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I've got an idea... Thinking about hitting up Sara (the girl I just dumped) to get back together. When I dropped her I said it was because I was looking for "something more serious," which was total BS, I thought I was just about get into a relationship. She had already "broken up" with me...

It's been two weeks since we broke up / last talked... Still really have feelings for her but I'm getting over it. What do you guys think of me texting her in a months time just to say what's up?

Day 11 NC...I want to text or call her so bad sometimes. I miss her so much. Haven't checked her facebook or anything, but when we broke up it was so she could get into a relationship with some other guy. That really kills me. People have advised me to wait a month and contact her and take it...

Thanks for your comment. Yeah I agree with you, it did seem pretty "rational" of her. Though once we had a conversation about asking girls out, I told her I've always been the one asked out, and she was shocked, she said she never asks guys out and is always the one asked. She even brought this...

I'd do what Pimp said. Wait a day or two and text her again. But try to make it flirty and playful. Then ask her out and see where it goes. If she's not interested then move on.

This "Benjamin Franklin" effect you speak of is known as Cognitive Dissonance in Psychology. The principle is that we want to always keep our actions in line with our beliefs, and when these two are out of sync we feel a sense of discomfort. To resolve this discomfort, one must either change...

You have a point there. With Sara she was so attracted to me she told me she wasn't seeing other guys, she just couldn't imagine being with someone else. Since I didn't care much about her, game came naturally, I was totally outcome independent, she worked for me, and I treated her like sh!t...

I definitely think girls spin plates just as much if not more than guys. I remember one tucker max story where he got a bj from a girl then she left to go on a date with another guy. Can you imagine being the second guy? Just another reason to take girls off their pedestals.

Another reason why I'm not interested in an exclusive relationship... I've realize d now I only wanted it because she was pulling away from me.

True, it's possible. But she was never "my" girl to begin with. Whatever, I'm never going to find out about him because I'm not trying to find out anything about her at all, so it really doesn't matter. But valid point.

Well I was doing the same to her, and she knew about it. Not gonna be upset about that, that would be a double standard.

Yeah agreed, that's what I'm gonna do. How did it work out with your girl?

You going to Tomorrowland?? If you are I'm jealous. Honestly I feel like you shouldn't even be going to a music festival to game, you should go for the music! Anyway gaming at these festivals is HARD. Most people are there for their passion for the music. And everyone will be massively fxxked...

Sounds like she has feelings for you but she's confused. Regardless, she's going to fall back to her disrespectful habits. You need to cut things off with her, you deserve better. It might be tough right now, but in the long run it'll be good for you. I know, I'm dealing with the same situation...

Any other opinions?

Day 8... I came SO close to breaking NC and contacting her yesterday. I was planning on calling her to meet up so I could spill my heart out to her and get her to leave her other guy... Then I realized: I couldn't let someone else have that much control over my emotions. You can read the full...

Thanks a lot man, this post confirms a lot of what I was thinking. At the time I tried hard to keep my sh!t together and act cool. Hearing that the dude was "pressuring" her to get into a relationship made me think that he must be a chump. And during our last conversation she kept saying "You're...

Ah guys im so torn. I'm really missing this girl. I was all psyched to text her to ask her to meet up but I just can't do it. I can't let someone else have so much power over me and my emotions. I just feel so conflicted. What's the best way to get over this? I'm not going to ask her to meet...

I hear what you are all saying, I think you are correct that this is mostly my ego being damaged. However, I do really care for her and I think we can have a fulfilling, long lasting relationship. I've decided I'm going to ask her to meet up and try to win her back. Let me know what you think...

Ha good point, you know what I mean, I'm ready to be exclusive with her and I'd like to give it a shot. True, college relationships are usually pretty fast...I feel like I have a good chance of poaching her from this guy since this is so fresh right now. I know absolutely nothing about this...