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That’s a good way to kill the relationship. I recently tried visiting a girl I met while she was on vacation in my town. We f***ed the whole time right when we met and then when I went and stayed with her for a week (logistics of my trip it worked out that way). I lasted 2 days before she got on...

Yeah, by her

If she got her dog right after her last breakup, it’s not a child, it’s filling an emotional void. Then, they become so dependent on the dog that by the time they meet the next dude (you) everything else is beneath the pet. I was staying with a chick for the weekend a few weeks ago and I left...

@Barrister is right though, one shouldn’t look backwards with regret, or backwards much at all. Yet, it’s good to have a little self awareness and reflection. There absolutely was something to why I was looking elsewhere. I was unhappy in a “boring” relationship and wanted to spend another 5...

Yes. I left a 3 yr LTR because I was blinded by new shiny objects and started a 3 year run that turned out to be all damaged women. Cheated on her and left to chase hotter, but toxic, situations and years later find myself wondering what it’d be like if I didn’t. She eventually found a new man...

It’s best to always be the “other guy” with damaged women. Never try to LTR one. I’ve done both. You never want to be the BF unless you’re just as ****ed up as her.

This is kind of what I’ve figured out. No so much in treating them like gatekeepers or putting them on a pedestal, but they crave the strongest male frame you can think of - unrealistic for most men - and want you to treat them like a princess, daughter, sex slave, etc all at once. The more...

This. And the playful conversation on the way back to the train was her feeling relief after she didn’t know how she was going to (nicely) end it with you.

I said it before when there was a daddy issues thread a couple months ago lol…the 2 most extreme cases of cluster b run-ins I had were girls whose mothers did the abandoning in childhood. And both of their fathers were Peter-pan like narcissists - but still in their life.

She failed then, not you. She’s gonna have to step it up if she wants any of your time again. Your mindset should be that you’re screening her and you’re more than happy as a man to give women a chance on a first date, but if they don’t make it fun for you, they’re not getting a second one.

She gave you a positive response by her complying to an evening meetup. Albeit she said the word dinner, she didn’t say you had to buy. Either way, pick a cheap spot near the karaoke bar to grab some food, or just tell her to eat before and meet straight at the bar. No need to obsess over these...

This isn’t that complicated. Like some posters have said, you have to put in a little effort. Make a ****y funny comment about texting first. Make a date. Be normal and cool. Bang her. But DON’T start texting her first just cuz she said so. Maybe every once in awhile at an unexpected time just...

“You always beat me to it babe. You free this week? Let’s grab a drink on ___”

Pretty common story. She monkey branched, got pumped and dumped, reached back out to you for validation, changed her views on the happily ever after, and got a tattoo to deal with the trauma. Does she look any different in the eyes now? Brush it off, learn from the experience, and keep...

It’s a risk to sexualize online chats for the reasons OP mentioned. You can do it cleverly if there’s an opportunity, but it’s better to raise her interest with some good, efficient text game and lead to a meetup. She knows what you want and she knows if she’s going to fvck you already as long...

OP, the fact that you’re self aware enough to describe this and ask the question is a good thing. I’ve started diving into myself after a few years of extremely toxic relationships. Similar to you, I start out feeling powerful and validated with certain women, but when your behavior triggers...

My first experience with this type of woman is what drove me to this forum. I had experience with women before meeting her - have done just fine throughout my life - but then she changed everything. How do you know you might be dealing with a BPD (or just toxic woman)? You start looking on the...

Bottom line is they are looking for someone to take all the bad core feelings away and they constantly hope, and truly think (for awhile), it’s the next guy they meet. When those expectations aren’t met (because they can’t be), they now resent you for it and are compulsively driven to reenact...

Exactly!

Or mommy issues. A cheating mother that leaves the family (most likely because the Mom is BPD too). Imagine the core wounds that will do to a little girl.