthday, then 2 days later make up a story on how she going to the city with her “friend” and get a hotel for the night with the guy she’s cheating on you with. Then say it’s cuz you didn’t...

Standard operating procedure. Dude, borderline and narcissistic? It’s not worth it. She won’t stop with the male friends, maybe just hide it better moving forward and “treat her better” means you will never be enough for her - it’s a bottomless pit. She’ll keep moving the goal posts so she has...

I don’t know how much you knew about her life when you weren’t together, but if she’s that serious about another dude that she’ll straight up ghost you with no weird behavior leading up to it, it’s hard to say. Start looking for another one to gobble your balls. Maybe she’s just having an...

Damn bro. Sounds sudden. What do you think it is? Another dude? Anything different in her behavior the last time you hung out?

This is where the answers are. I just need to dig deeper. I’m close but have more work to do.

It ain’t like that. I won’t be pining over her wishing I was the other guy remembering the good times at all - in fact I would feel bad for the other guy. I’m realizing it’s a pure ego thing - she’s hot AF. Throw on a bit of withdrawal from the highs and lows, and there you have hit.

Absolutely not. She’s the type of girl that will have me replaced in a heartbeat once she decides to. I just need to prepare for the bit of ego bruising when that happens and know it’s for the better.

This applies to me at the moment except it’s just my ego keeping me attached to a dysfunctional woman. 6 months ago I was a different person: trying to get her to change and losing my self. I finally told her I’m done and I’m gonna see other women. I’m doing just that. It flipped the script and...

3 years. The last year I was checked out focusing on my career and travel. There was nothing wrong, I was just being selfish. She didn’t pull any shenanigans and actually hung in there. I let it fade because I was distracted. I actually shoulda put more effort in because she was a good one...

@Chowdah Solid advice and viewpoint brotha. Crossroads for sure. She’s just trying to up her rank and there’s nothing wrong with that. Good on ‘er. As long as she’s earning it, I’m happy to oblige and get to know her more.

Well, this is what it came down to. She wants to be the “first” option. Earlier this week she reached out first and proposed a date for “Friday, or sometime this weekend”. I told her I didn’t know my plan yet and she said to let her know when I did. She said she knows I’m dating other girls...

@Giovanni SouthSide Exactly, I don’t wanna jump the minute she asks to see my hand. I wanna keep it simmering. But I guess this is just the typical risk of losing a plate at some point when they don’t like the situation

She’s not the hottest, but the easiest to get along with

I’m not trying to play games, but we all know you can’t stop playing the game. I have a feeling she’s been trying to play it cool (hence not initiating a lot because that’s the tone I set), but she can’t take it any longer. How honest do I be with her? I have to admit, it’s hard spinning plates...

Fellas, Been seeing (and ****ing) this girl for about 4 weeks now. Keeping it to once a week roughly (a few twice a week). She was going on other dates when we met and knows I’m dating others as well. Last week she told me she doesn’t want me ****ing other girls, that she dropped her others. I...

I am experiencing this exact thing right now. Told GF we’re done because of the shadiness described in my other thread. She’s pleading that she’s sorry and “knows she f*cked up”and won’t do it again because “she wants to change and be a better person”. Problem is, I had to explain to her in...

Wanted to update as this became/stayed an issue and she started to lie to me. I found out he didn’t stop. Has continued with the inappropriate messages/attention to my GF but this time she kept it a secret from me. She told me multiple times since this happened that he doesn’t contact her and...

texted her a couple days later with a little banter. She said she was recovering from the flu - before I even asked her out again. But I still said rest up I wanna take you out next week. She sent some dumb meme back. Classic… leaving this one unless she shows interest after “she gets better”